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Storm

Major Ratslayer
Exactly! My guess is he went away for a few days. Hence the new clothes, haircut
& request for money he said he needed. My parting gift to him was this message.
see pic. I work part-time and get paid cash. This is two years of saving it was for my wedding dress and everything
else I needed. It will now go towards a new car. He never knew about this money. This was my revenge as this is the only thing that will hurt him more than anything. MONEY !!!! View attachment 67317
I am happy for you! Congratulations on your recent liberation from your rat.
This is the ultimate revenge, very cool enjoy!
 
How are you doing now @I'm not a believer ?

MH x
Hello... So kind of you to ask. I won’t lie. I have good days and bad days. Its hard not to speak to the person you’ve spoken to every day for the past 2 1/2 years. He has tried to make contact via a friend. I didn’t respond. The réalisation that I was being used tho hurts the most. That the love wasn’t genuine. As I go about life , when a thought comes in to my head about him I remind myself how bloody stupid I was to get so sucked in by his charms. Grrrr.... never again! X
 

TulpenUitAmsterdam

Senior Rat Expert
You’re gonna get through this! It’s just tough to suddenly not have that routine of talking anymore. Him trying to reach out via his friends is just another way of violating your boundaries if you told him you wanted to be left alone. Don’t call yourself stupid, anyone could have fallen for this. They are professionals at what they do and part of that is being the most charming and alluring man you think you’ll ever meet. Just be proud you got out and you’re moving on! x
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Hello... So kind of you to ask. I won’t lie. I have good days and bad days. Its hard not to speak to the person you’ve spoken to every day for the past 2 1/2 years. He has tried to make contact via a friend. I didn’t respond. The réalisation that I was being used tho hurts the most. That the love wasn’t genuine. As I go about life , when a thought comes in to my head about him I remind myself how bloody stupid I was to get so sucked in by his charms. Grrrr.... never again! X
It's natural to have good and bad days but gradually the good days will overshadow the bad days until one day you feel completely free from this rat - I promise you, I saw my rat last year when I was visiting friends and I felt nothing NOTHING apart from thinking what was I thinking of.....

It's good that you are not responding but he will keep trying but don't respond at all.

Feeling used is natural because you were used and his love wasn't genuine but now that you understand that you will start to heal and feel disgust towards him.

You were NOT stupid one bit - as we say they are professional in their manipulation and learn techniques from each other whilst sitting in their shitty coffee shops or internet cafe.

Much love

MH x
 

Wannahelpu

Ratslayer
Why they do it Rose's? They see us as a bank. Money machine. That is their goal and if you stay with him he wil try for a visa in the future. They have zero respect for us. My rat did the same, endless asking for money for food, clothes, new fone or trainers. After I had blocked him a couple of times I had enough of the accusations, we are bad women :mad: . In their eyes we never send enough because other girlfriends ( European or other foreigners) give them a car. I have blocked him forever and he still tries contacting me. You shouldn't feel guilty it is not your responsibility to provide for him he can work instead of scamming women. Xxx
They have no talent, no ability, just laziness. They hate to work. But they like futile things, easy life, they want someone to pay luxury for ugly ones like them. Only a woman who is going through some obscure moment is not able to see how AWFUL they are. All other people see, except women that they "hypnotize".
My rat's wife is with that adulterer, despite knowing everything. And now she uses a photo of her with their child on her FB, so that they avoid exposing her because of the child. I would never expose a person, however, she likes to be tricked. And let him free to cheat other people here. I think she would need to be shocked to wake up. I will not do it, but the truth is that she will know by others. The victim always ends up believing in the rat. I hope she does not have to pay$$$ for the damage caused by her husband while he dated other women on her back, lying about being single. In public and with knowledge of his friends, including.
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Hello... So kind of you to ask. I won’t lie. I have good days and bad days. Its hard not to speak to the person you’ve spoken to every day for the past 2 1/2 years. He has tried to make contact via a friend. I didn’t respond. The réalisation that I was being used tho hurts the most. That the love wasn’t genuine. As I go about life , when a thought comes in to my head about him I remind myself how bloody stupid I was to get so sucked in by his charms. Grrrr.... never again! X
You were not stupid. He courted you and he was charming and gave you a lot of attention and naturally you fell in love and your feelings were genuine.
It’s hard now and you miss him but remember that you miss a person who didn’t exist. You miss the good man that you thought he was. You got into the habit to see him everyday for so long, so that’s normal to miss him. It will fade with time as you get in a new routine where he’s not part of anymore. You are on the right track and you‘ve got this.
Now there is no one to pester you, waste your time, lie to you and hassle you with money requests. That is good!!
I hope you have a good support system, friends, and at least one good friend whom you can talk to about anything. It’s important that your self esteem and confidence are restored and being with good people who genuinely care will help you feeling good about yourself again. You’ve been so strong and you have to be proud of yourself because you had the courage to say no, that’s enough. Please stay here and keep us updated.
 
You were not stupid. He courted you and he was charming and gave you a lot of attention and naturally you fell in love and your feelings were genuine.
It’s hard now and you miss him but remember that you miss a person who didn’t exist. You miss the good man that you thought he was. You got into the habit to see him everyday for so long, so that’s normal to miss him. It will fade with time as you get in a new routine where he’s not part of anymore. You are on the right track and you‘ve got this.
Now there is no one to pester you, waste your time, lie to you and hassle you with money requests. That is good!!
I hope you have a good support system, friends, and at least one good friend whom you can talk to about anything. It’s important that your self esteem and confidence are restored and being with good people who genuinely care will help you feeling good about yourself again. You’ve been so strong and you have to be proud of yourself because you had the courage to say no, that’s enough. Please stay here and keep us updated.
Thank you for your kind words Southern girl . Thank you to all the members for your support. It's very much appreciated.
I feel I am grieving for someone who still living. He's probably out there having a good time & im as miserable as hell.
Will keep you all updated as & when. XX
 

simple

Major Ratslayer
Thank you for your kind words Southern girl . Thank you to all the members for your support. It's very much appreciated.
I feel I am grieving for someone who still living. He's probably out there having a good time & im as miserable as hell.
Will keep you all updated as & when. XX
Your doing a good job looking after yourself ,,Your greiving for the make believe world he tried to con you into...And im pretty sure hes not having a good time ,you gave him a big slap in the face ,when you showed him a beautiful shiney new car and lots of cash on your table...Hes more miserable than you right now,i guarentee that ,, thinking ,how did i lose all that money .Thats my girl !!
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Thank you for your kind words Southern girl . Thank you to all the members for your support. It's very much appreciated.
I feel I am grieving for someone who still living. He's probably out there having a good time & im as miserable as hell.
Will keep you all updated as & when. XX
Thank you, I’m not a believer. I agree with @simple that he mustn’t be having a good time right now. He must be very upset. You dumped him and showed him that you weren’t going to take his lies and poor treatment any longer and his pride was hurt. Also, he’s a cunning and mean person and these people can’t be happy. They don’t feel joy and peace because all there is in their heart and mind is darkness and evilness. He’s no exception. I read your posts since the beginning and you described well what he did and said to you. His manipulation and his blatant ridiculous lies said everything about his character.
You definitely dodged a bullet. Even though you’re going through a difficult time now and readjusting to your life which is a difficult process, many positive change are happening in you that you don’t see yet. Better times are lying ahead of you and life will soon feel good again. Many hugs to you, beautiful lady.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Thank you for your kind words Southern girl . Thank you to all the members for your support. It's very much appreciated.
I feel I am grieving for someone who still living. He's probably out there having a good time & im as miserable as hell.
Will keep you all updated as & when. XX
Hi @I'm not a believer

How's things going for you now - feeling any happier?

MH x
 

Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
Exactly! My guess is he went away for a few days. Hence the new clothes, haircut
& request for money he said he needed. My parting gift to him was this message.
see pic. I work part-time and get paid cash. This is two years of saving it was for my wedding dress and everything
else I needed. It will now go towards a new car. He never knew about this money. This was my revenge as this is the only thing that will hurt him more than anything. MONEY !!!! View attachment 67317
You go girl!!! This is your money, your life! He doesn’t deserve sharing your good things, once a liar always a liar, welcome to the real YOU... Stronger and Wiser xx @I'm not a believer
 
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