Is he genuine?

[Christine]

Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA

 

[Sabrina]

Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA

Hi and welcome, he may be ok but 10 months is pretty early not having met in person to say he wants to spend the rest of his life with her, and most of these guys all seem loyal to their faith but a lot of them surely could not be, they prove that. A lot of times it’s a front! He might look at it as a way out of his country.(visa) Does he work does he make enough to keep her and her son up if they came to Tunisia? This could be a front knowing that she would not leave her sons father for her sons sake. These guys can be very persuasive and patient as it may take a while to get what they actually want out of a person. But you have come to the right place for more advice! Oh one more thing we have probably all talked to their mothers and other members of their family

 

[Butterflies]

Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA

Hi @Christine welcome here. It's difficult to say he is a rat or not we need to know more about it all. The first thing is when a tunisian contacts a woman via the internet is not really a good sign as a genuine tunisian man doesn't do that. Your friend has a child and he will know this she will and cannot come and live with him in tunisia so the obvious next move would be to come and live with her. I understand she never met him in real life so wouldn't it be better to see eachother first after all he could have a bad smell or she doesn't like him in real life. On the internet you can be whoever you want to be so.... You can say his name here or send his name to a trusted member or Admin. @MH007 or @Mica. You can search here at the forum to if he was mentioned here in the past. Go to your left side of your screen to the 3 bares. Then go to search forum and add his name. Or take a look at the media there are alot of foto's from other rats

 

[SouthernGirl]

Hi Christine and Welcome! It’s difficult to say if he’s genuine or not because you didn’t say much. This is normal since you know only what your friend revealed about him and their conversations. The only thing that may make him look not too good is that is that at first, he talked about her going to live inTunisia. Knowing that she had a child, this is not logical to say that.

Since she met him online, she needs to be cautious. She has a good friend in you and it’s understandable you worry about her talking to a stranger she met randomly on Twitter.

 

[confuseddotcom]

Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA

As the other ladies have said the fact that they met online is a red flag. Marriage is not something that’s taken lightly, even by a Tunisian (unless it’s for personal gain), and they would definitely need to meet in person before any promises were made.

It really depends on what your friend is looking for in the long term, because if he’s genuine, and emphasis on the word genuine, then he will not accept her being an atheist. If they marry and he’s genuine then he’ll eventually try to get her to convert as they tend not to think highly of non believers (whether that’s of Islam or Christianity). If he’s after something else then she could be a satanist for all he cares, as he won’t be in it for the long haul. The fact that he’s told his family about her is suspect as if he’s such a devout Muslim, I highly doubt he’d be telling his parents that he’s met an atheist woman online and plans to marry her. On the off chance that he is genuine, she will definitely need to see him in person to see if they gel and also how he treats her and others. I’ve spoken over the phone for almost a year with a guy and once we met in person he was controlling, touchy feely etc. So you just don’t know

 

[MH007]

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

Hi Christine

Welcome to the forum, it is good to see you are getting lots of advise from the members.

Yes it is okay to name him on here, in fact it is encouraged as we often have members that recognise the name.

MH x

 

[Christine]

Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.

 

[Sabrina]

Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.

If a Muslim has real beliefs on sex they know that what he’s doing with her on the phone is fornication ITS WRONG so I guess that’s one red flag the other of course he’s going to say whatever it takes to get into Scotland to “take care” of her and son.... the treatments??! What proof is there to see? I hope she’s ok but these treatments seem to come up a lot in this forum. And being asked for surgeries I’m pretty sure didn’t exist I would have to see some hardcore proof

 

[confuseddotcom]

If a Muslim has real beliefs on sex they know that what he’s doing with her on the phone is fornication ITS WRONG so I guess that’s one red flag the other of course he’s going to say whatever it takes to get into Scotland to “take care” of her and son.... the treatments??! What proof is there to see? I hope she’s ok but these treatments seem to come up a lot in this forum. And being asked for surgeries I’m pretty sure didn’t exist I would have to see some hardcore proof

Exactly if they’re having phone sex then surely he’s still getting a “release” from it. These rats and ratbellas will do everything besides piv penetration and believe they’re doing no wrong LOL.

 

[Pennylane]

Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA

Unless they have actually met in person and can prove a relationship, there's no chance of him getting a visa to visit the uk .The main priority I think is to make sure she never sends money to him . Treatment is free if you are poor in Tunisia, you pay what you can afford.

 

[Lass]

Hi and welcome to the forum @Christine I don't want to put a downer on you and your friend but I see nothing but red flags. Meeting online, wanting to marry without even meeting her in person, claiming his undying love, his mother's cancer treatment, being a devoted Muslim but having some "fun" on the Internet. You asked if he is too good to be true. My answer is no, he is not. He is what he is. He doesn't even sound good. You added that your friend has a child with Autism, can I please add an extremely important fact- with all respect to Tunisian people but from my experience they have very little understanding of people on the spectrum or with any mental problems so it would be difficult for your friend and her son. Hope you find this comment helpful.

 

[Croydon girl]

Hi and welcome to the forum @Christine I don't want to put a downer on you and your friend but I see nothing but red flags. Meeting online, wanting to marry without even meeting her in person, claiming his undying love, his mother's cancer treatment, being a devoted Muslim but having some "fun" on the Internet. You asked if he is too good to be true. My answer is no, he is not. He is what he is. He doesn't even sound good. You added that your friend has a child with Autism, can I please add an extremely important fact- with all respect to Tunisian people but from my experience they have very little understanding of people on the spectrum or with any mental problems so it would be difficult for your friend and her son. Hope you find this comment helpful.

Great Post Lass!

 

[MH007]

Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.

I hate to pour water on this but the fact he met her online RED FLAG, talking of marriage so quickly RED FLAG, accepting another mans child RED FLAG and that will be just the beginning.

His mother has cancer and I truly hope this is not true and if it is then I wish her well however this is a very well known plot from rats, you do know health care is free in Tunisia? They have been known to send pictures of OTHER PEOPLES test results and x-rays to add weight to their lie, sick but it happens.

Is there much of an age gap between them?

MH x

 

[Peacock]

Why on earth would someone want to provide proof of their mother's cancer treatment?????
I have had cancer treatment and never felt the need to prove it to anyone. I couldn't have shown proof anyway. You don't get documents from the hospital!! The only proof I had was my bald head in 2001 after chemo lol. What a load of rubbish. My son never felt the need to prove to his g/f that I was having treatment. Only liars feel the need to prove things.

He is a rat. Meeting online and insisting on marriage so quickly is total rat behaviour.

Being intimate on the phone is risky. Rats often blackmail their victims by threatening to send intimate photos to their victim's family. Tell your friend to be careful about what body parts and actions she shares with him, they might be shared with her family in the future!!!

 

[Sabrina]

Why on earth would someone want to provide proof of their mother's cancer treatment?????
I have had cancer treatment and never felt the need to prove it to anyone. I couldn't have shown proof anyway. You don't get documents from the hospital!! The only proof I had was my bald head in 2001 after chemo lol. What a load of rubbish. My son never felt the need to prove to his g/f that I was having treatment. Only liars feel the need to prove things.

He is a rat. Meeting online and insisting on marriage so quickly is total rat behaviour.

Being intimate on the phone is risky. Rats often blackmail their victims by threatening to send intimate photos to their victim's family. Tell your friend to be careful about what body parts and actions she shares with him, they might be shared with her family in the future!!!

I was thinking the same thing he might be videoing her while they are intimate would not be the first time and he can use this against her later if she doesn’t give him what he wants! Very risky

 

[Moonshine1]

 

[Moonshine1]

And the winner for many years are the rat company off tunisia
Ratsvilla a programe designed to help each and everyone connected to rats drama school in bezzness and abuse manypulation and narssastic tendancies
What wonderful performances excellent deserving off many awards
Powerful rats we would like to thanks ratsvilla for showing us drama at its finest and showing the insight into the world off man rats
Now take note women they won the ocscqr because we allowed it
Now let's stop and us win the Oscar as we fight back the rats
Let's be pied pipers the new drama for women and defeat and win for next year Oscar!!!!!!

 

[tutusandfrogs]

Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.

No, they don't ultimately want to live in Tunisia, even if they have money. Why would anyone like in a g7 country and then move back to a 3rd world country?

 

[PaWaa]

Health care that can be given for free in Tunisia is very poor. Especially about cancer. If you really want your close one to heal up, you have to go to a private clinic and pay, and it's not cheap at all. Since he did not ask her for money for mother's treatment, her desease has nothing to do with red flag.

 

[Myriam1]

Your friend having no religion at all and him, so called devout muslim, accepting this without any problem is ANOTHER HUGE RED FLAG, as muslims can not associate with other than women from the "people of the book" being muslim, christian, jewish...all other women are just good for hellfire...
As for the rest of his symptoms...Whoop whoop RAT!

 

[Amira]

Your friend having no religion at all and him, so called devout muslim, accepting this without any problem is ANOTHER HUGE RED FLAG, as muslims can not associate with other than women from the "people of the book" being muslim, christian, jewish...all other women are just good for hellfire...
As for the rest of his symptoms...Whoop whoop RAT!

Religious or not. Honestly see or to Tunisia rights. They have no benefits regarding unemployment, health, etc. One can be a 100% devout Muslim but still an asshole when it comes to finances

 

[Moonshine1]

Health care that can be given for free in Tunisia is very poor. Especially about cancer. If you really want your close one to heal up, you have to go to a private clinic and pay, and it's not cheap at all. Since he did not ask her for money for mother's treatment, her desease has nothing to do with red flag.

You don't understand the mentality off these lies the rats pull to get money !

Will even use parents siblings in tne game off scamming for money !!!

The hospitals where I was in tunisia were good modern hospitals well equipped to deal with any disease

Like other countries if u want a quicker diagnosis and treatment you go private
But the free clinics and hospitals are good enough

You just dont use private if u cant afford it
And because u have a western woman should she foot the bill for mothers private treatment no

Its up to the family if they want private treatment for mother then its your responsibility not the western woman

But the rats lie and lie and never do they ever take responsibility for anything they do !!!

Wouldn't we all like private treatment but we don't scrounge like they do and the free hospitals in tunisia I will say do a fantastic job off care !!!

 

[Moonshine1]

No, they don't ultimately want to live in Tunisia, even if they have money. Why would anyone like in a g7 country and then move back to a 3rd world country?

The rats 90% off them do move back to the country they proclaim to hate .
No matter how good they have it in your country
No matter how good the western woman gives his life
The ultimate goal is visa money in hidden bank account and back to tunisia to marry a plastic hymen bride thats the truthh off 90% off tunisian ratliars !!!!

 

[PaWaa]

When tourists come to Tunisia they have insurance which covers a lot of cases. The insurance company makes agrrements not with state hospitals but with private practice doctors and private clinics. One of them you could stay using insurance. I will not commit anything but think so, because in small towns there are state hospitals where doctors come 2 days per week and that's it. During other days only midwives and nurses can be found there.
It sound nice - "free helth care", but in reality they have a choice: to wait for help in state clinic and may be die faster than doctor will come, or go to a private clinic for good treatment.
As they have big families, often the whole family collects money to help a sick person.
All i wanted to say - to have a sick relative is not a red flag untill the man is not asking the woman for money for treatment.

 

[Amira]

Many of them choose to move back because they are unable to adjust to the West. If you move to a country, you must comply with the country's rules and laws. Many of them do not like us because in their eyes we are unbelievers. Yes they are exploiting European women that is true

 

[Sabrina]

Health care that can be given for free in Tunisia is very poor. Especially about cancer. If you really want your close one to heal up, you have to go to a private clinic and pay, and it's not cheap at all. Since he did not ask her for money for mother's treatment, her desease has nothing to do with red flag.

We see red flags because all of our rats have pretended (lied) about having something wrong and wanted money for surgery TOTAL BULL CRAP this is the reason for red flags! Kidney stones, hernia etc .... I’m sure the free healthcare can take care of that just fine, especially when they more then likely didn’t even get it!!!!!!!!! So hopefully they are not lying about cancer ..but here on this forum we see lies , red flags

 

[Croydon girl]

When tourists come to Tunisia they have insurance which covers a lot of cases. The insurance company makes agrrements not with state hospitals but with private practice doctors and private clinics. One of them you could stay using insurance. I will not commit anything but think so, because in small towns there are state hospitals where doctors come 2 days per week and that's it. During other days only midwives and nurses can be found there.
It sound nice - "free helth care", but in reality they have a choice: to wait for help in state clinic and may be die faster than doctor will come, or go to a private clinic for good treatment.
As they have big families, often the whole family collects money to help a sick person.
All i wanted to say - to have a sick relative is not a red flag untill the man is not asking the woman for money for treatment.

Who are you? What's your story? Seem like a rat defender to me! Talking a load of crap!

 

[PaWaa]

I did not say any crap, and did not insult anybody, and did not defend any rats, I've just admitted that the fact of having a sick relative doesn't make a person a rat automatically.
If he does not ask for money for treatment.
Please be reasonable and do not insult me.

 

[Croydon girl]

I did not say any crap, and did not insult anybody, and did not defend any rats, I've just admitted that the fact of having a sick relative doesn't make a person a rat automatically.
If he does not ask for money for treatment.
Please be reasonable and do not insult me.

I'm not insulting you, just want to know why you are here? Ok!

 

[MH007]

I did not say any crap, and did not insult anybody, and did not defend any rats, I've just admitted that the fact of having a sick relative doesn't make a person a rat automatically.
If he does not ask for money for treatment.
Please be reasonable and do not insult me.

It is because 'most' rats start off with a family member having cancer or some other terrible illness, whilst we would never mock this if it is genuine we also find it hard to believe. The healthcare is there and you saying that he hasn't asked for money, they often start by telling us their emotional stories and hard luck stories in the hope that we, eventually, OFFER to help with costs because we are empathetic, kind and loving people - so, yes, you can say it isn't a red flag but actually 99% of the time it is!

The information you have given is gratefully received and perhaps translation has come across as you are defending the rats?

MH x