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Stephaineprice

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Well I have been in a relationship for 1 year now and I known this man for over 7 years we were good friends to begin with and then lost contact I got back in contact with him last year he is Tunisian but living in Europe we have meet up about 4 times in a year due to the virus can’t travel I am British
he got a lot off girls in his Facebook also instagram and I have found that he have loved other girls pictures he knows I’m very insucure about myself as I was married for 4 years to a Arab man and he was very controlling wouldn’t let me do a thing
So I waisted few years on that being married to my ex I’m just worried that this ain’t going anywhere and I just feels
So stressed out as he always saying so what if I love woman pictures don’t mean i am cheating on you that makes me even
Worse and over thinking things he tells me he loves me and want to marry me so on but I just dont know why todo at this point as
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Well I have been in a relationship for 1 year now and I known this man for over 7 years we were good friends to begin with and then lost contact I got back in contact with him last year he is Tunisian but living in Europe we have meet up about 4 times in a year due to the virus can’t travel I am British
he got a lot off girls in his Facebook also instagram and I have found that he have loved other girls pictures he knows I’m very insucure about myself as I was married for 4 years to a Arab man and he was very controlling wouldn’t let me do a thing
So I waisted few years on that being married to my ex I’m just worried that this ain’t going anywhere and I just feels
So stressed out as he always saying so what if I love woman pictures don’t mean i am cheating on you that makes me even
Worse and over thinking things he tells me he loves me and want to marry me so on but I just dont know why todo at this point as
Hi Stepaineprice welcome you talked a little bit before about your ex so you are aware Arabs are jeaulous and some are controlling. You shouldn't have to feel insecure about him he should act in a way you don't have to be insecure. Do you know how it comes he lives in europ? Liking other women's pictures is not giving you a nice feeling he wouldn't like it if you did that on another man's picture
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
If him having contact with other women and loving other women's photos is causing you stress and he continues doing it, then he is disrespecting you. If he shows so little respect at this early stage in your relationship then what does the future hold?? He knows you are insecure and will use that to manipulate you. You are clearly not happy so this is not the relationship for you.
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
Hi Stepaineprice welcome you talked a little bit before about your ex so you are aware Arabs are jeaulous and some are controlling. You shouldn't have to feel insecure about him he should act in a way you don't have to be insecure. Do you know how it comes he lives in europ? Liking other women's pictures is not giving you a nice feeling he wouldn't like it if you did that on another man's picture

yes he got a visa and I have said about me liking other men pics in Facebook and he have said he trust me lol but someone comment on my picture in Arab and I didn’t See the txt what was said so I looked and he was like aww look your boyfriend comment on your picture as this person commented on few off my pictures what I have posted think he didn’t really like that to be honest but I don’t want to give up on us, as I have spoken to his mother and wen we was together we FaceTime his mum as before didn’t tell his family about me few years back but his family know about me now but he got pictures off us together in his instagram but won’t put them in Facebook off us as i am waiting for my divorce to go though so maybe that is the reason as he said he won’t put in Facebook but have in his instagram ‍♀️
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
yes he got a visa and I have said about me liking other men pics in Facebook and he have said he trust me lol but someone comment on my picture in Arab and I didn’t See the txt what was said so I looked and he was like aww look your boyfriend comment on your picture as this person commented on few off my pictures what I have posted think he didn’t really like that to be honest but I don’t want to give up on us, as I have spoken to his mother and wen we was together we FaceTime his mum as before didn’t tell his family about me few years back but his family know about me now but he got pictures off us together in his instagram but won’t put them in Facebook off us as i am waiting for my divorce to go though so maybe that is the reason as he said he won’t put in Facebook but have in his instagram ‍♀️
He has a visa? From a another mariage or in another way ? Are you older then him and do you have children? I am sorry for the questions but this way we can give you a better answer to you when we know more about the man
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
He never been married or have children
Any yes I have a child and there is a 5 year age gap between us he have met my son and he FaceTime me everyday an talks to my son as my boy loves talking to him everyday
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
He never been married or have children
Any yes I have a child and there is a 5 year age gap between us he have met my son and he FaceTime me everyday an talks to my son as my boy loves talking to him everyday
Face timing with him or his family is something we all did with our rats. Why are you here? You have trust issues? Or is your gut telling you there is something wrong?
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
Not so much trust issues it a gut feeling more than anything as I just don’t want to end up being in the same boat as before with my ex husband as he knows what I went though being married to my ex as I meet him before I got married and he was saying my husband wanted a visa an he proven one thing for sure that true but I know this one don’t want a visa as he got one before I got bk in contact and though I was happy married
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Not so much trust issues it a gut feeling more than anything as I just don’t want to end up being in the same boat as before with my ex husband as he knows what I went though being married to my ex as I meet him before I got married and he was saying my husband wanted a visa an he proven one thing for sure that true but I know this one don’t want a visa as he got one before I got bk in contact and though I was happy married
Just be careful as you don't want to be in the same situation as before. They are very convincing to let you believe they are honest men. Your ex was Algerian I believe? How did the tunisian come to Europe? Through family?
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
Always, always trust your gut feeling. If things don't feel right, it usually doesn't end up right. You don't need another man making you feel bad and hurting you. Your little boy doesn't want an unhappy mum. You know the red flag signs, please take notice of them x
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
Just be careful as you don't want to be in the same situation as before. They are very convincing to let you believe they are honest men. Your ex was Algerian I believe? How did the tunisian come to Europe? Through family?
Yes my ex husband is
And yes he got few family in Europe but his parents visit him few times a year he is happy we’re he is living but I do need to think about wat I really wants as my ex is refusing to give me my divorce at the moment as he got a new girlfriend but won’t accept the divorce as I have tried 3 times and he have left his country and I don’t know we’re he is as none off his family will tell me as they can’t speak a word off English
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Yes my ex husband is
And yes he got few family in Europe but his parents visit him few times a year he is happy we’re he is living but I do need to think about wat I really wants as my ex is refusing to give me my divorce at the moment as he got a new girlfriend but won’t accept the divorce as I have tried 3 times and he have left his country and I don’t know we’re he is as none off his family will tell me as they can’t speak a word off English
I am sorry you are in such a bad situation with your ex. I don't know what you can do about the divorce from your ex as I don't know the law about it from Algeria. But I am sure you have to think about it all as it will be a problem for your boyfriend. Keep your eyes open to red flags and be careful, all the women he has on Facebook or Instagram is not a good sign to me
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
He never been married or have children
Any yes I have a child and there is a 5 year age gap between us he have met my son and he FaceTime me everyday an talks to my son as my boy loves talking to him everyday
Hi! Welcome to the forum, I’m going to try to say this in the best way possible, you already know how Arab culture is regarding religion and traditions, Tunisians are a little open minded but still they have traditions they stick to.
Some of them don’t like to call themselves Arabs but Berbers... regardless of the circumstances the fact is you’re still married and that’s a red flag, he should not have a relationship with you. Please don’t rush, set your child as priority, take time and Be objective.
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
Yes my son is my priority an I think deep down he new this and yes I know lot about the culture as I know Tunisian are more laid back than Algerians as my ex chose to cheat on me well I was pregnant an meeting other women in Tunis well looking after my son in the uk this is the reason why I left him and was on my own for a year then began a relationship an filed a divorce few times n not getting no we’re
 

Storm

Major Ratslayer
Yes my son is my priority an I think deep down he new this and yes I know lot about the culture as I know Tunisian are more laid back than Algerians as my ex chose to cheat on me well I was pregnant an meeting other women in Tunis well looking after my son in the uk this is the reason why I left him and was on my own for a year then began a relationship an filed a divorce few times n not getting no we’re

That must be so awful being stuck in a marriage that isn't wanted and now you may be dealing with someone who isn't being genuine as well.
I don't know how a divorce works so forgive me but is there a way to seek legal advice on next steps?
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Well, guys Tunisians or not do these sh*ts online. They like pictures as long as it is just liking hmmmmkay even if I am against it. It’s hard not to get paranoid.

Keep in mind that for 90% of men what happens online isn’t real, it’s virtual. They can flirt with other women and still be ´faithful’ even though we women don’t have the same definition of faithful.

Check and double check whenever you can, never trust anyone blindly, listen to what he says but don’t believe it as long as you have a doubt try to clear your doubts. He won’t be the one to reassure or comfort you especially if they consider this as a non existant topic.
There is nothing you can about it, I would feel just like you.

Try to explain to him that it hurts you a lot and if he truly loved you and respected you he would at least stop liking pictures of women he doesn’t care about.

Never confront him even with evidence, just speak generally and calmly, as a wise grown up and mature person (yeah it is hard not to get emotional) whether he lies or not he will always find a good excuse so it is no use listening to him. You just talk about yourself.

Ask him how he would feel if you did the same.

Would he be jealous ?
Would he trust you ?

Do you experience other problems with him ?
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
No not really and I have noticed that he was a bit jealous as someone comment on one off my picture other day and he even like the comment that the man put and said aw ur boyfriend make comment on ur picture so that was a bit off jealousy there the way he said it to me but he have so many Tunisian woman in his Facebook and thy all
Likes his pics an I did noticed that he made a care emoji on one off the girls pics I haven’t said anything yet to him because we been arguing a lot lately but the person who liked my pics I ain’t removed him as I think he wanted me to block him but I want him to feel how I does x
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
The major red flag I see is he accepted you being a married woman with an Arab man. Regardless if you two are separated, still married. A good Muslim would never get involved with a taken woman.
If he is giving extra red flags such as plenty of women on his social media it only reveals what he really feels, he is not a committed man.
:(
 

Myriam1

Major Ratslayer
@Stephaineprice a man that loves you will never make you feel anxious or sad, will never make you question your relationship with him. So this one is NOT a good man for you. He knows you were weak before in your first mariage and wants to take advantage of you in some waay that suits him. Drop him, concentrate on your child!!!!
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
No not really and I have noticed that he was a bit jealous as someone comment on one off my picture other day and he even like the comment that the man put and said aw ur boyfriend make comment on ur picture so that was a bit off jealousy there the way he said it to me but he have so many Tunisian woman in his Facebook and thy all
Likes his pics an I did noticed that he made a care emoji on one off the girls pics I haven’t said anything yet to him because we been arguing a lot lately but the person who liked my pics I ain’t removed him as I think he wanted me to block him but I want him to feel how I does x

I have been through this before and there is no real solution.
Even if he deletes and blocks them we will always have a doubt. Try again to explain rationally how you feel without blaming him, be strict that you won’t tolerate this lack of respect anymore. Don’t mention any girl in particular. Don’t attack him. Have that conversation face to face not over the phone or online.
If you see any difference, it is good news (maybe, still a chance he has other accounts, it never ends...), if not you know what to expect and it will be time to make a serious decision about the relationship. If he keeps repeating doing something that hurts you, he is either very immature and careless or a big POS. Any way he doesn’t deserve you.

Keep your friend list intact and socialise as you please, he isn’t asking for your permission so why should you ?
 

Stephaineprice

Active Member
Ye so true well had a chat about it tonight and I did say u make me feel like shit wen u loving other woman’s pics and it not nice for you to do this when we’re in a relationship he said sorry and he won’t do it no more we will see in time if he keeps to his word if he don’t and I find out more things on him then I know he don’t love me like he says he does so How hard it will be to end things but not going though what I did before x
 

Storm

Major Ratslayer
Ye so true well had a chat about it tonight and I did say u make me feel like Shite wen u loving other woman’s pics and it not nice for you to do this when we’re in a relationship he said sorry and he won’t do it no more we will see in time if he keeps to his word if he don’t and I find out more things on him then I know he don’t love me like he says he does so How hard it will be to end things but not going though what I did before x

Time will tell and you will know one way or another what he is, there are just things that are obvious to me and I don't want to see you hurt because you've been through enough already.
 

Yzapaty

Major Ratslayer
Well I have been in a relationship for 1 year now and I known this man for over 7 years we were good friends to begin with and then lost contact I got back in contact with him last year he is Tunisian but living in Europe we have meet up about 4 times in a year due to the virus can’t travel I am British
he got a lot off girls in his Facebook also instagram and I have found that he have loved other girls pictures he knows I’m very insucure about myself as I was married for 4 years to a Arab man and he was very controlling wouldn’t let me do a thing
So I waisted few years on that being married to my ex I’m just worried that this ain’t going anywhere and I just feels
So stressed out as he always saying so what if I love woman pictures don’t mean i am cheating on you that makes me even
Worse and over thinking things he tells me he loves me and want to marry me so on but I just dont know why todo at this point as
I am so sorry you are going through this . I know they can married up to 4 times tunisia is a part of africa where men can married up to 4 times. Also you could be married with someone that is married already. In tunisia. Wife's will let their man married in other countries to give their family a better life. They just want papers and that's it. If i was you i will be very careful. Please do.more research. This asshole that I know is a tunusian rat. Ghof rafrafi or ghofran rafrafi. He uses all kinds of names just to get in woman pants.
 

Yzapaty

Major Ratslayer
I have tried it but they have said until I know his address then they can’t do nothing will be 5 years in April so I can divorce him with out his say
good evening i believe if you call the tunisian consul or gk to a lawyer and he should be able to divorce you. Good luck and watchout for TUNISIAN RATS. THIS IS ONE OF THE. ghof rafrafi. ghofran rafrai or _ghof_777 f you see this watch out please. And spread the word.
 
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