Is he a rat?

[Wiser]

I was told there is this law with hotels but anything else is pretty much fine? Then I'm told staying somewhere like Sidi Bou Said is really nice and I'll like it. And then that I'll be miserable lol. So I'm not really sure anymore. I lived in Vietnam like I've said and yes it was polluted, crowded, loud, most didn't know english, no beach, humid, lots of bugs but I loved it. Idk

Hi, welcome... Members gave great advice already.

You're right, you love adventure and visiting other countries that do not represent first world confort and find the magic about each place, but there's a difference between being a solo traveler, with the only intention of discovering culture, food...etc than going with the idea of meeting someone to make plans for the future.

Members are right by saying it's not legal staying toghether at a hotel not being married, some members here were forced into marriage due that rule, their documents were confiscated and found themselves trapped.

Other scenario could be that he asks you to stay at his family home, which for foreigners sounds romantic, we believe it's part of respect, formalizing and makes us trust in them. When actually it's against their culture, not socially acceptable, they pretend to like you to the extent you feel the need to help them.

Red flag, he asked for money when he is a well traveled and studied man, think about a guy from your country doing this before taking you to a first date

Other subject to consider is, if he has spent years in France, means he has a Schengen visa. He can travel to most of European countries without problem, also to Mexico.
Mexico does not require separate visa for people with a Schengen visa, otherwise he would have to travel to Algeria to start paperwork.
Hope you find some of it useful, please take care of yourself, take time to evaluate if it represents a risk. Xx

 

[SouthernGirl]

if he has spent years in France, means he has a Schengen visa. He can travel to most of European countries without problem, also to Mexico.

I don’t believe he spent years in France. Or if he did, he must’ve been forced to get out, meaning he was there illegally or did something illegal. If he had a Schengen visa, @Chipmunk, you better believe he’d still be living there, or in any country in Europe. Maybe he told you he didn’t like the country and decided to go home after spending several years there lol Why would he and his family decide to go home during Covid when they have been living in France for many years and been well established? Going back to live in Tunisia in Covid times when the situation is even worse.

This is a great post with many excellent points! Several ladies told you why this guy doesn’t look good at all and I hope you can see and understand it’s just no speculation. Numerous things he told you are what all typical rats say. So many red flags and him asking you for money because he couldn’t afford the Universtuition -tuition that is free- was the most obvious sign he is planning to use you.

I’m sorry you are still into him. Dating this kind of guy is asking for trouble. Keep your eyes open and your wallet closed. Best wishes.

 

[Aisha1]

I don’t believe he spent years in France. Or if he did, he must’ve been forced to get out, meaning he was there illegally or did something illegal. If he had a Schengen visa, @Chipmunk, you better believe he’d still be living there, or in any country in Europe. Maybe he told you he didn’t like the country and decided to go home after spending several years there lol Why would he and his family decide to go home during Covid when they have been living in France for many years and been well established? Going back to live in Tunisia in Covid times when the situation is even worse.

This is a great post with many excellent points! Several ladies told you why this guy doesn’t look good at all and I hope you can see and understand it’s just no speculation. Numerous things he told you are what all typical rats say. So many red flags and him asking you for money because he couldn’t afford the Universtuition -tuition that is free- was the most obvious sign he is planning to use you.

I’m sorry you are still into him. Dating this kind of guy is asking for trouble. Keep your eyes open and your wallet closed. Best wishes.

No doubt in my mind he is a liar! I feel bad that he is brainwashing this girl, they say things like “ I lived in France” to sound more appealing and safe to the victim. Believe me if he was in France with his family living comfortably the French military couldn’t pull this rat family out to move back to Tunisia. Either they were there illegally and deported or never there to begin with…… with I leaning with never there to begin with! And he’s soooo good and blah blah, but he prefers not to meet in Muslim country and asked for her help with his tuition….. where is all that French money??? I’ll tell you… never existed, he fished her to use her, and if she is willing to stay in a room with him then fun for him! So money and easy sex, typical rat narrative! A good man would agree to Turkey even though it’s a Muslim country because he wouldn’t have THAT on his mind… what a joke and disgrace asking for money! Makes me completely sick! Free university Tunisia, but noooo he will decide to go to private university that is about 40k per year… now time to find someone to pay!

 

[Chipmunk]

Update: I'm moving to Turkey and starting a new life if all goes well with employer. He's doing his own thing, starting school, online business, saving money to move away from his family and out of Tunisia. Haven't planned anything with him or anything

 

[SouthernGirl]

Update: I'm moving to Turkey and starting a new life if all goes well with employer. He's doing his own thing, starting school, online business, saving money to move away from his family and out of Tunisia. Haven't planned anything with him or anything

Thank you for the update, @Chipmunk. Good luck with your move and with your new life. It’s good that you are thinking of yourself first and that he’s doing his thing on his own, saving money so he can realize his plans for the future (which is the way it should be anyway)

Just one thing. In case it happens: I’d advice you to not let him talk you into helping him financially, no matter what he says and the feelings you have for him. Remember no woman in his country would give him money. He wouldn’t even ask. Men there don’t ask money to women. Period. Only rats/losers/users take money from foreign women. It would be disrespectful of him and the requests would never stop. Do not do it, not even once, and even if he says it’s just a loan and he’ll reimburse you. They never give the money back. You don’t owe him anything and you don’t know him that well. Remember what your friends at home said since the beginning. They didn’t feel good about him and they may not be wrong.

I wish you the best with everything, Chipmunk, and please keep us posted once in a while so we know all is well with you.

 

[MH007]

Update: I'm moving to Turkey and starting a new life if all goes well with employer. He's doing his own thing, starting school, online business, saving money to move away from his family and out of Tunisia. Haven't planned anything with him or anything

Thank you for the update Chipmunk and I am glad you are staying safe, why the move to Turkey?

He won't need a visa to visit there

I wish you all the best and do please keep in touch.

MH x

 

[Chipmunk]

Thank you for the update Chipmunk and I am glad you are staying safe, why the move to Turkey?

He won't need a visa to visit there

I wish you all the best and do please keep in touch.

MH x

I was originally moving to China but because of their new laws I wasn't sure how stable my job would be. So decided to try something different and go to Turkey

 

[Croydon girl]

I was originally moving to China but because of their new laws I wasn't sure how stable my job would be. So decided to try something different and go to Turkey

Cor blimey! You get around!

 

[Aisha1]

I was originally moving to China but because of their new laws I wasn't sure how stable my job would be. So decided to try something different and go to Turkey

China laws about tutoring and teaching English? I saw a segment on Al Jazeera about how foreigners are getting around it.

 

[MH007]

I was originally moving to China but because of their new laws I wasn't sure how stable my job would be. So decided to try something different and go to Turkey

I appreciate your honesty and I really hope it works out but I have to say I worry a little as Turkey is full of rats too

MH x

 

[Aisha1]

I appreciate your honesty and I really hope it works out but I have to say I worry a little as Turkey is full of rats too

MH x

Yes very true, especially in cities with a lot of tourists ( south beach cities). Istanbul is just so big it’s a mix of people just like anywhere…. I think you can use your good judgement to pick a good guy out of that selection.. hhh

 

[Chipmunk]

Yes very true, especially in cities with a lot of tourists ( south beach cities). Istanbul is just so big it’s a mix of people just like anywhere…. I think you can use your good judgement to pick a good guy out of that selection.. hhh

Yeah I'd be in Istanbul. Not really that concerned about the picking a guy thing. I will probably only stay a year and then move on to another country unless I really love it. I have a lot of countries on my list I plan on staying in haha

 

[Moonshine1]

A question
What would someone say about a 38 year old tunisian man single /works /his own apartment only had 1 relationship with a tunisian she left him for rich old man
He wants to pay car/ apartmenr expenses while shez there
But says that they will date first in tunisia
She stays in the apartment and he will stay in his at night
But be together all day
I don't know what to make off this shes met his family in cam
She says he has respect and has values
Never said he loved her for a year
Hes never got angry or said a bad word
She will be meeting him soon
I have just said to her be careful in all u do and make sure u have a back up plan in tunisia .

 

[Yvonne]

A question
What would someone say about a 38 year old tunisian man single /works /his own apartment only had 1 relationship with a tunisian she left him for rich old man
He wants to pay car/ apartmenr expenses while shez there
But says that they will date first in tunisia
She stays in the apartment and he will stay in his at night
But be together all day
I don't know what to make off this shes met his family in cam
She says he has respect and has values
Never said he loved her for a year
Hes never got angry or said a bad word
She will be meeting him soon
I have just said to her be careful in all u do and make sure u have a back up plan in tunisia .

She should be very careful as rats can hide their true intentions very good.
He could be a good man but it's always a tricky thing to know he is genuine or not
My rat never said anything wrong, no asking for money, no love bombing untill my friends found other acounts from him with hundreds of women on.
Once she met him she will be hooked and fall in love.
Is she older then him? Muslim? Kids? Married before?
Yvonne xxx

 

[Butterflies]

A question
What would someone say about a 38 year old tunisian man single /works /his own apartment only had 1 relationship with a tunisian she left him for rich old man
He wants to pay car/ apartmenr expenses while shez there
But says that they will date first in tunisia
She stays in the apartment and he will stay in his at night
But be together all day
I don't know what to make off this shes met his family in cam
She says he has respect and has values
Never said he loved her for a year
Hes never got angry or said a bad word
She will be meeting him soon
I have just said to her be careful in all u do and make sure u have a back up plan in tunisia .

It would be real but knowing what I know now and reading she saw his family on cam it's not good in my mind but I am bias I don't trust any of them on the internet no more.
Showing respect, not being angry, not saying he loves her doesn't mean anything rats are professional scammers they adapt to the surcomstances
If he is able to pay for everything he is a catch for tunisian women so I'm wondering why he isn't taken by another tunisian woman after his relationship failed?

 

[Sabrina]

A question
What would someone say about a 38 year old tunisian man single /works /his own apartment only had 1 relationship with a tunisian she left him for rich old man
He wants to pay car/ apartmenr expenses while shez there
But says that they will date first in tunisia
She stays in the apartment and he will stay in his at night
But be together all day
I don't know what to make off this shes met his family in cam
She says he has respect and has values
Never said he loved her for a year
Hes never got angry or said a bad word
She will be meeting him soon
I have just said to her be careful in all u do and make sure u have a back up plan in tunisia .

I personally am wondering if any of this is true on his part!! Proof?? Yeah oh yeah they have all the proof needed when needed they are very tricky and sneaky i also will never talk much less trust anyone on line ESPECIALLY FROM TUNISIA !!!!!! So good luck to her

 

[Moonshine1]

If you want to visit a country that’s good for the both of you I would suggest Turkey. It’s close to him and he doesn’t need a visa… really I don’t know your intentions, so I don’t know what to say… I feel like you are set on staying together although you don’t know him. Regardless what country, Arab men rather they are Muslim or not have this same culture and the woman that allows things to happen without effort will not be respected, please understand this and don’t think I’m trying to ruin your dreams, but this is

I personally am wondering if any of this is true on his part!! Proof?? Yeah oh yeah they have all the proof needed when needed they are very tricky and sneaky i also will never talk much less trust anyone on line ESPECIALLY FROM TUNISIA !!!!!! So good luck to her

Thats what i think
Mine would say i will pay this and that but paid for ### all
He would send me photos off gifts he'd bought me
When I got there #### all
It was all lies !!!!!!
It got embarrassing me paying for everything and his dirty scrounging ratty friends trying it on too
I was the one feeling angry that I was paying yet again and ratty shitter lieing without Shame
Did he think I had #### on my forehead yes i did for years but I wiped the word #### off and became strong enough to tell him no more scrounger #### off !!!!!! Its my money not yours !!!!! No longer your free atm !!!!!

 

[Moonshine1]

She should be very careful as rats can hide their true intentions very good.
He could be a good man but it's always a tricky thing to know he is genuine or not
My rat never said anything wrong, no asking for money, no love bombing untill my friends found other acounts from him with hundreds of women on.
Once she met him she will be hooked and fall in love.
Is she older then him? Muslim? Kids? Married before?
Yvonne xxx

She is younger than him never married but has 1 child .

 

[Meteorite]

Basically, I've been telling people about my Tunisian boyfriend and they keep linking me this site. None of them care about him and assume because he is Tunisian he is scamming me. I never thought much of it and now after reading these posts, I am worried! To clarify, I do not think he is a rat and hearing others opinions might be hard for me. But I want your guys' honesty on this please.♡
I met him on kik.. an app where you are matched with a random person and you just start talking. Me both used it during quarantine in April 2020 because we were both stuck at home bored. He never asked for nudes (like most guys) so I continued talking to him. We are both 23 years old btw and I am American. Also, both of us are Agnostic and have similar worldviews and wants for our future. From my perspective, he has been the sweetest guy I have ever met. He listens to me, and is never controlling. He has asked me for money once. Basically, he was supposed to start university and he found out a couple weeks before that his family couldn't afford it. He said he was so nervous to ask but he finally did.. to pay a bit for his tuition. I said no, and he said that's okay and money was never talked about again. I have brought up marriage simply because I told him if we're really going to do this we'll have to get married at some point. He wants me to live in Tunisia with him, he's very excited to show me different places, food, culture. I said maybe if things go really well we could get married so I can get residency there and he seemed open to it. We agreed neither of us want to live in the U.S. Now, to me, all this sounds reasonable and I'm really excited to visit him. Am I missing the warning signs? Or any questions u guys have about us for more detail? Thank you!!!

Oh he is a rat. They play the long game and believe you me that he will be taking money from other women online and saying exactly the same to them. My ex husband played that card too and then when it came to it he played the how will we live in my country this is not the life we dont have we dont have you dont speak fluent tunisian how can you work, we must go to UK.......please do not marry this man and please do not bring him out his country. I speak from the heart and from experience. Get out now before he destroys your life your family and takes everything you are......wishing you all the best lovely x