I don’t know if I’m being played or if he’s genuinely such a nice person
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Plantsandsuch
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I’m so beyond sorry that this happened to you! Reading through these posts make my stomach hurt for these women who were manipulated so terribly by these men.
that being said, he’s never told me he couldn’t talk to me because of Wi-Fi since he can use WhatsApp. He did say once he gets back to Tunisia it will be a lot easier to call because he has good Wi-Fi at home. He still hasn’t asked me for money and I even tried to make him think I had like no money whatsoever by telling him I’m in a ton of debt from college and don’t make good money & he said if I ever need any money for bills to ask him because he gets paid in US dollars and is more than happy to help me out. Maybe he’s just in it for the long haul and will say anything, but maybe if I’m lucky he’s actually a good guy. I have no idea what to think at this point.
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
Actually my story was one of the lesser ones! But thanks no lady deserves to be manipulated or lied to or abused verbally or physically like so many women here have been and with your guy being older than you he should help you just be careful and watch because it’s the visa that could be what he wants! Eyes and ears open!
and try not to fall to hard to fast!Plantsandsuch
Well-Known Member
Reading all of them honestly breaks my heart. Wishing for all the healing and love to everyone. Thanks for the advice, definitely still guarding my heart and keeping my head on a swivel.Actually my story was one of the lesser ones! But thanks no lady deserves to be manipulated or lied to or abused verbally or physically like so many women here have been and with your guy being older than you he should help you just be careful and watch because it’s the visa that could be what he wants! Eyes and ears open!
Did you have WiFi in the ship?
If the guest can connect to the ships WiFi than so can the staff.
The other workers are probably all playing the same game and support each others lies.
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It’s been a crazy couple of weeks.
Since finding out so much awful stuff it has made it easier to know I made the right decision.
Just need time
Thank you for asking
Plantsandsuch
Well-Known Member
Yeah I did but I had to pay close to $300 for it for one week and it was extra if you wanted another device. Most of my family didn’t get the Wi-Fi package.
Plantsandsuch
Well-Known Member
I actually looked it up as if I were going to apply for the position that he’s working to see if it gave me any info and it said that Wi-Fi is not available unless purchased for a fee & then gave the prices which happen to Match with what I was told. Also states that WhatsApp text only will be available at all times.
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
So this is why mine uses or used WhatsApp all the time. I took it off my phone just another way for him to try to contact me
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
That’s a lot for WiFi
Makes me glad I get sea sick so will probably never go on a cruise LOL
Aisha1
Major Ratslayer
Sabrina I think she is talking about on the boat, in Tunisia wifi is soooo cheap. Not only can they top off internet for like 5 dinar from any drugstore or kiosk, but we have unlimited wifi with orange for 36 dinar monthly
U can also get WiFi for 1 dina nit to a rat its 50 Dinas haha wtf and 36 Dinas a month i so wish my home WiFi was that bloody cheap @!!
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
You and me both!
He might be talking to women on WhatsApp that’s he’s known as long or longer than he’s known you, it’s not a question of him having met them after he met you and then adding them . They can have many and various long term relationships on the go ( some for years )… it’s not that hard to multi text 2, 3 or more people simultaneously. Sorry to sound cynical but believe it: the charm , kindness and offering to pay for you if you need anything is a pure facade and pretty shallow … it will be offered to anyone who is useful to them in any way, and is probably also part of working on a cruise ship where staff must turn on the charm.
Every single person on this page will tell you the same thing , that the sham can last many, many years. The sad thing is, you won’t realise until
You’ve been bitten yourself and no amount of us warning you will stop you… like everyone here, you will probably pursue this until you find out the hard way
Unfortunately everything you said is true
They are so good at hiding everything
The lies they say so easy as they actually believe them
And yes, I didn’t want to believe what I read on here, thinking I was lucky and mine was different.
Surely 5 years is long enough to know someone right?
WRONG and I’m the one paying for that mistake while he carries in like nothing has happened, because I was nothing.
That is the brutal truth we have to deal with and try to get over
It’s the hardest worst pain I’ve experienced and I would never wish it on anyone
Etoyoc
Major Ratslayer
Start by asking him (let him show through video) about the type of visa he got. It most probably is a type D visa, which enables him to stay in the US for 29 days and is valid up to a couple of years. Tell him you just want to see how long he can stay in the US with his visa and for that you need to know the type.
The main anchor point for this visa is, as others have pointed out, how he showed his intent to return to his home country. Usually, there are a few situations that guarantee it for the embassy: having a commercial business, having wife and/or children or having proerties of his own. However, one will never know what is the case, because it is, in the end, depending on what the embassy personal decides.
So, all of what he says can be true, and probably is, however, it won't bring you an inch further. It is quite common that tunisians are employed by travel organizations, eg. in Turkey or other countries or on cruise ships.
Having a technical degree from a tunisian university says nothing. Firstly, there are only some universities with internationally recognized degrees, secondly the tertiary education in Tunisia suffers greatly from the lack of quality control, However, a technical study without a firm grip on the english language is what I'd call rare ... but possible (tunisian universities usually educuate/train for a job in the public sector in Tunisia). Here, again, closer information would help you to decide on the value of this degree. In addition, you would need to know where he spend his time between the time of the degree and the actual working position.
The job market in Tunisia is problematic unless you have good connections and/or a high degree and/or studied abroad a couple of semesters - but for someone with a academic degree, it would be unusual to work as a helper on a cruise ship at the age of 32, as this job will bring him no closer to a "better position" at all - unless the better position will be a result of meeting a citizen of a western country (either through job offer or visa possibilities).
In the end, there is probably no other way than to meet him in person in Tunisia. You paying your flight and hotel (where you return at night), and he paying the other expenses would be a fair deal ... for your advantage, you will see parts of Tunisia.
Be aware, though, that this is a holiday visit and you will see everything with holiday eyes and be shown things that he selects.Nevertheless, after such a visit, you will have more information that might make your decision easier.
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
Well said!Start by asking him (let him show through video) about the type of visa he got. It most probably is a type D visa, which enables him to stay in the US for 29 days and is valid up to a couple of years. Tell him you just want to see how long he can stay in the US with his visa and for that you need to know the type.
The main anchor point for this visa is, as others have pointed out, how he showed his intent to return to his home country. Usually, there are a few situations that guarantee it for the embassy: having a commercial business, having wife and/or children or having proerties of his own. However, one will never know what is the case, because it is, in the end, depending on what the embassy personal decides.
So, all of what he says can be true, and probably is, however, it won't bring you an inch further. It is quite common that tunisians are employed by travel organizations, eg. in Turkey or other countries or on cruise ships.
Having a technical degree from a tunisian university says nothing. Firstly, there are only some universities with internationally recognized degrees, secondly the tertiary education in Tunisia suffers greatly from the lack of quality control, However, a technical study without a firm grip on the english language is what I'd call rare ... but possible (tunisian universities usually educuate/train for a job in the public sector in Tunisia). Here, again, closer information would help you to decide on the value of this degree. In addition, you would need to know where he spend his time between the time of the degree and the actual working position.
The job market in Tunisia is problematic unless you have good connections and/or a high degree and/or studied abroad a couple of semesters - but for someone with a academic degree, it would be unusual to work as a helper on a cruise ship at the age of 32, as this job will bring him no closer to a "better position" at all - unless the better position will be a result of meeting a citizen of a western country (either through job offer or visa possibilities).
In the end, there is probably no other way than to meet him in person in Tunisia. You paying your flight and hotel (where you return at night), and he paying the other expenses would be a fair deal ... for your advantage, you will see parts of Tunisia.
Nevertheless, after such a visit, you will have more information that might make your decision easier.
Plantsandsuch
Well-Known Member
Thank you for this! He has a C1D visa stating he is able to work on a ship/plane ported in the US. He is able to leave the ship during trips and when docked at the port of call, but doesn’t permit him to stay in the country after his contract with the ship is over. Once his contract is done they shuttle him right from the ship to the airport to fly back to Tunisia.Start by asking him (let him show through video) about the type of visa he got. It most probably is a type D visa, which enables him to stay in the US for 29 days and is valid up to a couple of years. Tell him you just want to see how long he can stay in the US with his visa and for that you need to know the type.
The main anchor point for this visa is, as others have pointed out, how he showed his intent to return to his home country. Usually, there are a few situations that guarantee it for the embassy: having a commercial business, having wife and/or children or having proerties of his own. However, one will never know what is the case, because it is, in the end, depending on what the embassy personal decides.
So, all of what he says can be true, and probably is, however, it won't bring you an inch further. It is quite common that tunisians are employed by travel organizations, eg. in Turkey or other countries or on cruise ships.
Having a technical degree from a tunisian university says nothing. Firstly, there are only some universities with internationally recognized degrees, secondly the tertiary education in Tunisia suffers greatly from the lack of quality control, However, a technical study without a firm grip on the english language is what I'd call rare ... but possible (tunisian universities usually educuate/train for a job in the public sector in Tunisia). Here, again, closer information would help you to decide on the value of this degree. In addition, you would need to know where he spend his time between the time of the degree and the actual working position.
The job market in Tunisia is problematic unless you have good connections and/or a high degree and/or studied abroad a couple of semesters - but for someone with a academic degree, it would be unusual to work as a helper on a cruise ship at the age of 32, as this job will bring him no closer to a "better position" at all - unless the better position will be a result of meeting a citizen of a western country (either through job offer or visa possibilities).
In the end, there is probably no other way than to meet him in person in Tunisia. You paying your flight and hotel (where you return at night), and he paying the other expenses would be a fair deal ... for your advantage, you will see parts of Tunisia.
Nevertheless, after such a visit, you will have more information that might make your decision easier.
I want to visit him in Tunisia to find out more information, but at the same time I don’t want to go through all this to find out it was a sham. I think the hardest part of this for me is how nice he is and how much his stories check out every time. I’m still on my toes though, I just have a hard time cutting someone off who seems to be genuine for the sake of taking a chance that he’s faking it all.
Astarisborn
Major Ratslayer
You won't find any more information when you visit Tunisia he will be on his best behavior
everyone in his family, friends will back him up so unfortunately it looks like
when you make the serious step of getting seriously involved with this one
he will show his true colors after!
Do you want to take a chance on finding that out?
Besides that its a different culture, its hard to leave once
you marry or engaged to these rats they become overbearing
and controlling.
even when a woman makes one mistake, she pays for it with a rat
they can make many mistakes and expect you to stand by them
Imagine when the whole truth comes out, and you leave the rat??
It's not equality neither, so its a whole different world there.
Oh well, you say he is different, not traditional that's what they
all say, I am sorry but the truth is much different and its not easy
to see unless you have had an experience with a rat!
Who knows why the last one did not work out?
Are you ever going to get the real truth out of him?
You know people in general have a habit of only giving
you their best side at first.
you say he may be genuine , but do you really know him
and not what he just says about himself
It may cost you more than you realize in the end, you don't see the bigger picture yet
in time you will see, its just a matter of time
Only you can make that decision, but a piece of advice
make sure you have a plan B if you do go there.
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Roses have thorns
Junior Rat Expert
If you do decide to visit Tunisia plan it as a vacation where you might also meet up with him.
Go with a friend, book some excursions and meet up with him a few times.
If you go on your own, just to see him, you will be dependent on him, you will only see the side of Tunisia that he wants you to see and if things don't go well you will be forced to spend the rest of your time there with him even if you don't want to.
Plantsandsuch
Well-Known Member
This is smart, if I decide to go I will definitely do it like this. Thank you!!
U being played I'm married to love rat pm me he from tunisia and ill tell u all about the sickos
I don't know if I replied to this since there's so many of the same stories. They are like cult leaders; they will brainwash you into believing anything. Do yourself a favor, block this dude immediately!
No no no, this is not smart at all, it's the wrong thing to do. Rats are brilliant, it's their job to convince you they are honest loving people. Unless you are good at scamming people, you are no match to him.
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
Hi @LetGo, first of all there are lovely people in tunisia not all of them are rats. Did you read the whole thread or do you react to a single post? Tunisia is more than hotels and rats. Some women need more time to see the difference between a good man or a scammer. Some women need to find out by themselves.
We all know how rats are or how they are masters to convince us they are honest men.
Tinker-lulu
Major Ratslayer
Tunisia is a lovely place to spend sometime alone or with family... I wished the first time I went to Tunisia I travelled without meeting someone already (unfortunately a Rat) whom I met on FB, bad experience as it turned out but I will always love that country (the good the bad and the ugly) I will spend time alone because really I need no one to make me happy, I'm happy with my own company and having some "bloke" around is just "annoying"... my point is; enjoy your time, you don't need to meet someone on line whom you might regret later, be you, be happy being yourself, I tried this and I love it, my next holidays will be SOLO where I can please myself!! I know the culture and i picked up some Arabic (woohoo), I've been there many times since on my own!! 
