They really are a nuisance.Good afternoon @Comehere. Thank you for sharing your story with us and welcome. You’ll definitely receive support from the ladies on here. They’ve all be there and done it. As I started reading your post it all sounded romantic (especially that he already had his own visa) and sounded too good to be true. By the time I reached the end of the post I realised that it was. I know all about the ghosting. My rat did that constantly to me. He’s also keep blocking and unblocking me on WhatsApp, Facebook, Skype and evening LinkedIn. It was as if he was waiting for a response. Suddenly he’d unblock me but not say anything and he’d send me a connect request on LinkedIn and then block me before I could even respond. I never used to be the first one to respond when he unblocked me on social media. We mainly chatted on WhatsApp. He’d wait until I was online and then type a message saying, “I caught you!” He’d attempt to start chatting and I’d usually respond. We’d chat for a while and then he’d suddenly have to leave. I’d message him and the message wouldn’t be delivered (probably when he changed his sim to chat to some other women) but he’d still be online on Facebook despite being “so busy”. Towards the end he was ghosting me a lot, making his silent treatment very obvious and then expected me to be available to chat whenever he decided he was ready to return. Sadly towards the end he kept trying to have booty calls and wasn’t interested in how I was or what had been going on in my life. In the beginning he asked all these things and was attentive and caring. I told him once that once I block someone on social media (especially apps such as Facebook & Instagram) I don’t turn back. I told him I don’t go through all the people I’ve blocked (I have about 400 on Instagram..him included) and decide if I’ve “forgiven them and am willing to remove them from the naughty list“. He blocked me on LinkedIn (got to do that before I blocked him). With it being a professional platform you don’t have the option to block someone who has blocked you. I just pray he doesn’t try to contact me on there one day. I’ll quickly block his sorry arse. I’m not ghosting him...I will NOT contact him again! He may still be in my system and there may still be some hurt...but knowing what I know now there is no way I will allow him to worm his way back into my life in the form of a Hoover. I’m done!!!
Don't know why they can't just go crawl back into the whole they came from.