Precisely! What’s he giving up? He has nothing going on. He’s a miserable bum living in a country where he’s not allowed to stay. Then he wanted you to visit him there when he’s an illegal!!your right he hasnt hurt me yet. Ive been one of the lucky ones..
Yes exactly, I want to know now or sooner rather then later. And i wont get hurt i promise lol. maybe a little down for a bit but I have big bounce back game. And i naturally dont get very attched to many humans.. This will be a positive in my eyes. "Horrible truths over comforting lies" lol.
Yes is finding himself more desperate, he got himself into his own mess though. He really thinks or hes just telling me that hes giving up everything for me.. haha yeah right.. what you giving up?
How from having an internship in Spain did he end up in Germany suddenly holder of a student visa? Then how did the student visa magically expired? As Mica said, he wouldn’t sabotage that. It’s too hard to obtain. I was once a foreign student and hung out with students from all over the world, and I never met or heard of one fellow student who messed with their precious and not easily acquired student visa. They all study hard because that’s what they came for and they don’t want to waste all the efforts they made to get there and sabotage their future by getting kicked out of the country.
Truth is he’s desperate and needs to find a foreign woman because he doesn’t want to return in Tunisia with nothing (because he has nothing going on even in his own country) He must know that he can’t marry an European woman because of his illegal status. Marrying you -or anyone from a rich country outside Europe- would be like winning the lottery. Being married to you, he’d get citizenship. The NZ passport is one of the most powerful in the world, unlike the Tunisian passport. Holding one, he could travel to many countries without a visa. He has the nerve to say he’d change his plans for you and would give up everything when actually you -or any woman who can serve a purpose- IS the plan. He doesn’t give up anything, he has nothing to lose, but a lot to gain by marrying you. Anyway, in the first place, who says that? What kind of man says to the woman he supposedly loves that he sacrificed everything for her?
Bee, I’m sorry you’re still holding hope. You’re very receptive to the answers you got here and you say that he can’t hurt you emotionally but I wouldn’t be so sure. By keeping contact with him, you’re subjecting yourself to a lot of hurt in the future because you do care about him and you sound like you’re still in love with him. Despite all the obvious lies. I can understand, it’s human and as a typical player, he can be charming. You saw the lies and the bad sides of his personality but you somehow are still under the charm and hope that it can still work. If you didn’t think that, you’d stop asking yourself all these questions and you’d end things with him.
He’s shady, he’s manipulative, he’s a bs’er, he lied repeatedly, he had an “ex” who blocked you. You have to know she’s more than an ex. He must have asked her to block you and said you were some crazy woman chasing him. You’re not the only woman he’s talking to and you’d better believe that guys like him are not interested to spend their life with someone who already has little children. If you’d marry him, he’d become a big burden. Imagine having a whiny brat-man who would cost you more than your own children, who would tell you what to do and would not help and not appreciate anything you do for him. Then, years after, when he got what he wants, he’d disappear, possibly leaving you with another baby that he would not care about seeing again. You know these men want to make foreign women pregnant to speed up the visa process.
What I say may sound over the top and you may think that I’m talking about someone I don’t even know. Well, I read enough about him and he’s a textbook rat. He may be a little more “smart” and may seem more “refined” than most rats because he didn’t ask money and he’s more “educated” and he’s sensitive to art and music, but don’t let that fool you, he is a cunning rat. Some don’t ask money. They have several women who serve different purposes: money, gifts, sex, visa. I hope you’ll realize quick that he’s nothing but bad news.