All the rats are not mentioned here as there are many women who are scared to name their rat. It really is hard to know yours is real or not. Ask a trusted friend to do a search for him on social media to see if he has other acounts. But it's true what we all are trying to tell you. He fished you on the internet and that is always a bad sign
You are exactly right.
They totally will hide their true intentions until the hooks are in and the relationship is in the marriage status. Then maybe not til a little later but it comes out eventually! Then for us women it’s too late
Be careful all the women we're in here we went through that hell I watched all the forums here and I long ago thought I had the same problem as the other women here my husband finished me so mentally that I registered here and started writing my story with other women and they really supported me and I thank them I don't cry as much as before. Please be careful.
Yes seems they have olive trees or date trees they have to tend to. A lot work in hotels as there are not a lot of jobs available especially now! As far as going over wait and let him pay, most of us ladies here paid for everything!!! Which I’ve heard on here that’s what a decent Tunisian man does, pays for your trip with some exceptions of course your spending money I guess
I've searched using a family members account and only one account came up in his name which is the one I am on
They know how to hide well. They use different variations of their names (it’s easy with Arabic names) or nicknames or use accents and signs such à, ë, ô etc They can also write their names in Arabic or I’ve seen it too, in Russian.
From what I can gather he didnt work in hotels for long, and that was about 10 years ago. We never really spoke much about that but it's something I will start a conversation about when we next talk
I'm not rushing into anything, never have done so wont start now. I believe what will be will be and that everything happens at the time it's supposed too so I'm just taking each day as it comes. No money will ever be sent,I made that very clear and I stick to what I say.
Yes! No money nor pictures that you wouldn’t want your family or your friends to see!
Usually they are young around 23 cute and at their prime who really knows what happened this is where a lot of them find their love victims, I met mine on line like you
Hi Annie-May!My rat didn’t ask for anything for 5 months while we were talking, but when I bought tickets and booked a hotel, he started talking about some gifts for himself.
He told me not to buy expensive gifts for him, but he was always interested in the price of his gifts. So if you have been talking for 8 months and he hasn’t asked for anything yet, he will soon ask. You are already on his hook,
he builds intrigues, now he thinks over his every step.
be careful and take care of yourself.
I've already said I dont have the money right now to travel and to pay what I need to pay every month here, which is currently true
Have you asked why he is not married yet as mentioned by the other ladies he is 33 and by then most of them are already married
I've never asked, although he did say before if he wasnt married by a certain age he would never think to get married. I should have used that as a cue to ask why he isnt, but I think i was a bit shy too at the time, i didnt want to come across as nosey i guess.I get the impression from conversations we have had that seeing most of his friends married now has made him think more about his life. I'll definitely bring this conversation up with him and see what he says
It’s such a turn off when they ask for gifts. Ugh. I think it’s at that moment you realise you’re not with a real man, and you lose all respect.Hi Annie-May!My rat didn’t ask for anything for 5 months while we were talking, but when I bought tickets and booked a hotel, he started talking about some gifts for himself.
Right! As a true gentleman, he should pay. You are the one coming to see him. In a normal relationship, the man, most of the time, would offer to pay for the trip or at least to participate. Not only a rat doesn’t give one cent toward the trip and the hotel bills, but you have to bring gifts on top of that. Oh, how I detest their behavior. I can’t.
@Myriam1, so nice to read your posts! How have you been doing? Your posts are always right on point. You know the culture very well so it’s even easier for you to read though their behaviors.
That's a brilliant idea
Another thing that @Butterflies suggested is to checked his blocked list (if you go on his FB) I had never even thought of that but it’s a great tip.That's a brilliant idea
Be sure to do this Annie-May, I'd never have thought of that lol
Why is he so eager to appear genuine? If he's as sweetly innocent as he seems, the thought would never have occured to him. After all, you would not have asked him for the password either, and I think he knows this
He has said to me to feel free and ask anything I want and to be direct. I admit I'm not always good at being direct and straight to the point but will definitely try harder from now and see what happens
I reverse searched what I could with no results. Failed at accessing his account but that could be an error on my part so will try again and if successful will definitely check the block list. I felt awful even attempting but I know if he does turn out not to be genuine at least I wont have any regrets about checking or not
