Is he a rat?

[Chipmunk]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

 

[Tigerpants]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Hi Chipmunk welcome.
I don't believe his reason for asking you for money , I'm sorry but I feel that he's a rat , without doubt.

 

[MH007]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Welcome @Chipmunk

Yes you are missing an enormous red flag.......he first fed you the line that his parents can't afford his tuition but even worse he then asked you for money! NO DECENT Tunisian man would ever ask a woman for money......no ifs no buts it doesn't happen unless that Tunisian is a big fat rat!

Please read as much of the forum as you can - the fact you have brought up marriage (despite never meeting) makes him think he has won the lottery and just because he said he wants to live in Tunisia doesn't mean it's true, they will often say that until further down the line.

MH x

 

[Aisha1]

@Chipmunk have you ever lived outside of USA? Tunisia is completely opposite of what you know living in America. Do you know the language? He says he wants to live here in Tunisia, he says this so he doesn’t come out directly and talk about visa for him…. This way it will look like your idea, because once you live here I’m almost certain you’ll want to go back to USA and of course bring your husband. First of all, never never would he ask an Arab woman/ Tunisian woman for money period, no matter what it’s for…but you being a foreign woman he doesn’t hold you to the same standards or respect be asking you that nonsense… oh by the way most university here is free… so he could have started with or without money. He can get a repaired used laptop from the Medina for about 300 dinar ( a laptop that will assist in studies). He doesn’t need money, he just figured he’d ask, he will ask again. And I’m not saying since you American you are not cultured and couldn’t possibly live in Tunisia, there are plenty of foreign women living here, however it’s going to be difficult for you if you have not be raised in this environment or culture. Have you researched our religion? I’m assuming you are non Muslim, correct me if I’m wrong. I think you are moving a little to fast considering you’ve never been here or met him ( have you met in real life?).

 

[Aisha1]

@Chipmunk have you ever lived outside of USA? Tunisia is completely opposite of what you know living in America. Do you know the language? He says he wants to live here in Tunisia, he says this so he doesn’t come out directly and talk about visa for him…. This way it will look like your idea, because once you live here I’m almost certain you’ll want to go back to USA and of course bring your husband. First of all, never never would he ask an Arab woman/ Tunisian woman for money period, no matter what it’s for…but you being a foreign woman he doesn’t hold you to the same standards or respect be asking you that nonsense… oh by the way most university here is free… so he could have started with or without money. He can get a repaired used laptop from the Medina for about 300 dinar ( a laptop that will assist in studies). He doesn’t need money, he just figured he’d ask, he will ask again. And I’m not saying since you American you are not cultured and couldn’t possibly live in Tunisia, there are plenty of foreign women living here, however it’s going to be difficult for you if you have not be raised in this environment or culture. Have you researched our religion? I’m assuming you are non Muslim, correct me if I’m wrong. I think you are moving a little to fast considering you’ve never been here or met him ( have you met in real life?).

Sorry I jumped straight into it… welcome dear

 

[Astarisborn]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Often Tunisian rats will say they are agnostic because you are agnostic, they tend to mirror our ideas for a long time.
90 percent chance this one is Muslim.
My ex-rat said he would renounce his religion (Muslim) to be with me LOL
100 percent LIE
See the lies already.
I lasted a long time with my ex-rat, they have a way of being patient.
How do you know you are the only one he is talking to?
He never talks about money but once until he wanted money for his tuition because university is free in Tunisia
That's one red flag.
your experience has already played like ours has, no different.
Do you really want to live in Tunisia, do you know you might put money into
a house with him and when everything is finished with the rat they
will sell and you won't get your part.
Sometimes we want to hear what we want to hear but it is necessary for you to need to hear the truth.

 

[Chipmunk]

@Chipmunk have you ever lived outside of USA? Tunisia is completely opposite of what you know living in America. Do you know the language? He says he wants to live here in Tunisia, he says this so he doesn’t come out directly and talk about visa for him…. This way it will look like your idea, because once you live here I’m almost certain you’ll want to go back to USA and of course bring your husband. First of all, never never would he ask an Arab woman/ Tunisian woman for money period, no matter what it’s for…but you being a foreign woman he doesn’t hold you to the same standards or respect be asking you that nonsense… oh by the way most university here is free… so he could have started with or without money. He can get a repaired used laptop from the Medina for about 300 dinar ( a laptop that will assist in studies). He doesn’t need money, he just figured he’d ask, he will ask again. And I’m not saying since you American you are not cultured and couldn’t possibly live in Tunisia, there are plenty of foreign women living here, however it’s going to be difficult for you if you have not be raised in this environment or culture. Have you researched our religion? I’m assuming you are non Muslim, correct me if I’m wrong. I think you are moving a little to fast considering you’ve never been here or met him ( have you met in real life?).

Yes, I lived in Vietnam for a year. Moving to Mexico next year, then Albania.. etc. I'm learning French now. I never want to stay in the U.S. for the record lol. He knows I will never live in the U.S., I travel full time (I'm just home rn due to COVID). Yes, neither of us are Muslim. I've started to research the culture and religion but much more to learn for sure. I agree it's probably too fast, I just get caught up in the fantasy you know. Of course, I plan on visiting him for a few months and if I'm not into it I'm just gonna hop right on over to Albania. I never really pushed him on his school, but I do think it was odd and I'll need to do more research on schools there and ask why he asked me.

 

[Aisha1]

Often Tunisian rats will say they are agnostic because you are agnostic, they tend to mirror our ideas for a long time.
90 percent chance this one is Muslim.
My ex-rat said he would renounce his religion (Muslim) to be with me LOL
100 percent LIE
See the lies already.
I lasted a long time with my ex-rat, they have a way of being patient.
How do you know you are the only one he is talking to?
He never talks about money but once until he wanted money for his tuition because university is free in Tunisia
That's one red flag.
your experience has already played like ours has, no different.
Do you really want to live in Tunisia, do you know you might put money into
a house with him and when everything is finished with the rat they
will sell and you won't get your part.
Sometimes we want to hear what we want to hear but it is necessary for you to need to hear the truth.

More than 90 percent chance he is Muslim….. very very rarely do they not identify to Islam. It’s banged in your head since birth. The only instance I hear of this agnostic view from a Tunisian is when they are trying to mirror the victim and seem more similar for comfort as @yougogirl75 said.

 

[Chipmunk]

Often Tunisian rats will say they are agnostic because you are agnostic, they tend to mirror our ideas for a long time.
90 percent chance this one is Muslim.
My ex-rat said he would renounce his religion (Muslim) to be with me LOL
100 percent LIE
See the lies already.
I lasted a long time with my ex-rat, they have a way of being patient.
How do you know you are the only one he is talking to?
He never talks about money but once until he wanted money for his tuition because university is free in Tunisia
That's one red flag.
your experience has already played like ours has, no different.
Do you really want to live in Tunisia, do you know you might put money into
a house with him and when everything is finished with the rat they
will sell and you won't get your part.
Sometimes we want to hear what we want to hear but it is necessary for you to need to hear the truth.

Thank you for the reply, this is all so hard to hear! But I appreciate it. I definitely think about all this and confront him.. although I suppose confronting him wouldn't matter much since he'd have excuses.

 

[Chipmunk]

More than 90 percent chance he is Muslim….. very very rarely do they not identify to Islam. It’s banged in your head since birth. The only instance I hear of this agnostic view from a Tunisian is when they are trying to mirror the victim and seem more similar for comfort as @yougogirl75 said.

Ah I see.. tbh I just thought he was agnostic because he spent a lot of years in France (this could be a lie idk.) So I assumed his whole family wasn't really practicing. Who knows though

 

[confuseddotcom]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Bear in mind that part of the visa application process involves making the relationship appear authentic. So that includes you travelling to him, living there for a while... basically all the things regular couples do, except it will be staged. Then when the time is right he will tell you that he’s had enough of Tunisia and wants to be able to provide for you, and lo and behold you’ll both move back to your country at your expense.

Not every man is so scheming, of course, but this is something to be aware of. You have to read between the lines in these relationships, you’ll find there are major red flags that we brush under the carpet when they were staring us right in the face. Anyway. It doesn’t look good because of the money request, and about religion you do find non religious Tunisians but the fact that he’s so open about it (and most likely going against his family) is a red flag. If he’s not loyal to them how could he be loyal to you??

 

[Sabrina]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

He wants a visa to us he wants to live there in Tunisia with you??? Yeah ok the money.. the nerve of him asking for this tuition like he just heard about it.. are you kidding?? There are red flags for sure! You like the same things and want the same yeah that was with all of us too! Don’t fall for him and if you go visit him make sure he has enough to pay all your way! Otherwise just go to Florida or California.. WELCOME HERE

 

[Sabrina]

Sorry I jumped straight into it… welcome dear

You are like me in the welcoming.. mine is always last sorry

 

[Aisha1]

You are like me in the welcoming.. mine is always last sorry

I think I just bypassed it out of frustration… this liar asking for tuition…. Why don’t he ask his precious friends , his cousins, his aunts, whatever Tunisian girl he places above all others…believe me there is one….. oh I know why he doesn’t ask because they will slap him and laugh in his face for his free university

 

[Sabrina]

I think I just bypassed it out of frustration… this liar asking for tuition…. Why don’t he ask his precious friends , his cousins, his aunts, whatever Tunisian girl he places above all others…believe me there is one….. oh I know why he doesn’t ask because they will slap him and laugh in his face for his free university

Yeah I’m usually frustrated after reading their story and just want to jump right in

 

[Butterflies]

Hi

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Hi @Chipmunk welcome to the forum. As all the ladies told you he is feeding you lies there is no chance he is not into religion it's the way he is brought up. Tunisian men don't ask money only rats do, no ifs no buts and as @Aisha1 told you university is free in tunisia so why would he need it? Take a deep breath and read all the advice given to you and I think your friends gave you a good advice to read here because he is indeed a rat

 

[Aisha1]

@Chipmunk your typical view in Tunisia, we can’t all live at the resort landscaped sea view and we got 40 percent rain for the first time in months of scorching heat…. It barely wet the road

 

[MH007]

Ah I see.. tbh I just thought he was agnostic because he spent a lot of years in France (this could be a lie idk.) So I assumed his whole family wasn't really practicing. Who knows though

Do you know why/how he managed to live in France for many years, when/why did he return to Tunisia?

MH x

 

[Aisha1]

Ah I see.. tbh I just thought he was agnostic because he spent a lot of years in France (this could be a lie idk.) So I assumed his whole family wasn't really practicing. Who knows though

@Chipmunk i am Muslim myself, but I’ll be honest with you. We do not all pray and we do not all practice as we should and those people are usually the first to correct your wrong doings. Regardless if he lived in France, wherever… it would not impact his families views and thoughts OR pressure from them for him to follow culture. Did he go to France by boat? If so this is all you need to know… he needs to get back to the western world via someone.

 

[March]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

they all say that we live with them in Tunisia, so that we do not think that he needs a visa

 

[Chipmunk]

Do you know why/how he managed to live in France for many years, when/why did he return to Tunisia?

MH x

From what I understand he went to school in France and went to visit extended family during holidays. He then moved to Tunisia during covid with his family. I guess when he got to Tunisia and was going to start school, he had to take an Arabic language test to enroll?

 

[Aisha1]

Yes, I lived in Vietnam for a year. Moving to Mexico next year, then Albania.. etc. I'm learning French now. I never want to stay in the U.S. for the record lol. He knows I will never live in the U.S., I travel full time (I'm just home rn due to COVID). Yes, neither of us are Muslim. I've started to research the culture and religion but much more to learn for sure. I agree it's probably too fast, I just get caught up in the fantasy you know. Of course, I plan on visiting him for a few months and if I'm not into it I'm just gonna hop right on over to Albania. I never really pushed him on his school, but I do think it was odd and I'll need to do more research on schools there and ask why he asked me.

@Chipmunk ive lived in USA, Eastern Europe, Western Europe and we travel very often … but I will tell you straight up, it’s hard to live in Tunisia. I’m not trying to tell you not to come here, but if I hadn’t experienced my own country and the culture then I couldn’t make it here. Number one… it’s not like other places, most of the people are not interested in becoming friends with anyone that’s not Tunisian, they just don’t care about other cultures ( not 100 percent, but must), I’m Lebanese and it’s extremely hard, it’s a society of talk nice to your face and bad behind your back… I’ve truly never experienced nothing like it anywhere else… the only instance you see hem become your friend is when you have something to benefit them.. Also French will help you, but a good amount of people only know Tunisian Arabic, it’s extremely poor here, it’s hot and miserable most days unless you are at the beach or doing something fun, and if you are not religious this is not your environment, everything and everyone is centered around Islam rather they will admit it or not, we even use religious gestures in everyday language. About school, tell me name and I’ll know if it’s free or partially free.

 

[Astarisborn]

they all say that we live with them in Tunisia, so that we do not think that he needs a visa

Either way the rat wins, and the foreigner loses.
Best to not get involved with these rats with an empty soul!

 

[Aisha1]

Yes, I lived in Vietnam for a year. Moving to Mexico next year, then Albania.. etc. I'm learning French now. I never want to stay in the U.S. for the record lol. He knows I will never live in the U.S., I travel full time (I'm just home rn due to COVID). Yes, neither of us are Muslim. I've started to research the culture and religion but much more to learn for sure. I agree it's probably too fast, I just get caught up in the fantasy you know. Of course, I plan on visiting him for a few months and if I'm not into it I'm just gonna hop right on over to Albania. I never really pushed him on his school, but I do think it was odd and I'll need to do more research on schools there and ask why he asked me.

I know you are still researching, but keep in mind we are an Islamic society. You can not stay together with him unmarried or police will be involved. @Chipmunk

 

[Astarisborn]

Yes, I lived in Vietnam for a year. Moving to Mexico next year, then Albania.. etc. I'm learning French now. I never want to stay in the U.S. for the record lol. He knows I will never live in the U.S., I travel full time (I'm just home rn due to COVID). Yes, neither of us are Muslim. I've started to research the culture and religion but much more to learn for sure. I agree it's probably too fast, I just get caught up in the fantasy you know. Of course, I plan on visiting him for a few months and if I'm not into it I'm just gonna hop right on over to Albania. I never really pushed him on his school, but I do think it was odd and I'll need to do more research on schools there and ask why he asked me.

The rats get you to buy into the fantasy and then after deliver you a nightmare.
Its too good to be true kind of love, if you plan on going to Tunisia he will be relentless about marrying you.
I am sure when you get there, the rose colored glasses will come off.
They say a lot of things and besides you have no proof only what he tells you, unless you go there and see for yourself.
But each to their own, all I can say is Good luck to you @Chipmunk

 

[Peacock]

Sorry @Chipmunk but he is a rat. He tried to get money off you - that makes him 100% rat!! Move on, you don't need him in your life.

 

[Chipmunk]

I know you are still researching, but keep in mind we are an Islamic society. You can not stay together with him unmarried or police will be involved. @Chipmunk

I'm honestly so confused with this. Because I asked this question in a Tunisian forum and everyone said I'd be fine to stay with him in an airbnb or apartment, that no one cares. And that Tunis is more liberal than most places in North Africa. Is this not true?

 

[Sabrina]

I'm honestly so confused with this. Because I asked this question in a Tunisian forum and everyone said I'd be fine to stay with him in an airbnb or apartment, that no one cares. And that Tunis is more liberal than most places in North Africa. Is this not true?

I know with mine we rented an apartment in hammamet I had not read on any forums any information before but he made it clear we could not stay in a hotel together

 

[Chipmunk]

I know with mine we rented an apartment in hammamet I had not read on any forums any information before but he made it clear we could not stay in a hotel together

I was told there is this law with hotels but anything else is pretty much fine? Then I'm told staying somewhere like Sidi Bou Said is really nice and I'll like it. And then that I'll be miserable lol. So I'm not really sure anymore. I lived in Vietnam like I've said and yes it was polluted, crowded, loud, most didn't know english, no beach, humid, lots of bugs but I loved it. Idk

 

[Aisha1]

I'm honestly so confused with this. Because I asked this question in a Tunisian forum and everyone said I'd be fine to stay with him in an airbnb or apartment, that no one cares. And that Tunis is more liberal than most places in North Africa. Is this not true?

It just depends really… anything can happen. I know some people that get away with it, but all it takes is one person to report you and the police show up. But honestly speaking if this guy stays with you unmarried he’s never going to have respect for you, I know you may say that he is not like that… it’s the culture, they are like that.