Algerian love rat?

[Nic25]

Hi @Nic25 sorry I'm a bit late but welcome to the forum. I won't be repeating everything that was already said but yes I smell a big fat rat. Also I completely agree with your parents, it is dangerous for you to go. Especially if you even consider staying in the apartment and if you don't know the language. If anything would have happened to you the police would have very little interest in it and like it was already pointed out it is illegal for unmarried couples to stay together. As some of the members may remember I have spoken few times about my experience with Algerian men in Tunisia. I was staying in a 5 star hotel and a group of 3 Algerian men tried to break into my room in the middle of the night, when I reported it I have been told that they are regular customers of the hotel! So was I btw. And that was a 5 star hotel so please don't even consider staying in some dodgy apartment. I would block him and move on with your life but I understand that we are all humans and we all make mistakes so if you would somehow still consider going please make sure to book into a nice hotel rather than letting him book some dodgy apartment.

Thank you for your advice, I’ve now blocked him. It was the right thing to do

 

[MH007]

Thank you for your advice, I’ve now blocked him. It was the right thing to do

How are you feeling about it all now, are you okay?

Hugs

MH x

 

[Nic25]

How are you feeling about it all now, are you okay?

Hugs

MH x

Aww thank you for asking, I’m a little sad today it’s been 9 months of talking each day and now it’s over just like that. But this sadness is nothing compared to what could of happened. Xx

 

[Mica]

Aww thank you for asking, I’m a little sad today it’s been 9 months of talking each day and now it’s over just like that. But this sadness is nothing compared to what could of happened. Xx

It can be a rollercoaster of emotions so please stay with us for support if and when needed.
Hugs

 

[GreenLeaf]

Aww thank you for asking, I’m a little sad today it’s been 9 months of talking each day and now it’s over just like that. But this sadness is nothing compared to what could of happened. Xx

This group really helps! When I found out that the man I loved for 3.5 years was a rat, I felt very bad. But when I read the stories in this group, I felt better. I stopped suffering. I was sick of rats. I realized that they are not worth our worries and tears. They will always be rats. They won't be happy! God will punish them! They will always be inferior people! And I immediately felt better. Thanks for the support! And you (Nic25) can handle it too!

 

[Butterflies]

Aww thank you for asking, I’m a little sad today it’s been 9 months of talking each day and now it’s over just like that. But this sadness is nothing compared to what could of happened. Xx

We understand that it's hard to let go and in your mind there is a what if an why this has happened to you. You still feel attached to him because he was a daily routine in sharing your mind and feelings and slowly dreaming of a future together. It will get better and that feeling will fade away as soon as you realize you escaped a bad life with him. I am happy you found the sight here just in time before you was going there to marry him. In the future you will take distance of what happened and you can see it more clearly when your feelings will turn into anger to him that he tried to con you into a fake marriage. Stay strong as you will feel the urge to contact him again and ask for an explanation but it will not change anything he will try to convince you he is honnest. Big hugs to you you are on your way to recovery xxxx

 

[Butterflies]

This group really helps! When I found out that the man I loved for 3.5 years was a rat, I felt very bad. But when I read the stories in this group, I felt better. I stopped suffering. I was sick of rats. I realized that they are not worth our worries and tears. They will always be rats. They won't be happy! God will punish them! They will always be inferior people! And I immediately felt better. Thanks for the support! And you (Nic25) can handle it too!

All these rats follow the same words and actions. Some try to be clever and change their tactics and its great we can read it all here and try to help each other to try to prevent more heartache. And yes we try to warn victims of rats but as in your case the woman doesn't believe it and it's sad hopefully she will find her way here for support or help. You came a long way @MarinaHi and I am happy you fihd support here and that you feel much better now. Hugs to you xxx

 

[Nic25]

We understand that it's hard to let go and in your mind there is a what if an why this has happened to you. You still feel attached to him because he was a daily routine in sharing your mind and feelings and slowly dreaming of a future together. It will get better and that feeling will fade away as soon as you realize you escaped a bad life with him. I am happy you found the sight here just in time before you was going there to marry him. In the future you will take distance of what happened and you can see it more clearly when your feelings will turn into anger to him that he tried to con you into a fake marriage. Stay strong as you will feel the urge to contact him again and ask for an explanation but it will not change anything he will try to convince you he is honnest. Big hugs to you you are on your way to recovery xxxx

Thank you, you are all so kind and supportive. What hurts the most, how much he didn’t care and fooled me. My mother is dying of cancer has not got long left and I shared this with him and he prayed for her, while all the time he couldn’t care one bit for me or my family. Think my sadness will soon turn to anger. Xxx

 

[Nic25]

This group really helps! When I found out that the man I loved for 3.5 years was a rat, I felt very bad. But when I read the stories in this group, I felt better. I stopped suffering. I was sick of rats. I realized that they are not worth our worries and tears. They will always be rats. They won't be happy! God will punish them! They will always be inferior people! And I immediately felt better. Thanks for the support! And you (Nic25) can handle it too!

Thank you, I will get over this xx

 

[Nic25]

It can be a rollercoaster of emotions so please stay with us for support if and when needed.
Hugs

Thank you it’s good to know I have you guys xx

 

[Butterflies]

Thank you, you are all so kind and supportive. What hurts the most, how much he didn’t care and fooled me. My mother is dying of cancer has not got long left and I shared this with him and he prayed for her, while all the time he couldn’t care one bit for me or my family. Think my sadness will soon turn to anger. Xxx

I am so sorry for your mother it must be devastating for you to know she is soon leaving this world. These rats are heartless and yes they do pretend they care but all the time they only think of themselves it's all fake and don't care one bit on how you are feeling. Wishing you much strenght when the time will come to say your last goodbye to your mother we are here for you whenever you need to chat xxx

 

[Amira]

Hi @Nic25 sorry I'm a bit late but welcome to the forum. I won't be repeating everything that was already said but yes I smell a big fat rat. Also I completely agree with your parents, it is dangerous for you to go. Especially if you even consider staying in the apartment and if you don't know the language. If anything would have happened to you the police would have very little interest in it and like it was already pointed out it is illegal for unmarried couples to stay together. As some of the members may remember I have spoken few times about my experience with Algerian men in Tunisia. I was staying in a 5 star hotel and a group of 3 Algerian men tried to break into my room in the middle of the night, when I reported it I have been told that they are regular customers of the hotel! So was I btw. And that was a 5 star hotel so please don't even consider staying in some dodgy apartment. I would block him and move on with your life but I understand that we are all humans and we all make mistakes so if you would somehow still consider going please make sure to book into a nice hotel rather than letting him book some dodgy apartment.

for a nightmare. But it does not help that they were guests at the hotel when they tried to break in. Something similar happened to me when I was on holiday in Morocco and I had booked a hotel room in a large area. Lying and sleeping when I heard that someone was trying to open the door. Got the answer that no employee would do something like that.

 

[Amira]

Even though he seems charming, you do not know what he is like when you are alone with him. Do not rent an apartment with him it is too dangerous for you.

 

[Sabrina]

Aww thank you for asking, I’m a little sad today it’s been 9 months of talking each day and now it’s over just like that. But this sadness is nothing compared to what could of happened. Xx

This was one of the hardest parts to get over the speaking, or video chatting for long periods in the day listening to their charming talk, I don’t miss it any longer and sometimes I wonder what was true of anything he says. And I pray now that he doesn’t try to talk to me.. especially before as I would be weak and still had feelings but no more! And I’m so sorry about your mom I know that has to be hard. I pray for comfort for her and strength and comfort for you

 

[Nic25]

This was one of the hardest parts to get over the speaking, or video chatting for long periods in the day listening to their charming talk, I don’t miss it any longer and sometimes I wonder what was true of anything he says. And I pray now that he doesn’t try to talk to me.. especially before as I would be weak and still had feelings but no more! And I’m so sorry about your mom I know that has to be hard. I pray for comfort for her and strength and comfort for you

Thank you for your beautiful words x

 

[SouthernGirl]

Thank you, you are all so kind and supportive. What hurts the most, how much he didn’t care and fooled me. My mother is dying of cancer has not got long left and I shared this with him and he prayed for her, while all the time he couldn’t care one bit for me or my family. Think my sadness will soon turn to anger. Xxx

I’m so sorry for your Mom, Nic25. Your loved ones are the ones who need you and your love as you need theirs. This man doesn’t deserve anything of you. Rats are heartless and they don’t care about using and hurting women who already hurt and are going through hardship. They don’t care about inflicting pain and adding more to their sorrow. They think only about themselves and they discard you once you have served your purpose.

Kuddos to you for protecting yourself and blocking him. Yes, the hurt may turn to anger soon but it’s part of the healing process. After that comes indifference and that’s what it should be. He’s not worth any feeling or thoughts from you.

 

[Nic25]

I’m so sorry for your Mom, Nic25. Your loved ones are the ones who need you and your love as you need theirs. This man doesn’t deserve anything of you. Rats are heartless and they don’t care about using and hurting women who already hurt and are going through hardship. They don’t care about inflicting sorrow and add more to their pain. They think only about themselves and they discard you once you have served your purpose.

Kuddos to you for protecting yourself and blocking him. Yes, the hurt may turn to anger soon but it’s part of the healing process. After that comes indifference and that’s what it should be. He’s not worth any feeling or thoughts from you.

Absolutely, he isn’t worth my energy. I need to concentrate on looking after my mother. She’s happy he’s out the picture but she didn’t want to interfere. Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot xx

 

[Aisha1]

Thank you, you are all so kind and supportive. What hurts the most, how much he didn’t care and fooled me. My mother is dying of cancer has not got long left and I shared this with him and he prayed for her, while all the time he couldn’t care one bit for me or my family. Think my sadness will soon turn to anger. Xxx

So sorry to hear this, my mother has fought cancer all over the body for 5 years to the point she refuses medication because she just feels exhausted, so I feel how what you go through. It’s hard, I don’t know you personally but I’ve included you and your mother in my prayers, inshallah her health with improve. Any person that shows sorrow yet fakes it will pay for this, don’t waste your time or feelings on that guy. Run from him fast and don’t let him slide back in to your life.

 

[Nic25]

So sorry to hear this, my mother has fought cancer all over the body for 5 years to the point she refuses medication because she just feels exhausted, so I feel how what you go through. It’s hard, I don’t know you personally but I’ve included you and your mother in my prayers, inshallah her health with improve. Any person that shows sorrow yet fakes it will pay for this, don’t waste your time or feelings on that guy. Run from him fast and don’t let him slide back in to your life.

Thank you, I’ve been shown so much kindness on this site. Restores my faith that the world has decent people in. Xx

 

[MH007]

Thank you, I’ve been shown so much kindness on this site. Restores my faith that the world has decent people in. Xx

So sorry to hear about your Mum but it is good that she now doesn't need to worry about your relationship.

Please read the following post, it has helped many over the years

Possible Coping Strategies - by Wallah

This is a post that has helped many many survivors and potential victims and people going through the initial rat phases, it was written by a very dear member a few years ago and I wanted to remind everyone going through the pain and potential torture to read this: I have never been the victim...

www.tunisianloverats.com

MH x

 

[Nic25]

So sorry to hear about your Mum but it is good that she now doesn't need to worry about your relationship.

Please read the following post, it has helped many over the years

Possible Coping Strategies - by Wallah

This is a post that has helped many many survivors and potential victims and people going through the initial rat phases, it was written by a very dear member a few years ago and I wanted to remind everyone going through the pain and potential torture to read this: I have never been the victim...

www.tunisianloverats.com

MH x

Wow what an amazing post, so true. They are pure evil and I see that now, no going back. Any attempts to contact me will be ignored and blocked, he is not worth another second of my time. Still hurts atm but it won’t forever

 

[Nic25]

He will contact you again you are his ticket out of Algeria. Maybe not him but one of his friends or his family be careful they don't stop easily x

Well it took him 6 days before he tried to contact me, I’m deceitful and a hypocrite and played with his heart!!

 

[Butterflies]

Well it took him 6 days before he tried to contact me, I’m deceitful and a hypocrite and played with his heart!!

That's strange i didn't think rats had a heart. He will try to play on your feelings @Nic25 don't fall for his fake charms or crying games it's all manipulation from him

 

[Nic25]

That's strange i didn't think rats had a heart. He will try to play on your feelings @Nic25 don't fall for his fake charms or crying games it's all manipulation from him

He must of asked a previous victim to send him a heart when she wouldn’t send money

That's strange i didn't think rats had a heart. He will try to play on your feelings @Nic25 don't fall for his fake charms or crying games it's all manipulation from him

 

[MH007]

Well it took him 6 days before he tried to contact me, I’m deceitful and a hypocrite and played with his heart!!

How do you feel about him contacting you, are you okay?

He will try all sorts, they know no boundaries whatsoever and will lie and lie to get what they want.

MH x

 

[Peacock]

So, he thinks after 6 days you are now desperate for him and can't bear life without him!!!!
Did you respond to him?

 

[Nic25]

How do you feel about him contacting you, are you okay?

He will try all sorts, they know no boundaries whatsoever and will lie and lie to get what they want.

MH x

I just want him to leave me alone and put it all behind me, he is the injured party, even though I’ve not told him one lie. I’m evil and worse than the devil apparently. I’ve not responded and I won’t.
xx

 

[Nic25]

So, he thinks after 6 days you are now desperate for him and can't bear life without him!!!!
Did you respond to him?

Yes apparently so, no I’ve not responded and I’m not going too, I’ve got to much doubt to risk my whole future.

xx

 

[Peacock]

Yes apparently so, no I’ve not responded and I’m not going too, I’ve got to much doubt to risk my whole future.

xx

Great that you haven't replied to him. Keep it up and one day he will realise there is no point contacting you anymore. Stay strong and determined x

 

[Nic25]

Great that you haven't replied to him. Keep it up and one day he will realise there is no point contacting you anymore. Stay strong and determined x

I must admit I’m tempted just for an argument but I can’t even be bothered, but I think me ignoring him will bother him more.