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Major Ratslayer
This sham wedding costs hardly anything but will cost you the western woman a lot off money to make u think its real
They are good actors and are paid to officiate what u think is a real wedding .
Because most off the western women dont know a lot off arabic laws and belive what the rat says is happening
They laugh because u think u are married but the rat and everyone else knows you are not !!
I think some off the weddings are called urfi weddings illegal weddings but they serve there purpose as a temporary marraige !!!!!
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
This si the link to report you are a marriage fraud victim. https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/protect-fraud/report-fraud.html
It's going one a real long time now @yougogirl75 I remember reading about it in 2019 , are you sure you can't get an explanation or help to see if you really need a divorce as you said it looked like it was a sham marriage? Maybe try again to see it can be resolved so you can finally move on with your life xxx. https://divorce-canada.ca/divorce-in-canada-faq
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
Also you can ask to your lawyer about this:
Grounds for annulment:
A marriage can also be annulled if one spouse was unable to, or refused to, consummate the marriage, if the marriage was entered into under duress, fear, or fraud, or if the spouses were too closely related to each other by blood or marriage.
An annulment is a way of ending a marriage, similar to a divorce. However, unlike a divorce where you must wait up to one year before you can apply, you can apply for an annulment at any time after the wedding.
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Thanks @Wiser its just this dark cloud looming over me I want to be free of it all
I was thinking of going to Tunisia and just ending it over there but my son said that I should not have to waste the time and energy to go.
I have no idea what awaits me there, kind of scary not really knowing if my ex-rat will do something.
so my son said just don't marry again although the marriage papers were done wrong so I don't know, anyways Canada won't interfere with matters in Tunisia
I have been neglected and abandoned shortly after the sham marriage so they consider it like living alone here
So I can live with someone but I cant marry because I have no divorce papers so its all confusing to me!
I have the contract I asked a lawyer in Sousse and he said that all I have to do is come there to sign.
Seems expensive to up and leave, and some people say get a divorce from here well its not all that easy.
I know other countries do it differently.
So I feel this dark cloud its like I am free yet this feeling of wanting not to be tied to the rat!
Because I feel this is a small obstacle, and my ex-rat knows it so I don't want to enter Tunisia ever again :Cry: :Cry: :Cry:
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confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
This sham wedding costs hardly anything but will cost you the western woman a lot off money to make u think its real
They are good actors and are paid to officiate what u think is a real wedding .
Because most off the western women dont know a lot off arabic laws and belive what the rat says is happening
They laugh because u think u are married but the rat and everyone else knows you are not !!
I think some off the weddings are called urfi weddings illegal weddings but they serve there purpose as a temporary marraige !!!!!
Orfi is what I had, I’m not sure if they are different in Egypt but some you can legally register. This makes things tricky for the woman because these contracts give you virtually no rights but the man can use it against you, and as a way to blackmail under the pretence that you’re properly married. It’s a grey area, but I wouldn’t advise anyone to have one as they benefit no one. It can give the rat a sense of power but even then he’ll push for a legal marriage so that he can get his visa.

A true marriage is when BOTH parties prepare and save up and it’s done with respect, the whole community has to know about it and give their blessings on it.
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
This sham wedding costs hardly anything but will cost you the western woman a lot off money to make u think its real
They are good actors and are paid to officiate what u think is a real wedding .
Because most off the western women dont know a lot off arabic laws and belive what the rat says is happening
They laugh because u think u are married but the rat and everyone else knows you are not !!
I think some off the weddings are called urfi weddings illegal weddings but they serve there purpose as a temporary marraige !!!!!
I call it a sham because there was a document missing called Statement of Marital Status, this is a document that I should have gotten but wasn't told it was needed for a municipal wedding in Tunis, so because it was after Ramadan as well there were not many openings but the rat did not look at other cities in Tunisia so we had to have a judge officiate in the rat's home. I had the Embassy's documents of non-impediment which is basically saying that I am able to marry but the Statement of Marital Status was like a guarantee that I was not married or engaged back home, its like a double guaranty.
Because a woman can have a non-impediment and still be engaged but in her country at least that is what the judge told me.
So the marriage went on with condition that I could get this Statement of Marital Status after I leave Tunisia well
if I did do this wouldn't I have to back date it, nobody is going to do it that is fraud.
I even tried to get this in the embassy and they said that they gave me a document before to marry that should be sufficient
and the rat said here give this graph paper which had on it a written affidavit well the embassy said the same thing.
So you see how the rat just hounded me into doing this, the embassy said "You know you don't have to do this"
Then that's why I say it is a sham, because it was done with my money to hand to a judge who says I am doing this on condition
of this paper that will be handed in after the wedding.
So you all, apparently on my papers its legal because it is a contract but on his side its like this will not be on his identity papers
because of this.
Then how would I prove he is married to me, talk about a loophole but its one that is illegal
So he was never married or it wasn't correctly done in Tunisia.
I will do what I can from here, but the onus is not on me to correct this , because its Islamic laws with municipal
laws, but either way if I choose to never do a thing, I am sure the rat if he remarries will do the right thing and send the papers to me.
either way I am not fussing, it just irks me a little but it is fraud.
how could i sponsor him anyways if he cannot prove he is married with the identity papers that show he is single.
very complicated to wrap my head around it all.
But the rat really hounded me for this paper and it just cannot be done after the fact.
So either I had to fraudulently do that and I could get into a lot of trouble or do the right thing and tell the rat
its not possible!
 
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Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
I call it a sham because there was a document missing called Statement of Marital Status, this is a document that I should have gotten but wasn't told it was needed for a municipal wedding in Tunis, so because it was after Ramadan as well there were not many openings but the rat did not look at other cities in Tunisia so we had to have a judge officiate in the rat's home. I had the Embassy's documents of non-impediment which is basically saying that I am able to marry but the Statement of Marital Status was like a guarantee that I was not married or engaged back home, its like a double guaranty.
Because a woman can have a non-impediment and still be engaged but in her country at least that is what the judge told me.
So the marriage went on with condition that I could get this Statement of Marital Status after I leave Tunisia well
if I did do this wouldn't I have to back date it, nobody is going to do it that is fraud.
I even tried to get this in the embassy and they said that they gave me a document before to marry that should be sufficient
and the rat said here give this graph paper which had on it a written affidavit well the embassy said the same thing.
So you see how the rat just hounded me into doing this, the embassy said "You know you don't have to do this"
Then that's why I say it is a sham, because it was done with my money to hand to a judge who says I am doing this on condition
of this paper that will be handed in after the wedding.
So you all, apparently on my papers its legal because it is a contract but on his side its like this will not be on his identity papers
because of this.
Then how would I prove he is married to me, talk about a loophole but its one that is illegal
So he was never married or it wasn't correctly done in Tunisia.
I will do what I can from here, but the onus is not on me to correct this , because its Islamic laws with municipal
laws, but either way if I choose to never do a thing, I am sure the rat if he remarries will do the right thing and send the papers to me.
either way I am not fussing, it just irks me a little but it is fraud.
how could i sponsor him anyways if he cannot prove he is married with the identity papers that show he is single.
very complicated to wrap my head around it all.
But the rat really hounded me for this paper and it just cannot be done after the fact.
So either I had to fraudulently do that and I could get into a lot of trouble or do the right thing and tell the rat
its not possible!
It's very complicated @yougogirl75 i can understand its doing your head in as you want it to be over with and be done with it all. I suggest you definitely seek legal advice again to see if they can't fix it all via the tunisian embassy so atleast you know where you stand in all of this. It's confusing and stressful
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
It's very complicated @yougogirl75 i can understand its doing your head in as you want it to be over with and be done with it all. I suggest you definitely seek legal advice again to see if they can't fix it all via the tunisian embassy so atleast you know where you stand in all of this. It's confusing and stressful
I did send an email to the Tunisian consulate here where I am and this was suggested from higher up government officials and I have no
idea if they are working on it or not. Also another email was added that oversees the Tunisian consulate.
And some advice from other professionals who said that neglect, abandonment after a sham marriage is grounds enough to say it is a sham.
and if I could not find him as I don't know where he lives, in my country its like the worse thing, its like you are seen as you are single
Because if the rat had tried after instead of discarding me for another he was romancing he would have had a woman in me that would have never quit on the rat!
But he is what he is, he will always be where he is not going anywhere.
Now I heard somewhere that the rat is working in a resort in Tunisia I think its in Monastir
Its very simple for the rat to file for a divorce and do it there but he wants to put the burden on me like he did for everything
AS for other advice I received there are women who are estranged like me and have been free to live with someone else so there are options
AS for this judge allegedly the rat said he was shot and died, so I don't know what to think.
its all been a whirlwind of deceit and lies since the rat came in my life.
 
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Wiser

Major Ratslayer
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I did send an email to the Tunisian consulate here where I am and this was suggested from higher up government officials and I have no
idea if they are working on it or not. Also another email was added that oversees the Tunisian consulate.
And some advice from other professionals who said that neglect, abandonment after a sham marriage is grounds enough to say it is a sham.
and if I could not find him as I don't know where he lives, in my country its like the worse thing, its like you are seen as you are single
Because if the rat had tried after instead of discarding me for another he was romancing he would have had a woman in me that would have never quit on the rat!
But he is what he is, he will always be where he is not going anywhere.
Now I heard somewhere that the rat is working in a resort in Tunisia I think its in Monastir
Its very simple for the rat to file for a divorce and do it there but he wants to put the burden on me like he did for everything
AS for other advice I received there are women who are estranged like me and have been free to live with someone else so there are options
AS for this judge allegedly the rat said he was shot and died, so I don't know what to think.
its all been a whirlwind of deceit and lies since the rat came in my life.
The marriage is registered on their birth certificate, that could be the short way option to know if it was legal. If you have all the data about him, its possible to get a copy online.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Today i am sad.I have to admit it::I miss his messages.I cant get him out of my head,i try hard.I want to unblock him,but i say to myself NO...If i do he will be there again.
start his sweet talk and blah blah blah
Try not to beat yourself up too much, it is completely natural to have bad days but they will get less and less - it's a grieving process.

Stay strong, we know how tough it is <3

MH x
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Today i am sad.I have to admit it::I miss his messages.I cant get him out of my head,i try hard.I want to unblock him,but i say to myself NO...If i do he will be there again.
start his sweet talk and blah blah blah
We all know what you mean and we all where there where you are now but...... It was all lies from his side Maybella. There is no love on his side its only what he can gain from you. It's simple really once you get that sinked in to your head your heart will follow. Writing these sweet texts to you means nothing it's all words and they send these same texts to other women to. They copy each other's texts and nothing you wrote back to him is private.
 

maybella

Ratslayer
We all know what you mean and we all where there where you are now but...... It was all lies from his side Maybella. There is no love on his side its only what he can gain from you. It's simple really once you get that sinked in to your head your heart will follow. Writing these sweet texts to you means nothing it's all words and they send these same texts to other women to. They copy each other's texts and nothing you wrote back to him is private.
I cant understand how its possible to be so evil,i feel sick.Ofcourse he asked if i have children.He know them bcz they are at facebook,and he checked both.Im scared he would contact them.But they would never accept that i have a so much younger man.He is younger than my oldest son
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
I cant understand how its possible to be so evil,i feel sick.Ofcourse he asked if i have children.He know them bcz they are at facebook,and he checked both.Im scared he would contact them.But they would never accept that i have a so much younger man.He is younger than my oldest son
Adjust your settings to your social media to private. Warn your children you where "friends" with this man and ask them to block him and each attempt he tries. Don't feel ashamed or stupid just explain the basic things to your children. You are not alone in this up untill this day I have to be careful to adjust all my social media to private because after time passes these rats have a tendency to look up their victims from the past.
 
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maybella

Ratslayer
Adjust your settings to your social media to private. Warn your children you where "friends" with this man and ask them to block him and each attempt he tries. Don't feel ashamed or stupid just explain the basic things to your children. You are not alone in this up untill this day I have to be careful to adjust all my social media to private because after time passes these rats have a tendency to look up their victims gr the past.
It turns in my head::What if.....what if....What if he was real,but no, he couldnt be..
Not normal,too good to be true.
I have made my social media private
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
It turns in my head::What if.....what if....What if he was real,but no, he couldnt be..
Not normal,too good to be true.
I have made my social media private
He is a real rat. That's all he is. Nothing more and nothing else. People who never know anything about bezness don't believe you can fall into a trap of a scammer. And this is what your rat is. A tunisian love rat and a scammer. Lying, deceiving, trying to convince a woman he loves her. The what if will fade away when time passes but I know it hurts. It hurts to know you where scammed big time by a live rat. We are here for you xxxx
 

maybella

Ratslayer
He is a real rat. That's all he is. Nothing more and nothing else. People who never know anything about bezness don't believe you can fall into a trap of a scammer. And this is what your rat is. A tunisian love rat and a scammer. Lying, deceiving, trying to convince a woman he loves her. The what if will fade away when time passes but I know it hurts. It hurts to know you where scammed big time by a live rat. We are here for you xxxx
Thank you,and thank you to all ladys here.Im happy i found this forum,and i have read a lot here.I know with time i forget,i really hope
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
I cant understand how its possible to be so evil,i feel sick.Ofcourse he asked if i have children.He know them bcz they are at facebook,and he checked both.Im scared he would contact them.But they would never accept that i have a so much younger man.He is younger than my oldest son
Yes, they go to that lenght, they contact family members, even underage... They do not care. They keep a track on everyone in your contact list. It could help to warn them you are being harrassed so they can help you report and block, warn them to not reply nor open files. He has done enough damage in your life, do not allow him to cause damage in your beloved ones'
Stay strong xx
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
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The marriage is registered on their birth certificate, that could be the short way option to know if it was legal. If you have all the data about him, its possible to get a copy online.
So the lying rat had told me a long time ago after we split about this birth certificate so the rat BS's me and had said he would have to go to Beja to get a copy of a birth certificate. Cause he knew I wanted a divorce , but did not want to send me a pic of his birth certificate because he knows it doesn't say married. haha
You know I am not as stupid as I once was. Then he was at a resort called Hotel Chichkhan, it's a new one in Hammamet early August 2021
Here's a pic doesn't that look like he landed someone over there, hmm what piece of rat poop. Just sick of the web of deceit.
I will get this birth certificate through the Tunisian Embassy here, it will tell me what I already know, that or that another one is on it. LOL
Who knows with the rats could be divorced over there and the victim would never know it!!

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Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
So the lying rat had told me a long time ago after we split about this birth certificate so the rat BS's me and had said he would have to go to Beja to get a copy of a birth certificate. Cause he knew I wanted a divorce , but did not want to send me a pic of his birth certificate because he knows it doesn't say married. haha
You know I am not as stupid as I once was. Then he was at a resort called Hotel Chichkhan, it's a new one in Hammamet early August 2021
Here's a pic doesn't that look like he landed someone over there, hmm what piece of rat poop. Just sick of the web of deceit.
I will get this birth certificate through the Tunisian Embassy here, it will tell me what I already know, that or that another one is on it. LOL
Who knows with the rats could be divorced over there and the victim would never know it!!

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I'm sorry to say @yougogirl the rat wasn't a great looker and he doesn't age very well :D What man his age wear such a hat? It's a borselino hat I think he must feel like a little gangster now :rolleyes: Go get the papers you need youggogirl and finally have closer with him.
 

confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
So the lying rat had told me a long time ago after we split about this birth certificate so the rat BS's me and had said he would have to go to Beja to get a copy of a birth certificate. Cause he knew I wanted a divorce , but did not want to send me a pic of his birth certificate because he knows it doesn't say married. haha
You know I am not as stupid as I once was. Then he was at a resort called Hotel Chichkhan, it's a new one in Hammamet early August 2021
Here's a pic doesn't that look like he landed someone over there, hmm what piece of rat poop. Just sick of the web of deceit.
I will get this birth certificate through the Tunisian Embassy here, it will tell me what I already know, that or that another one is on it. LOL
Who knows with the rats could be divorced over there and the victim would never know it!!

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That hat looks too small for his head
 

confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
It turns in my head::What if.....what if....What if he was real,but no, he couldnt be..
Not normal,too good to be true.
I have made my social media private
The trouble with rats is yes like normal men they can make you feel good, but unlike normal men there’s a lot of ups and downs so you get stuck in this constant loop of joy and misery. It’s like the power and control wheel of domestic violence. A true, quality relationship should make you feel safe, it won’t always be exciting but you won’t constantly be on tenterhooks like with rats wondering what they’ll ask for next, or what the motives are behind everything. It gets to the point where you feel emotionally unstable and you second guess yourself, well with the right guy you won’t have to as a real man wants to reassure you. Rats don’t care, their needs come first.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
The trouble with rats is yes like normal men they can make you feel good, but unlike normal men there’s a lot of ups and downs so you get stuck in this constant loop of joy and misery. It’s like the power and control wheel of domestic violence. A true, quality relationship should make you feel safe, it won’t always be exciting but you won’t constantly be on tenterhooks like with rats wondering what they’ll ask for next, or what the motives are behind everything. It gets to the point where you feel emotionally unstable and you second guess yourself, well with the right guy you won’t have to as a real man wants to reassure you. Rats don’t care, their needs come first.
I do not miss checking my phone every few minutes in case he had text, worried if I didn't text back quick enough - didn't want to go out in case he called etc etc etc, it really isn't normal :mad::mad::mad:

MH x
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
I do not miss checking my phone every few minutes in case he had text, worried if I didn't text back quick enough - didn't want to go out in case he called etc etc etc, it really isn't normal :mad::mad::mad:

MH x
Exactly as they do think we only live for them and their endless needy texts or request to prove where you are or with who. It's a relief when you get rid of a rat. Now I am at peace but I have another problem now.... I seem to forget where I left my fone as I don't need it as much no more :D
 
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