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Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
I'm the same and I have (British) friends that live there so why should a rat prevent me from visiting - I don't stay in hotels anymore but the one occasion that I did I made it abundantly clear I do not want to 'chat' with animation, I didn't attend any of their shows and I didn't get any problems - I was left alone :cool:

MH x
I have seen some of these "shows" from these animators or what they do at the pool = they all stink at it who wants to see it anyway?? :D
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Hello, I haven't been on here for a little while, I just wanted to give you an update, I've been talking everyday with the Tunisian since November it's almost 7 months now I am 19 he is 36, he lied about his age at first and told me he was 28 even though he doesn't look 28! he looks older! Anyway he has booked two rooms in a hotel in Turkey for the start of June but now my country has said Travel to Turkey is forbidden because of the pandemic, he has already paid for these rooms I have seen the booking confirmation, we have planned to rearrange for the end of June but we really wanted to be together for his Birthday at the start of June, is anyone else in a similar position? I'm worried with all thats going on it's going to be a long time before I meet him face to face, I am losing patience, I have been on dates with men here and find myself thinking about the tunisian and wanting to return home to call him, I work for a cosmetic company so i am now back at work on the counter which helps keep me distracted from him, during lock down I was always eager for his messages, when I'm out with friends I think of him and look forward to returning home to chat with him, I'm fed up of waiting to meet him. I sometimes consider ending this communication with him so I don't feel like this but truth is I dream of meeting him everyday and I find myself dreaming what life would be like with him there. I'm Just feeling a little sad and trapped here, if it wasn't for coronavirus I would be meeting him and I'd be able to see it this is real or not.
Hi @Jasmine08 how are you today long time since you where here?
 

Tiana

Rat Expert
Hello, I can't believe I'm even writing this,
I am a 25 years old, i am an attractive girl and i could easily date somone who lives in my city but I have been talking to a 28 year old tunisian guy since November, we met on Instagram we have similar interests , same taste in music, both enjoy running, we run every day and compare how we did on the running app we have, and from what I can tell similar personalities. His Instagram is genuine, he has lots of pictures of him out with friends and at festivals, ive seen his facebook and it says single, he has a job in a factory, we have video called on what's app lots of times and we speak everyday and into the early hours of the morning, we both like to travel and he has asked if I would like to meet in Turkey for a holiday, I'm unsure what to do, we are both romantically attracted to each other, I have become very attached to him and he has admitted he has strong feelings for me. We spoke about how a long distance relationship would work and he said he would move to the UK, I asked him out right if he was using me for a visa because why else would he be interested in somone far away and he said he understands why it must come across like that but if things progresed with us he is happy if I moved to Tunisia, should I meet him in Turkey?
I am sensible and would be staying in istanbul in my own hotel. I just feel like I need to meet him to see if this is real.
meet him in turkey in a 5 star hotel its safer for u and always use condoms!!!
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
I still think about her every day and hope she is safe :(

@Jasmine08 if you read this please drop us a line to let us know you are okay and safe, you can PM if you prefer not to speak on the forum.

MH x
Me to MH think often about her she is so young and he is 36 I hate to think about what can go wrong when she decides to go and meet him. We where all that age one time so being in love feels nice and she will be flattered he give her all this attention. I do hope she is safe
 

Jasmine08

Junior Rat Expert
Hello ladies, I am here and I'm safe thank you for asking about me :)
I logged on because I wanted to give you an updated on my situation, I'm sorry I haven't logged on very much, i just started to get really bored of the tunisians conversation, his constant messages with pictures of himself in a cafe or driving his car or at the same beach, I started to find it really boring and sad for a man his age to be taking constant pictures and expecting them in return. I didnt want to have to send pictures of myself on the way to work or eating my lunch or when I'm with friends! His conversation started to bore me so much I replied less and less and made little effort to make conversation, the final straw was when he asked me who broke my hymen, I replied my ex obviously he said no, no one has touched you and I'll be the last to touch you, then my cousin was visiting and he accused me of having sex with him! I said to him politely our friendship is over we no longer get along let's move on and I received so much abuse I was called a whore, cold hearted slut, all kinds, this was nearly 3 weeks ago I've blocked him on everything and I will not be unblocking. lesson learned! I feel thankful I never got on a plane to see him earlier when i really into him! Thanks for all your messages over the last few months I'm grateful ! Xxx
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Hello ladies, I am here and I'm safe thank you for asking about me :)
I logged on because I wanted to give you an updated on my situation, I'm sorry I haven't logged on very much, i just started to get really bored of the tunisians conversation, his constant messages with pictures of himself in a cafe or driving his car or at the same beach, I started to find it really boring and sad for a man his age to be taking constant pictures and expecting them in return. I didnt want to have to send pictures of myself on the way to work or eating my lunch or when I'm with friends! His conversation started to bore me so much I replied less and less and made little effort to make conversation, the final straw was when he asked me who broke my hymen, I replied my ex obviously he said no, no one has touched you and I'll be the last to touch you, then my cousin was visiting and he accused me of having sex with him! I said to him politely our friendship is over we no longer get along let's move on and I received so much abuse I was called a whore, cold hearted slut, all kinds, this was nearly 3 weeks ago I've blocked him on everything and I will not be unblocking. lesson learned! I feel thankful I never got on a plane to see him earlier when i really into him! Thanks for all your messages over the last few months I'm grateful ! Xxx
Thank you, Jasmine08, for your update. I’m so happy for you. You did the right thing. I felt since the get go he was a creeper and possibly a psycho. Accusing you to have sex with a relative? That shows how perverted and twisted his mentality is. Who comes up with this kind of thing? These men -because these predators are all like that- have repulsive thoughts and are disgusting. So proud of you for taking control of the situation, Jasmine! He thought he had found a young girl he could manipulate but you showed him otherwise. Serves him right.

I’m so sorry for the insults you had to suffer. It’s degrading, hurtful and enraging because it’s so unfair but consider the source. He is a loser and what he says comes from too low to reach you. He is so angry you did not let him play his games and stopped taking his crap so of course he calls you names. These narcissists can’t handle rejection because of their fragile stupid little ego. He is nothing but a piece of garbage and a poor excuse of a human being. Forget what he says and don’t let it affect you. You know your worth. You are smart, savvy and you’re a beautiful young lady with dignity. You have so much to be looking forward and you didn’t need that in your life. He is a nothing and he has nothing to be proud about and nothing going on for him. Look at this unfortunate encounter as a teaching experience. Dealing with bad people who end up deceiving us or even just disappointing us helps us to be more clairvoyant in our future interactions with other people.

I feel sorry for the next one. Hopefully, like you, she’ll see his true colors in time. You definitely dodged a bullet. Now you can enjoy life without being hassled and disrespected by a worthless scumbag. Thank you again for letting us know about the outcome. It’s refreshing to hear such good news as these ones.
 
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Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Hello ladies, I am here and I'm safe thank you for asking about me :)
I logged on because I wanted to give you an updated on my situation, I'm sorry I haven't logged on very much, i just started to get really bored of the tunisians conversation, his constant messages with pictures of himself in a cafe or driving his car or at the same beach, I started to find it really boring and sad for a man his age to be taking constant pictures and expecting them in return. I didnt want to have to send pictures of myself on the way to work or eating my lunch or when I'm with friends! His conversation started to bore me so much I replied less and less and made little effort to make conversation, the final straw was when he asked me who broke my hymen, I replied my ex obviously he said no, no one has touched you and I'll be the last to touch you, then my cousin was visiting and he accused me of having sex with him! I said to him politely our friendship is over we no longer get along let's move on and I received so much abuse I was called a whore, cold hearted slut, all kinds, this was nearly 3 weeks ago I've blocked him on everything and I will not be unblocking. lesson learned! I feel thankful I never got on a plane to see him earlier when i really into him! Thanks for all your messages over the last few months I'm grateful ! Xxx
So happy you are safe and well Jasmine and really relieved he is out of your life and system as you where falling for him. The nerve of him to ask you about how you lost your virginity and how it happened and with who blows my mind. Who ask that? Luckely he blew his cover with his nasty words to you. Thank you for the update and live a happy rat free life xx
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Hello ladies, I am here and I'm safe thank you for asking about me :)
I logged on because I wanted to give you an updated on my situation, I'm sorry I haven't logged on very much, i just started to get really bored of the tunisians conversation, his constant messages with pictures of himself in a cafe or driving his car or at the same beach, I started to find it really boring and sad for a man his age to be taking constant pictures and expecting them in return. I didnt want to have to send pictures of myself on the way to work or eating my lunch or when I'm with friends! His conversation started to bore me so much I replied less and less and made little effort to make conversation, the final straw was when he asked me who broke my hymen, I replied my ex obviously he said no, no one has touched you and I'll be the last to touch you, then my cousin was visiting and he accused me of having sex with him! I said to him politely our friendship is over we no longer get along let's move on and I received so much abuse I was called a whore, cold hearted slut, all kinds, this was nearly 3 weeks ago I've blocked him on everything and I will not be unblocking. lesson learned! I feel thankful I never got on a plane to see him earlier when i really into him! Thanks for all your messages over the last few months I'm grateful ! Xxx
I actually gave a HUGE sigh of relief when I saw you had posted - I couldn't stop worrying about your situation and plans.

I would say I am sorry to hear all this but thank GOD you saw it all before hopping on that plane! Oh they are renowned for their selfies but the expectation for you to also send pics is a control thing so he can keep tabs on you......

He is creepy as hell and I really feel you have had one lucky escape, the things he says and the way he tried to groom you makes me shudder and my blood run cold - who knows what he is capable of!!

Thank you so much for updating us and I hope you are okay.

Hugs

MH x
 

tipme

Major Ratslayer
He went to Serbia for exit festival and Morocco for oasis festival I believe this because I've seen it on his Instagram we both like this music, and Turkey was a trip with his friends. I deep down feel like he's developed feelings for me because he said he doesn't want me wearing a bikini on holiday he doesn't want people looking at my body and he's gotten jealous when I've spoken about an ex boyfriend.
Tell him your going topless lol
 
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