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Alien
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Herewith, I would like to summarize the outcome of the most of relationship between European women and Tunisian men.
Everybody can read more about it on the internet, in several webpages, or also in this forum in different threads. This is a short summarizing extraction from those.
The topic of “love relations” is a very vast topic, and is, according to numerous discussions in relevant forums, an increasingly popular one. In fact, the number of cases mount up to several tens of thousands each year!
Most of them end just with broken dreams, hurt feelings or some minor financial losses, quite a few with significant emotional scars, violence, massive threats or losses of life existances, and a few even with child abduction, bankruptcy and attempted manslaughter.
WHAT IS "BEZNESS"?
The term "Bezness" originates from the English word "business", and generally refers to profit-oriented activities of locals to tourists with the sole aim of creating advantages for one self.
In a narrower sense, the term is used for the pretention of love feelings toward women with the sole objective of gaining financial or material benefits or a residence permit in a western country, preferably Europe.
It is, in this sense, very much similar to terms like "marriage fraud" or "scam".
In French, terms like "Mariage Gris" or "Mariage Blanc" are used, while more profane terms refer also to "immigration fraud", "immigration scam" and "fictitious marriage".
THE BEZNESSER
The main difference between a "Beznesser" and a "Papagallo" is the fact that he is not just into an amoreuse adventure for the holidays, but he uses this only as the first step of his project.
There are many stages and forms between a serious and a Bezness lover, and in Tunisia, one can rarely find a "pure" representative of either kind - but one thing is certain: men who work in the tourist industry and are eager to contact tourists, almost always belong to the group "Beznesser".
WHY BEZNESS??
Tunisia is one hand a poor country, where the minimum wage, which most working professionals receive, is less than 200 Euro (200 UKP, 300 USD) per month.
Tunisia is also a country that does not provide an awful lot of jobs - the unemployment figures are, according to official figures around 10%, and according to strict standards rather in the area of 30%.
And finally, Tunisia is a country where the citizens cannot simply "go away", but they will need for all European countries a visa.
To come into "Contact" with a western tourist is easy - it is sufficient, to just talk to a tourist.
The easiest way is, of course, to obtain a job in the tourist industry, especially in the animation or restauration area in an hotel.
But even if such a position can not be obtained, the chances are quite good to attract the attention of a western woman on the street, in a shop, a taxi or a discotheque.
GENERALLY, THEY ARE 3 TARGET GROUPS
üsingle, young and well situated women
üsingle elderly women
üall women
AND THE OBJECTIVES ARE IN THIS ORDER
üVisa to a western country
üFinancial donations
üFun in bed
IN LINE WITH OBJECTIVES, THEY PROCEED WITH:
Strategy and Tactics
In most cases, there will be immediate talks about marriage, in many cases, they will be demands for money or donations - outspoken or expected.
If the Beznesser got a "victim", which has only little or no money, then it is also not a real problem, because every day, new tourists arrive at the airport.
They won't let go of what they have obtained, of course, and so they will continue to "work" the relation, even if it is a parallel second-, third- or fourth relationship, because even when it does not yield a marriage and a visa, there lures still the prospect of sex and financial benefits of smaller nature - the payment of taxi fares and some disco visits, for example. And - who knows, maybe one need only to give it some more time and it will turn out well anyway.
A typical characteristic of all such relationships is therefore, that they will never be abandoned or forgotten - even after months and sometimes years, they might decide to follow up on an "old" affair. But as long as a relationship is still "hot" and are fresh, there will be fireworks of telephone and SMS contacts.
In such relationships, the ultimate winner will often be the victim that manages it the fastest to marry and to present a visa to a western country, and, ideally, pay all the celebrations and ticket costs as well.
RAT DICTIONNARY: - TYPICAL PHRASES:
Love:
I swear ...
Everybody can read more about it on the internet, in several webpages, or also in this forum in different threads. This is a short summarizing extraction from those.
The topic of “love relations” is a very vast topic, and is, according to numerous discussions in relevant forums, an increasingly popular one. In fact, the number of cases mount up to several tens of thousands each year!
Most of them end just with broken dreams, hurt feelings or some minor financial losses, quite a few with significant emotional scars, violence, massive threats or losses of life existances, and a few even with child abduction, bankruptcy and attempted manslaughter.
WHAT IS "BEZNESS"?
The term "Bezness" originates from the English word "business", and generally refers to profit-oriented activities of locals to tourists with the sole aim of creating advantages for one self.
In a narrower sense, the term is used for the pretention of love feelings toward women with the sole objective of gaining financial or material benefits or a residence permit in a western country, preferably Europe.
It is, in this sense, very much similar to terms like "marriage fraud" or "scam".
In French, terms like "Mariage Gris" or "Mariage Blanc" are used, while more profane terms refer also to "immigration fraud", "immigration scam" and "fictitious marriage".
THE BEZNESSER
The main difference between a "Beznesser" and a "Papagallo" is the fact that he is not just into an amoreuse adventure for the holidays, but he uses this only as the first step of his project.
There are many stages and forms between a serious and a Bezness lover, and in Tunisia, one can rarely find a "pure" representative of either kind - but one thing is certain: men who work in the tourist industry and are eager to contact tourists, almost always belong to the group "Beznesser".
WHY BEZNESS??
Tunisia is one hand a poor country, where the minimum wage, which most working professionals receive, is less than 200 Euro (200 UKP, 300 USD) per month.
Tunisia is also a country that does not provide an awful lot of jobs - the unemployment figures are, according to official figures around 10%, and according to strict standards rather in the area of 30%.
And finally, Tunisia is a country where the citizens cannot simply "go away", but they will need for all European countries a visa.
To come into "Contact" with a western tourist is easy - it is sufficient, to just talk to a tourist.
The easiest way is, of course, to obtain a job in the tourist industry, especially in the animation or restauration area in an hotel.
But even if such a position can not be obtained, the chances are quite good to attract the attention of a western woman on the street, in a shop, a taxi or a discotheque.
GENERALLY, THEY ARE 3 TARGET GROUPS
üsingle, young and well situated women
üsingle elderly women
üall women
AND THE OBJECTIVES ARE IN THIS ORDER
üVisa to a western country
üFinancial donations
üFun in bed
IN LINE WITH OBJECTIVES, THEY PROCEED WITH:
Strategy and Tactics
In most cases, there will be immediate talks about marriage, in many cases, they will be demands for money or donations - outspoken or expected.
If the Beznesser got a "victim", which has only little or no money, then it is also not a real problem, because every day, new tourists arrive at the airport.
They won't let go of what they have obtained, of course, and so they will continue to "work" the relation, even if it is a parallel second-, third- or fourth relationship, because even when it does not yield a marriage and a visa, there lures still the prospect of sex and financial benefits of smaller nature - the payment of taxi fares and some disco visits, for example. And - who knows, maybe one need only to give it some more time and it will turn out well anyway.
A typical characteristic of all such relationships is therefore, that they will never be abandoned or forgotten - even after months and sometimes years, they might decide to follow up on an "old" affair. But as long as a relationship is still "hot" and are fresh, there will be fireworks of telephone and SMS contacts.
In such relationships, the ultimate winner will often be the victim that manages it the fastest to marry and to present a visa to a western country, and, ideally, pay all the celebrations and ticket costs as well.
RAT DICTIONNARY: - TYPICAL PHRASES:
Love:
- I love you and I can't live without you
- I adore you
- My life has changed since I met you
- I love you since I saw you for the 1st time
- You are safe
- You are the most beautiful / nice / intelligent / sweet girl / woman in the world
- I was lost until I found you
- Now my life has a meaning
- Please come to me soon
- I need you
- I can’t live my life without you
- You are my woman
- I miss you, I love you, Will you marry me?
- My God says you are my woman.
- I 'm poor for now...but my heart very rich of love...and all it's yours
- I am for you and you are for me.
- You are my life my love
- Your voice is so nice / sweet
- I want to make a baby with you
- I want a baby from you. It will be the nicest and sweetest baby in the world
- I want to grow old with you
- Our last night shall be like the cream on the milk
- If you are sad, remember there is one person in the world who loves you
- You are good woman, woman for family
- I am different: I will never ask you for money
- I am with you because I love you - all the other guys have women who buy them cars, houses, businesses, give them money or marry them for visas. I don't have any of those things. I have a bad life
- I am with you because I want to be with you
- I am different, I never ask anyone for anything
- Trust me, I am different. I don't joke, I am serious
- Stop thinking so much. You think too much, have I given you any reason not to trust me
- My grandmother is ill she needs an operation but it is very expensive
- My mother is sick
- I will I have to go to the army unless I can pay 50/500/5000 dinars to get out of it
- I'm in the army and I need 20000 dinars to buy me out!
- My son/daughter/brother/sister is getting married and I'm working round the clock to pay for it!
- It is winter now I new a new thick coat.
- I need some clothes for the winter as I do not have any
- I haven't eaten all day (please send money lest I starve to death...!)
- I need to buy a cow, the last one died and it's really important for our future it costs 800 dinars!
- I need 10000 for my divorce before i can marry you
- Send me 100-500 EUR/UKP/USD to rent an apartment for the week you are coming out to visit me
- We only need 15000 dinars to finish the house
- I love my family but they are poor and I need to help them
- But I am not ok because I want to buy a Macintosh to my older brother and they are too expensive... but I don't want your money!
- My telephone was stolen
- My telephone fell into the water and is now broken
- I need a pair of sportshoes (Nike, Adidas)
- We are 4 children and my father is working too much already
- We don't have the money to buy a sheep for the holiday
- I cannot pay the rent for my shop, can you help?
- I was robbed on my way home and they stole me all the money you gave me and my telephone
- Why you like to make me angry?
- What have I done, why don't you trust me, I could have anyone, but you are the only one in my heart
- I have never lied to you. It was the first and only time.
- My love, forgive me for talk loud to you but you make me crazy and angry
- If I hit you again I will cut off my hand, but you make me do it!
- I am a good man
- I have changed, I am not anymore like I was before
- I am poor
- Can’t find job
- There are no jobs
- I am so sad that I can not find a job
- I hate this job
- I have problems
- I am not ok
- I kill myself
- I will have to work until I drop dead
I swear ...
- My God says ...
- By the eyes / head of my mother
- Leaving the country:
- I love my country (but you can’t have a good life here)
- I love my country so so much
- I am happy in Tunisia, I don't ever want to leave my country.
- OK, I will leave my country if it will make you happy
- I tell my mother and she cries but it is ok she wants me to be happy
- I already told my family about you and they are so happy for me
- My family is so excited to meet you
- I love my family so so much
- Excuses for telephone switched off:
- The battery in my mobile needed charging - that's why my phone was off
- I lost my watch so I didnt know the time
- I've been sleeping
- I've been very sick with a cold (so I haven't been able to answer your calls)
- I ran out of credit so I couldnt call you for one month
- Excuses for others
- numbers / calls / messages:
- My friend used my phone the texts are for him!
- My friend sent them when he was drunk
- My friend used my mobile to text / speak to his Russian girlfriend
- It was not another woman just Tunisiana / Telecom asking questions about the service
- Don't make sex to anyone there. Wait for me. I am hot. I am crazy in bed
- The whole of tunisia is a big brothel
- Normally, I tell the women how much I want from them before I spend a night with them. I can earn hundreds of Dinars each night
- In my job I could have had many young and very beautyful women (to older or not pretty women)
- I feel shy because I am man and you are woman
- I want to marry woman, not
- girl (to older women)
- I know there are good and bad people everywhere. Me, myself, sometimes I'm good, sometimes I am even better.
- Dont listen to bad things baby. Dont go on internet.
- And they certainly know exactly why they do not want that...
oh Dear!!
I was sober too 
