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Help – I don’t want to be another victim, but…

Moonshine

Major Ratslayer
He has a face only a mother could love!! NOT :D:D:D:D
Can't give this rat away for free, they really tried but this one has no luck :D:D:D:D
they are stuck with the rat for the rest of their lives OMG I feel really sorry for them
to be honest, it must be a living nightmareView attachment 71380
Omg omg that's the rats at 30 years old omg they get even more uglier as tbe years pass by
Hmmm earth worm hahah good name for rats
And ffs the likeness off this to the rats is amazing hahaha
Love this !!!!
 

taleo528

Rat Expert
Imagine if you stayed the course with the rat like some of us, they have been our absolute ruin
and they demand more and more of you as time goes on
you will not get anything back from him except more scamming.
I was asked recently by a friend why my ex-rat who is turning 50 (still lives with parents) this year had no children and no fulfilling life goals as I have had
that's a good question?
How shameful it looks for my ex-rat, she said at this point he should be having grown children
and looking after his own.
Being the oldest son and oldest sibling its a shame for him to rely on his parents, brothers and sisters
and its a burden on everyone else.
He is perfectly capable of working for himself if need be, this rat had networks in his own family
and friends!!
Well its because he still scams to this day, but nothing substantial has happened.
he deserves the hell he gave me and others as he sits in the hell of his own making!!
Still complaining, still scamming and in the same place he began!!
I can’t believe he’s 50 and still living at home! And still scamming? Wow… he should definitely be taking care of his parents or at least providing assistance. But if they still cater to him, especially his Mom… he’ll never change.

Imagine being the ringleader, creating a network like that and waiting for the next one to turn 18, so he can begin scamming… so sad.
 

taleo528

Rat Expert
Wishing you well with your surgery in 3 weeks and hope it all goes smoothly @taleo528 xxx

If he finds out his friends are blocked he will try to find a way to get to you. Rats don't like to be blocked or ignored. If you are ready for it the best way is to leave him blocked and step away from this man and all the situations he created with his lies. He's not worth it
Living with stress and a broken heart is the after affect from being in contact with them. You just can't believe what happened and why these people do these things.
Thank you so much! Your well wishes are appreciated. xx

I don’t know what he’s going to do now. I deactivated all social media, except Snapchat, so he doesn’t have a way to contact me. He can’t do anything with Snapchat unless I accept a request, so… oh well! He has contacted me many times via fake accounts, friends’ accounts, changing bios to get my attention, etc. The one thing we never did was fully exchange phone numbers and I’m so grateful for that! And by fully I mean I never gave him my number but he gave me his number. :p

I wasn’t ready to do all that but I couldn’t handle the anxiety anymore. I still have anxiety, that stupid lump in my throat, but I know it’ll go away over time.
 

Astarisborn

Major Ratslayer
Well we wear a 20dinar on our ring finger or the first time you send to WU automatically wife status
You mean Rip off Westerners Union or Greedy Gram??
20 dinars for a cheap silver ring in the Madina, that the rat ripped off us so in a way he gave us a present with our own money LOL
when things are just starting you are wifey ya omri ya habitbi zawji blah blah blah
then they go on Fakebook knowing you a week and changing their relationship status to MARRIED LOL
when you don't do what they want so soon after meeting the rats put their relationship to SINGLE
back and forth between changing marital status 100 times
I know what it should be , COMPLICATED AS HELL!!
make up your mind rats which is it??
thought that your great love was so big what did money have to do with it???

you would think the rats could live off their great love so why give them anything??? :D :D :D :D
 
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Astarisborn

Major Ratslayer
I can’t believe he’s 50 and still living at home! And still scamming? Wow… he should definitely be taking care of his parents or at least providing assistance. But if they still cater to him, especially his Mom… he’ll never change.

Imagine being the ringleader, creating a network like that and waiting for the next one to turn 18, so he can begin scamming… so sad.
rat mothers coddle their sons they never grow up to ever act like mature adults
I heard the rat yelling at his mother, they see their fathers do the same crap
this is the problem, they act entitled and get away from being accountable for anything
all throughout their life
It could be something simple like a small disagreement and off the rat would fly
into his rages , I mean really??
I mean I was told I was wrong about the weather, if I saw something
wrong he would tell me I never seen it and humiliate me for even saying
anything?
who can even get along with this rat, I was tearing my hair out
what the hell?
@taleo thank your lucky stars that you ended it because it only gets worse
and who needs the stress, life is hard enough as it is
 
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Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Thank you so much! Your well wishes are appreciated. xx

I don’t know what he’s going to do now. I deactivated all social media, except Snapchat, so he doesn’t have a way to contact me. He can’t do anything with Snapchat unless I accept a request, so… oh well! He has contacted me many times via fake accounts, friends’ accounts, changing bios to get my attention, etc. The one thing we never did was fully exchange phone numbers and I’m so grateful for that! And by fully I mean I never gave him my number but he gave me his number. :p

I wasn’t ready to do all that but I couldn’t handle the anxiety anymore. I still have anxiety, that stupid lump in my throat, but I know it’ll go away over time.
You will be fine, you will think about the nice things he said to you but just be glad you cut it off because they just drag it out. Seems like I would have mine on my mind after we were finished.. the last time and final time but never the less it’s like I was thinking him up somehow he would try to contact me, but he doesn’t anymore so it takes time but you were smart to cut it off!! That lump will go away!
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
You mean Rip off Westerners Union or Greedy Gram??
20 dinars for a cheap silver ring in the Madina, that the rat ripped off us so in a way he gave us a present with our own money LOL
when things are just starting you are wifey ya omri ya habitbi zawji blah blah blah
then they go on Fakebook knowing you a week and changing their relationship status to MARRIED LOL
when you don't do what they want so soon after meeting the rats put their relationship to SINGLE
back and forth between changing marital status 100 times
I know what it should be , COMPLICATED AS HELL!!
make up your mind rats which is it??
thought that your great love was so big what did money have to do with it???

you would think the rats could live off their great love so why give them anything??? :D :D :D :D
They should have a fake status!!
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
rat mothers coddle their sons they never grow up to ever act like mature adults
I heard the rat yelling at his mother, they see their fathers do the same crap
this is the problem, they act entitled and get away from being accountable for anything
all throughout their life
It could be something simple like a small disagreement and off the rat would fly
into his rages , I mean really??
I mean I was told I was wrong about the weather, if I saw something
wrong he would tell me I never seen it and humiliate me for even saying
anything?
who can even get along with this rat, I was tearing my hair out
what the hell?
@taleo thank your lucky stars that you ended it because it only gets worse
and who needs the stress, life is hard enough as it is
Life is hard enough without a relationship with a liar, the language barrier, the trust issue a thousand miles away. They tell you anything and you are just left to trust what they say, I mean who can you turn to? And you learn on social media after you become a private investigator that the pig was a liar a cheat a scammer! Life is great without them;)
 

Moonshine

Major Ratslayer
You mean Rip off Westerners Union or Greedy Gram??
20 dinars for a cheap silver ring in the Madina, that the rat ripped off us so in a way he gave us a present with our own money LOL
when things are just starting you are wifey ya omri ya habitbi zawji blah blah blah
then they go on Fakebook knowing you a week and changing their relationship status to MARRIED LOL
when you don't do what they want so soon after meeting the rats put their relationship to SINGLE
back and forth between changing marital status 100 times
I know what it should be , COMPLICATED AS HELL!!
make up your mind rats which is it??
thought that your great love was so big what did money have to do with it???

you would think the rats could live off their great love so why give them anything??? :D :D :D :D
So true haha
 

Moonshine

Major Ratslayer
Life is hard enough without a relationship with a liar, the language barrier, the trust issue a thousand miles away. They tell you anything and you are just left to trust what they say, I mean who can you turn to? And you learn on social media after you become a private investigator that the pig was a liar a cheat a scammer! Life is great without them;)
The silence kills u at beginning but after doing it for years you began to enjoy it more and think less and less about the rat in those silent moods they have
It's silence when u say no or refuse to give
Or reuse / can't visit again 2 weeks after coming home from last visit
Or u won't send through mg/wu
Or he lied and u tell him truth
Ratty said something u correct him
Any little thing sends him into a silent frenzy mood mostly it's about money giving sending demanding visits
Don't react leave the rat let him Sulk
Don't call dont message
With a rat nothing is about you it's all about them attention seeking *******
Good or bad attention they relish in it all
Simply answer or advice
Dont give ratty attention
They hate this
100% pure teenage tantrums
Leave them to it !
 

Moonshine

Major Ratslayer
Life is hard enough without a relationship with a liar, the language barrier, the trust issue a thousand miles away. They tell you anything and you are just left to trust what they say, I mean who can you turn to? And you learn on social media after you become a private investigator that the pig was a liar a cheat a scammer! Life is great without them;)
Long distance relationship can be beautiful amazing love
But not with a Tunisian Love Rat
It's not about culture/ religion they dont even respect any off these . They don't act alone they always have family to back up the rats lies fakery, these rats they all act the same way do the same things, words all the same, greed same, same demands ,
and they dress act sound the same .
You think yours is not rat, wait a few years after marriage u will see the silence breaks into ghosting and one day they will disappear without trace .
The true Arabic men would never do any off what the rats do but they are heavily out wrighed with the rats a sad place when the rats take over the goodness off Tunisia
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Thank you so much! Your well wishes are appreciated. xx

I don’t know what he’s going to do now. I deactivated all social media, except Snapchat, so he doesn’t have a way to contact me. He can’t do anything with Snapchat unless I accept a request, so… oh well! He has contacted me many times via fake accounts, friends’ accounts, changing bios to get my attention, etc. The one thing we never did was fully exchange phone numbers and I’m so grateful for that! And by fully I mean I never gave him my number but he gave me his number. :p

I wasn’t ready to do all that but I couldn’t handle the anxiety anymore. I still have anxiety, that stupid lump in my throat, but I know it’ll go away over time.
The lump in your throat will fade away, give it some time and try to focus on yourself and healing, healing from a broken heart, healing from your surgery and your trust in humans. The internet can be dangerous, lots of people are there to deceive you, hurt you, or to get something of you.
After my on-line experience with the rat I don't spend much time anymore on the internet. It's actually quite peaceful and relaxing.
Stay strong @taleo528 ,you will be curious after a while. Curious to know if he will try to contact you. If your social media is active again he will be there.
They don't easily go away, some rats contact you after months.
 

taleo528

Rat Expert
Update – I reactivated IG because I didn’t think it was fair to restrict myself. I sent him a message, said what I needed to say and just as I was about to block him, he replied. In so many words, he told me I would regret everything, he didn’t need to explain because he knew the truth and then said “goodbye for good.” He blocked me after that.

The manipulation is unreal. He knew exactly what he was doing by not giving me an explanation. I’m still hysterical and my heart just hurts. I know I’m going to get through this and that it had to happen… but right now, in this moment, I hate that he’s gone. I’ll be shocked if he reaches out at some point. He has tried to come back multiple times in the past after I ended things with him last year, but he hasn’t ever been the one to leave first. That’s why I don’t think he’ll be back.

Anyway, thank you again for everything. I need to decompress. This hurts so much more than I thought it would, for many reasons. When my Dad passed away suddenly, I was unable to say goodbye… and all those emotions came rushing back because I feel like I was abandoned again but in a different way.
 

taleo528

Rat Expert
You will be fine, you will think about the nice things he said to you but just be glad you cut it off because they just drag it out. Seems like I would have mine on my mind after we were finished.. the last time and final time but never the less it’s like I was thinking him up somehow he would try to contact me, but he doesn’t anymore so it takes time but you were smart to cut it off!! That lump will go away!
The part about him being on your mind and then contacting you… that’s exactly what would happen with him and me. We’ve always had this strange connection with each other and my intuition knew when he’d be coming back.

I know I’m probably going to sound crazy and it really depends on your beliefs, but I believe in past lives, soulmates, etc. I saw a tarot card reader before “meeting” him and she said a past life soulmate would be coming into my life but… he would be a karmic soulmate. We’ve apparently met in each lifetime for various reasons… I swear it’s him.

On two different occasions I was thinking about him and had crazy anxiety… he contacted me both times, within hours, from fake accounts, saying he knew he was on my mind, he could feel it. And this was when I hated him, like really hated him and was so angry with him. This also happened multiple times when we were together.

Him and I have a connection I can’t explain. Yes, he’s a rat… but even if he never contacts me again, I know we’ll always be connected at a spiritual level and as of now, that concerns me.

Anyway, I’m happy to hear yours doesn’t contact you anymore! I hope life has been treating you really well since then.
 
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Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Update – I reactivated IG because I didn’t think it was fair to restrict myself. I sent him a message, said what I needed to say and just as I was about to block him, he replied. In so many words, he told me I would regret everything, he didn’t need to explain because he knew the truth and then said “goodbye for good.” He blocked me after that.

The manipulation is unreal. He knew exactly what he was doing by not giving me an explanation. I’m still hysterical and my heart just hurts. I know I’m going to get through this and that it had to happen… but right now, in this moment, I hate that he’s gone. I’ll be shocked if he reaches out at some point. He has tried to come back multiple times in the past after I ended things with him last year, but he hasn’t ever been the one to leave first. That’s why I don’t think he’ll be back.

Anyway, thank you again for everything. I need to decompress. This hurts so much more than I thought it would, for many reasons. When my Dad passed away suddenly, I was unable to say goodbye… and all those emotions came rushing back because I feel like I was abandoned again but in a different way.
Don’t let him get to you like that! It’s hard but he is not right he sounds like he was just awaiting a message from you to say what he needed to! Don’t let him come back because surprise, he will probably try . Just know you deserve more and you don’t need to say goodbye to him he said it all ! If he does try to get back to you just totally ignore him! You take all the time you need we are here for you, but know that this is for the best❣️ you just don’t realize it yet
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
The part about him being on your mind and then contacting you… that’s exactly what would happen with him and me. We’ve always had this strange connection with each other and my intuition knew when he’d be coming back.

I know I’m probably going to sound crazy and it really depends on your beliefs, but I believe in past lives, soulmates, etc. I saw a tarot card reader before “meeting” him and she said a past life soulmate would be coming into my life but… he would be a karmic soulmate. We’ve apparently met in each lifetime for various reasons… I swear it’s him.

On two different occasions I was thinking about him and had crazy anxiety… he contacted me both times, within hours, from fake accounts, saying he knew he was on my mind, he could feel it. And this was when I hated him, like really hated him and was so angry with him. This also happened multiple times when we were together.

Him and I have a connection I can’t explain. Yes, he’s a rat… but even if he never contacts me again, I know we’ll always be connected at a spiritual level and as of now, that concerns me.

Anyway, I’m happy to hear yours doesn’t contact you anymore! I hope life has been treating you really well since then.
I understand totally it was the same way with me and mine.. it was strange but when it was over for me and he tried to contact me it made my stomach hurt it gave me anxiety, I sometimes would troll and I would get over it . Someone sent me a message couple weeks ago I’m not sure it was him, it had very little info but had his town as mine he used to do that and open accounts with my name just weird stuff like that. I looked at it and finally deleted it. His music was Drake “Gods plan” love that song. It doesn’t bother me now once in a while I will think of what we had and how he destroyed it. Or what I thought we had;)!! So I’m very good as far as tarot readings I watch utube on a few of things that are going on. But I’ve never had a reading but I know where you are coming from. It will get better and pray he leaves your mind because that’s all that connects you two now. You’ve got this!!
 

Astarisborn

Major Ratslayer
The part about him being on your mind and then contacting you… that’s exactly what would happen with him and me. We’ve always had this strange connection with each other and my intuition knew when he’d be coming back.

I know I’m probably going to sound crazy and it really depends on your beliefs, but I believe in past lives, soulmates, etc. I saw a tarot card reader before “meeting” him and she said a past life soulmate would be coming into my life but… he would be a karmic soulmate. We’ve apparently met in each lifetime for various reasons… I swear it’s him.

On two different occasions I was thinking about him and had crazy anxiety… he contacted me both times, within hours, from fake accounts, saying he knew he was on my mind, he could feel it. And this was when I hated him, like really hated him and was so angry with him. This also happened multiple times when we were together.

Him and I have a connection I can’t explain. Yes, he’s a rat… but even if he never contacts me again, I know we’ll always be connected at a spiritual level and as of now, that concerns me.

Anyway, I’m happy to hear yours doesn’t contact you anymore! I hope life has been treating you really well since then.
the rats sure are karmic, it is what it is and some people are never meant to be with us no matter what you do
there is a lesson to be learned
He knew he was on your mind because that's what they want to live in your head
It's like they know how to play with your head and heart at that same time.
there are red flags you seen, things you question in the beginning
imagine going through more of that
You are worth more than this like I said before
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Update – I reactivated IG because I didn’t think it was fair to restrict myself. I sent him a message, said what I needed to say and just as I was about to block him, he replied. In so many words, he told me I would regret everything, he didn’t need to explain because he knew the truth and then said “goodbye for good.” He blocked me after that.

The manipulation is unreal. He knew exactly what he was doing by not giving me an explanation. I’m still hysterical and my heart just hurts. I know I’m going to get through this and that it had to happen… but right now, in this moment, I hate that he’s gone. I’ll be shocked if he reaches out at some point. He has tried to come back multiple times in the past after I ended things with him last year, but he hasn’t ever been the one to leave first. That’s why I don’t think he’ll be back.

Anyway, thank you again for everything. I need to decompress. This hurts so much more than I thought it would, for many reasons. When my Dad passed away suddenly, I was unable to say goodbye… and all those emotions came rushing back because I feel like I was abandoned again but in a different way.
It's the perfect example of how these rats work. He activated his IG just to say what he wanted to say. Him blocking you means nothing it's just a matter of time and he will be back, he probably has another victim and she's more willing to do what he wants . The mind games rats play with a woman are horrible.
Getting through a break up with a rat is different than a normal break up. The manipulation from a rat is something you can't explain to other people if they don't know anything about it. Bezznes is a cruel mind game.
I'm sorry you had to deal with all of this, you had a gut feeling it wouldn't end well but in your heart you where hoping it wasn't all true.
You investigated him and actually you should be proud of yourself.
You will miss him, cry for him, just can't believe what he did to you but ask yourself, what are you missing?
Rats mimic you, they pretend to like the same things you do, think the way you do, believe in soulmates, he probably told you he was thinking about you at the exact same moment you did.
You will miss the man he pretended to be, it's not the real man. He's an imagination he created in your mind.
As soon as you allow yourself to be angry at his manipulation you will realize he tricked you. Tricked you he loved you, wanted you.
Let your heart heal, take your time.
I'm sorry it brought back the sad memories of the way your father passed away and you couldn't say your last goodbye. Your father will be remembered by you in a sweet spiritual way so you can cope with it when time passes by.
A virtual hug to you @taleo528 ❤️
 

Mica

Administrator
Staff member
.I know I’m probably going to sound crazy and it really depends on your beliefs, but I believe in past lives, soulmates, etc. I saw a tarot card reader before “meeting” him and she said a past life soulmate would . be coming into my life but… he would be a karmic .. We’ve apparently met in each lifetime for various reasons… I swear it’s him.

BOn two different occasions I was thinking about him and

I had a similar thing years ago in the UK. Very strong connection to someone, we often knew what the other was thinking etc. It was a very passionate relationship. We lived together for 4 years but, looking back, it started to get controlling and bordering on violent even before we bought a house together :( Once we bought the house it became violent very quickly, but (because of the connection??) It felt impossible to leave him :(
Anyway, in the end I did leave, I had to.

A few years later I had a tarot reading from someone I'd never met before. She talked about this relationship and said that we had a soul connection from past lives BUT he had been my persecutor :eek:
She said we met in each life to learn lessons from each other.

I had the very same connection with my rat when I met him. I struggled with the very sudden and strong feelings mixed with feeling that something was very wrong. He kept telling me it's fate, that he felt he'd known me forever etc. And I believed it for a while untill gradually he started to show his true colours.

People usually translate these strong feelings of having met someone before as Love (soul mate) but it could be the oposite. Maybe we have a strong connection because they had a huge impact on our past lives in harmful ways.

After all, if we meet people we loved in past lives and feel that connection than it stands to reason that we will also feel a connection with someone that had an impact on us for other reasons.
 
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Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
I had a similar thing years ago in the UK. Very strong connection to someone, we often knew what the other was thinking etc. It was a very passionate relationship. We lived together for 4 years but, looking back, it started to get controlling and bordering on violent even before we bought a house together :( Once we bought the house it became violent very quickly, but (because of the connection??) It felt impossible to leave him :(
Anyway, in the end I did leave, I had to.

A few years later I had a tarot reading from someone I'd never met before. She talked about this relationship and said that we had a soul connection from past lives BUT he had been my persecutor :eek:
She said we met in each life to learn lessons from each other.

I had the very same connection with my rat when I met him. I struggled with the very sudden and strong feelings mixed with feeling that something was very wrong. He kept telling me it's fate, that he felt he'd known me forever etc. And I believed it for a while untill gradually he started to show his true colours.

People usually translate these strong feelings of having met someone before as Love (soul mate) but it could be the oposite. Maybe we have a strong connection because they had a huge impact on our past lives in harmful ways.

After all, if we meet people we loved in past lives and feel that connection than it stands to reason that we will also feel a connection with someone that had an impact on us for other reasons.
This should be totally helpful to her! Sorry you went thru all that but I do believe God puts people in our lives and he removes people also. We live and learn!❣️
 
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