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MH007

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I’m allowed to disagree with anything you say, so keep that in mind, you or nobody else will think for me or tell me what to believe. So you ask who I am, I’m a Lebanese woman, I am a Muslim woman, I’m an educated free thinking loyal woman, I’m logical yet friendly and I’m married to a Tunisian man; very proud wife ( he is educated, not from poor family, not from the outskirts, paid and still pays for his family; meaning me and never ever worked in Tourism), I live in Sousse. We moved back here after living in New York/ PA area for some years. There are plenty of things we liked about USA, but we wanted to be in a more laidback country and kids be closer to my husbands family. I would actually love to say everything you wrote is “nonsense” as you say, but I’ll give you a little more respect, after all you are entitled to your opinion. But going off facts I can tell you so many couples I personally know of successful Tunisian men and women being married to westerners. I was an executive member for a German company for many years before deciding to have children and many of my financial colleagues were married to Tunisian men that also worked in the same sector, there was nothing to gain from one another. So by you saying “ only the poorest are in such relationships”, it’s not true. I see where you are coming from though, unfortunately it’s often the case when some lower class citizens find western women to marry to get out of a bad situation, but not always.... so don’t make a blanket statement. As far as you telling me take a look at the jabris in the gallery,, you are right most look like scum, but let’s be honest there is someone for everyone and Tunisia has its share of low class and easy women as well. So these guys you say have no opportunity with local women is false, they do and most of them are sleeping with their Tunisian woman while their western women WesternUnion money to them and then both of the scums spend it. Also, a handful of men in that gallery could fool any woman, but the majority I agree are not eye candy. By the way, I’m dying of curiosity, please send me the website with the statistics showing that thousands of Tunisian Doctors, IT, Engineers ..... rarely marry western women. After that maybe you can pull University of Tunis records and let’s just discuss how many “thousands” graduates from the professions you mentioned per year and obtain visas to work abroad, then we will statistically determine the amount from that pool that marry and find available Tunisian women abroad, I think that would be an interesting topic alone. Now, to finish I have a question for you... are you actually with a western woman?
Great post as always :love:

MH x
 

Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
Forget about what some hypocrites (from tunisia) write in this forum !
Good tunisian men would NEVER EVER date a westerner unless you are very very different from the ordinary women in Europe !
Moreover , French women have a horrible reputation in Tunisia !
I would like to understand what you mean, "very very different" and "ordinary women in Europe" as in how and ask that you consider how does that actually sound to all of the women who are happily married to Tunisians?

I think it would take me twenty years plus to describe an ordinary woman in Europe and on that basis what therefore is an ordinary man in Tunisia?

And again, I would like to understand how the horrible reputation comment for French women is based?

I have been to Tunisia twice and barely had eye contact from a Tunisian female other than a parent of the guy I met, in fact Tunisian women looked away from me, not exactly welcoming but I still wouldn't generalise and make a sweeping judgement over all Tunisian women!!
 
Yeah Serbia rings a bell mine wanted me to sell my home in America and move there since he didn’t need visa of course I would be paying for everything with the funds from my house??? Nah and by the way what the heck is a Serbia?:sick:
Sabrina, Serbia is a wonderful country in Europe
 

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SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
I would like to understand what you mean, "very very different" and "ordinary women in Europe" as in how and ask that you consider how does that actually sound to all of the women who are happily married to Tunisians?

I think it would take me twenty years plus to describe an ordinary woman in Europe and on that basis what therefore is an ordinary man in Tunisia?

And again, I would like to understand how the horrible reputation comment for French women is based?

I have been to Tunisia twice and barely had eye contact from a Tunisian female other than a parent of the guy I met, in fact Tunisian women looked away from me, not exactly welcoming but I still wouldn't generalise and make a sweeping judgement over all Tunisian women!!
You and Aisha1 said everything that, I believe, we all think.

When I first read his post, I thought of responding but I just rolled my eyes and thought... whatever. (didn’t realize it was a “he” by the way. Not surprised.) You two responded tons better than I would have, keeping it polite, classy and to the point.

I lived in France and there are indeed Tunisian men -not rats but successful classy men- married to French women, for love, not for gain. I saw it firsthand. I don’t know where he got these ideas that good Tunisian men would never marry a westerner. All I can think of is this person has a chip on his shoulder and has bitter feelings. Maybe he was hurt or rejected in the past by an European woman. The only good thing I learned from his post is the word “chav”. Never heard this word before. lol I like it.

And yes, there are Tunisian women who want these chavs too. Don’t most of them end up marrying a local girl? Some of these girls are there by their side for years while they are ratting and scamming honest women who are sincere. European women may want them but they don’t know that they are bums. When they realize, they don’t want them anymore. The local girlfriends are ok to settle with these bums and they know what they’re all about. Not only they know what their boyfriend does but they’re ok with that because of course, it will benefit them in the long run. That’s the difference but Mr Horn-mad rat seems to have disdain only for the victims.
 
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hippichic

Major Ratslayer
Hmmm...my ex rat always used the word chav..picked up from when he lived in England...that was before he physically abused his English wife and was refused entry back into the country...maybe the ban shouldn't have been lifted on this guy..he is obviously a drama queen,and a twat!!
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Hmmm...my ex rat always used the word chav..picked up from when he lived in England...that was before he physically abused his English wife and was refused entry back into the country...maybe the ban shouldn't have been lifted on this guy..he is obviously a drama queen,and a twat!!
Glad this rat was kicked out of England. Oh, and “twat” is another British word I learned here in this forum. I like it too :)
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
“Most reproduce by the age of 14” : now, that is a scary thought. Anyway, Urban Dictionary is funny and sarcastic.
Still, the beginning of the definition could apply to rats. Vermin, fake sportswear (even if it’s not fake, they still look tacky), flashy gold jewelry.. Yes, that describes rats.
 
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SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
I like the word NED that they use in certain parts of the UK and it is short for 'non educated deliquent' :D

MH x
NED. That’s a new word too for me. I like it and I’m adding it to my list of slang British words. :) I lived in England for a year as an au pair a long time ago but I don’t remember all these words. Maybe some of these are new... Anyway, isn’t Ned also a common first name? I feel sorry for people named Ned now.
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
NED. That’s a new word too for me. I like it and I’m adding it to my list of slang British words. :) I lived in England for a year as an au pair a long time ago but I don’t remember all these words. Maybe some of these are new... Anyway, isn’t Ned also a common first name? I feel sorry for people named Ned now.
I'm English but have never heard of NED either!
 

Hayhud

Major Ratslayer
I’m allowed to disagree with anything you say, so keep that in mind, you or nobody else will think for me or tell me what to believe. So you ask who I am, I’m a Lebanese woman, I am a Muslim woman, I’m an educated free thinking loyal woman, I’m logical yet friendly and I’m married to a Tunisian man; very proud wife ( he is educated, not from poor family, not from the outskirts, paid and still pays for his family; meaning me and never ever worked in Tourism), I live in Sousse. We moved back here after living in New York/ PA area for some years. There are plenty of things we liked about USA, but we wanted to be in a more laidback country and kids be closer to my husbands family. I would actually love to say everything you wrote is “nonsense” as you say, but I’ll give you a little more respect, after all you are entitled to your opinion. But going off facts I can tell you so many couples I personally know of successful Tunisian men and women being married to westerners. I was an executive member for a German company for many years before deciding to have children and many of my financial colleagues were married to Tunisian men that also worked in the same sector, there was nothing to gain from one another. So by you saying “ only the poorest are in such relationships”, it’s not true. I see where you are coming from though, unfortunately it’s often the case when some lower class citizens find western women to marry to get out of a bad situation, but not always.... so don’t make a blanket statement. As far as you telling me take a look at the jabris in the gallery,, you are right most look like scum, but let’s be honest there is someone for everyone and Tunisia has its share of low class and easy women as well. So these guys you say have no opportunity with local women is false, they do and most of them are sleeping with their Tunisian woman while their western women WesternUnion money to them and then both of the scums spend it. Also, a handful of men in that gallery could fool any woman, but the majority I agree are not eye candy. By the way, I’m dying of curiosity, please send me the website with the statistics showing that thousands of Tunisian Doctors, IT, Engineers ..... rarely marry western women. After that maybe you can pull University of Tunis records and let’s just discuss how many “thousands” graduates from the professions you mentioned per year and obtain visas to work abroad, then we will statistically determine the amount from that pool that marry and find available Tunisian women abroad, I think that would be an interesting topic alone. Now, to finish I have a question for you... are you actually with a western woman?
Girl, I LOVE YOU !
I must also point out the claim of Doctors and etc, means nothing. I can show this person how many Doctors, Nurses, and even College professors are in my inbox. The profession does not discriminate with these men. In fact, no matter where you are in the world there are men and women who will use someone for their own gain. Yes, a man in the USA with me is not going to need me for papers, but a man down my street could just as well use me for other things and lie to my face as well. It is all a gamble anywhere you go. I have had Tusnisan men tell me that there are plenty of B******* as they call them in Tunisia who will do anything in secret. I think the biggest thing is learning the differences in culture. I have gained so much information and insight on this site !!!
 
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Aisha1

Major Ratslayer
Girl, I LOVE YOU !
I must also point out the claim of Doctors and etc, means nothing. I can show this person how many Doctors, Nurses, and even College professors are in my inbox. The profession does not discriminate with these men. In fact, no matter where you are in the world there are men and women who will use someone for their own gain. Yes, a man in the USA with me is not going to need me for papers, but a man down my street could just as well use me for other things and lie to my face as well. It is all a gamble anywhere you go. I have had Tusnisan men tell me that there are plenty of B******* as they call them in Tunisia who will do anything in secret. I think the biggest thing is learning the differences in culture. I have gained so much information and insight on this site !!!
When you have free time look up Sigheh. It’s sorta like a temporary marriage allowing the man to have one night stand, few weeks of fun or whatever.... then the freedom to leave the woman once the contract terms end. You will not believe who organizes this temp marriage. So yea.....
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
When you have free time look up Sigheh. It’s sorta like a temporary marriage allowing the man to have one night stand, few weeks of fun or whatever.... then the freedom to leave the woman once the contract terms end. You will not believe who organizes this temp marriage. So yea.....
Wow that’s just f*cked up!

Then again at least they both know where they stand so no pretence on either side.

MH x
 

Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
I'm English but have never heard of NED either!
My Scottish mates use the word ned or 'jakey' also lolol.

As to Chavs, when I saw all the rats in their label emblazoned fake designer tat, I instantly thought of how Chavy they look and I would never date a man who dresses like that with a nasty greasy thing on his head.

Not two dinars to rub together but head to toe in counterfeit !?!?
 

Yzapaty

Major Ratslayer
Hello ladies,

For a while I’ve been reading the threads on this forum, and I would now like to get your opinion on my situation. It is a long story.
I am French, so my English grammar is not perfect.

A long time ago I met a guy online (can’t even remember where) and he happened to be Tunisian. Smart and speaks English (and French, of course) perfectly. Very kind and been friends for a long time, but never met in real life. He told me about his then-girlfriend and shared his pain with me when she broke up with him. He never talked bad about her or other Tunisian women. We continued to be friends. Now, 4 years after that breakup, he said he has developed feelings for me and to be honest so do I. Now of course we would like to meet when the whole pandemic issue has gotten better.
I said I don’t want to visit him in Tunisia and he was fine with it. He can not come to Schengen-Europe because of visa ristrictions, but is in the process to permanently come to France through his family. I’ve seen that application signed and stamped by the authorities.
He said he really wants to meet me and doesn’t matter where. I could say where. I told him I want to meet in Serbia (he can go there). He agreed and we will stay in different hotels, he never mentioned staying together.

In my opinion the former sounds quite ok. But what worries me is this: he is I think what the people here would refer to as “love bombing” me (never ghosts me). He also talks about intimacy.
He tells me that if we also have this chemistry in in real life and meet more often, he is in for it to lead to marriage, but not now or in a short time. He did ask me how a man should propose to a woman here and how he should behave with her family for a meeting with them.
Should we meet, he will tell his mother that he is going to meet me. He said he is serious about me

He never once asked me about money or my possessions or my job. I did ask him all that. He kindly responded. He has a great degree and a good job and never complains.
Our age difference is 1 year, him being older. We are 29 and 28. He never once ghosted me and is very consistent. His background checks out (his work and name and all) and does not have multiple social media accounts in any variation of his name. He does have 3 women from Western countries in his friend list, of 1 I can see she actually studied in Tunisia. They liked 1 picture of him. No flirty comments from Tunisian ladies either.

I hope I wrote it clearly.. I guess that are all the details. Am I in the amiga stage or do you think he might be for real?
Thank you so much for your time. Stay safe
Hi if I was you. I would search more. And also there is a reason why he is not asking about money yet. Please becareful and see his social media you may be surprise what you can find. Goggme his name and see if he is linked to any porn, they love to video without your consent and sales. Some one them make money like that. Please research more. Good luck and blessings.
 

Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
Hello ladies,

For a while I’ve been reading the threads on this forum, and I would now like to get your opinion on my situation. It is a long story.
I am French, so my English grammar is not perfect.

A long time ago I met a guy online (can’t even remember where) and he happened to be Tunisian. Smart and speaks English (and French, of course) perfectly. Very kind and been friends for a long time, but never met in real life. He told me about his then-girlfriend and shared his pain with me when she broke up with him. He never talked bad about her or other Tunisian women. We continued to be friends. Now, 4 years after that breakup, he said he has developed feelings for me and to be honest so do I. Now of course we would like to meet when the whole pandemic issue has gotten better.
I said I don’t want to visit him in Tunisia and he was fine with it. He can not come to Schengen-Europe because of visa ristrictions, but is in the process to permanently come to France through his family. I’ve seen that application signed and stamped by the authorities.
He said he really wants to meet me and doesn’t matter where. I could say where. I told him I want to meet in Serbia (he can go there). He agreed and we will stay in different hotels, he never mentioned staying together.

In my opinion the former sounds quite ok. But what worries me is this: he is I think what the people here would refer to as “love bombing” me (never ghosts me). He also talks about intimacy.
He tells me that if we also have this chemistry in in real life and meet more often, he is in for it to lead to marriage, but not now or in a short time. He did ask me how a man should propose to a woman here and how he should behave with her family for a meeting with them.
Should we meet, he will tell his mother that he is going to meet me. He said he is serious about me

He never once asked me about money or my possessions or my job. I did ask him all that. He kindly responded. He has a great degree and a good job and never complains.
Our age difference is 1 year, him being older. We are 29 and 28. He never once ghosted me and is very consistent. His background checks out (his work and name and all) and does not have multiple social media accounts in any variation of his name. He does have 3 women from Western countries in his friend list, of 1 I can see she actually studied in Tunisia. They liked 1 picture of him. No flirty comments from Tunisian ladies either.

I hope I wrote it clearly.. I guess that are all the details. Am I in the amiga stage or do you think he might be for real?
Thank you so much for your time. Stay safe
Hi @Florencia welcome.
So you know this friend for four years, he has had 3 girlfriends all those years, he came crying on your shoulder when he broke up with the last on (Tunisian girl)?
Things are heating up for him bcz he has to have “status” , he already has a job, financially doesn’t need you but he has not been abroad!
This is where you come in..... he needs a favour! To live abroad for a while then when he gets his Visa... Boom! He has completed all his status to marry his Tunisian gf.
Long time friends usually stay friends it’s very uncommon to become lovers unless they fancy you from the beginning, he should have revealed his feelings for you after at least a year but why wait 4years??
He doesn’t LOVE you... he NEEDS you.
Are you willing to get him to Europe and helping obtain a Visa ?
Because behind his so call feelings for you that’s what he really wants!!
Be honest with him and simply tell him that if he wants to come to Europe to live he better start saving because it will be very expensive for you to help.
BE HONEST with him and yourself.
Best wishes x
 

Yzapaty

Major Ratslayer
Girl, I LOVE YOU !
I must also point out the claim of Doctors and etc, means nothing. I can show this person how many Doctors, Nurses, and even College professors are in my inbox. The profession does not discriminate with these men. In fact, no matter where you are in the world there are men and women who will use someone for their own gain. Yes, a man in the USA with me is not going to need me for papers, but a man down my street could just as well use me for other things and lie to my face as well. It is all a gamble anywhere you go. I have had Tusnisan men tell me that there are plenty of B******* as they call them in Tunisia who will do anything in secret. I think the biggest thing is learning the differences in culture. I have gained so much information and insight on this site !!!
A tunisian mwn will not have respect for you once he gets in your pants. Always remember that.
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
A tunisian rat has NO respect whatsoever to a woman he doesn't need to have been in a woman's pants. The only woman he respects is his mummy ;)
I don’t think they even respect their mother. They just act like they do so they’ll look like good respectful men and because it’s part of their culture to claim that and because it’s manly for a man to respect their mother.
whrn we think if it, what do they do for their mother? They don’t even help them with housework or any hard work they have to do. They wouldn’t hesitate to wake up their mom in the middle of the night if they want something to eat. They do nothing to better themselves so their mother can be proud of them. They are not capable to do anything good and noble.
They may not purposefully harm or hurt their mother but they don’t do anything good for them and they are not capable of respecting anyone. If they would have to rescue their mother out of a burning house, they wouldn’t scarify their own life so they can save their mother’s. They are cowards and don’t have respect or pure unconditional love for anyone.
 
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