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I want to write something on here that I have written on another thread somewhere.
I apologise in advance for the repetition, but on a thread with ‘Rape’ in the title, I feel it’s really important that these words are here too, as other rape victims may be drawn to the thread....not necessarily to comment, but to read, to understand they are not alone, they are a victim, they are NOT to blame.
When our bodies sense danger, our instant response is not done by our conscious self, our bodies react instinctively to a situation whereby we feel we are in danger, for example: Rape, physical abuse, terror attacks.
The four responses, one of which your body will choose, are:
. Fold aka, play dead (common during terror attacks).
You DO NOT choose....your subconscious being does, regardless of whether you are sober, drunk, taking drugs etc.
My natural reaction was to freeze, so I blamed myself, I felt it was my fault, as I didn’t fight, I didn’t run....I felt like I was partly responsible.
Those four reactions and the explanation are the words ingrained into my head by my Rape Crisis trauma counsellor....they are the words of a qualified professional in the field.
The victim is NEVER to blame.
When do we start placing the issue of rape on the perpetrator? Why is it somehow the victims fault in so many cases?
Rape isn't about sex.. just like @AmberHeart said, it is about control and humiliation.
And people wonder WHY so many victims don't come forward... Its because it's been ingrained in society that the victim somehow did something wrong. It's ridiculous and insane!