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Plymouthgirl

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Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
There is light at the end of the tunnel. Try to do what makes you happy for now, even if nothing much does.
You could also try hypnotherapy with a professional, that may help.
‘Moreover, all the actions you are taking against these rats are good for your mood and confidence, as long as you stay far Away from him.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
You are doing really well but I have said it before and feel I need to say it again........ You need to speak to your Dr and/or counsellor, some charities offer counselling and are often much quicker to see you.

It's good you are here but we can only do so much - you need to do this for yourself and your mental wellbeing.

Hugs

MH x
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
Hi Plymouthgirl it is normal all these feelings but believe us here it will get better and there comes a time this will be in the past. I suppose you have read other stories here from other women so you must know by now that life goes on. As MH and other ladies suggested you should see a doctor or a counselor they are there for you and can help you plse take an effort on doing that. Stay strong you are doing great so far only your feelings of distress will take more time to heal. Big virtual hugs to you xxxxx
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
Just take one day at a time, it will improve. Some of your posts have been sounding more positive. Try to keep that fame of mind.
Have you contacted anyone yet for professional help? Or accepted the help that was offered to you? Please do so.
Big hugs xx
 

Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
Trying my best, but feeling completely crushed.............Their sickness and depravity is mind—altering............Trying to get enough sleep, just to survive, and trying to be optimistic, but then the crushing reality returns and I feel helpless and so very angry..............Thanks for all the words of comfort and encouragement so far, but I need more, please............
Hi hun, a traumatic experience is what you have been through and perhaps you have PSD. Please can you consider the recommendations to seek some proper council with a qualified person who can help you come to terms and take you step by step to your happy place.
It's happened and its the absolute pits however, you seem like a sensible kind individual who needs to begin to believe in yourself again and deal with then reject all this blame and anger which is crushing you.
Hope his house falls on his head and crushes him xx
 

Plymouthgirl

Inactive
Hi hun, a traumatic experience is what you have been through and perhaps you have PSD. Please can you consider the recommendations to seek some proper council with a qualified person who can help you come to terms and take you step by step to your happy place.
It's happened and its the absolute pits however, you seem like a sensible kind individual who needs to begin to believe in yourself again and deal with then reject all this blame and anger which is crushing you.
Hope his house falls on his head and crushes him xx

Thank you, Tigerpants...............
 

Lass

Major Ratslayer
Hi again @Plymouthgirl I had some bad days too recently but today I had a good day. I cooked, I watched Netflix, had a coffee with my friend, I went for a run and called my family. To some it may seem like a normal day, for me it's a great achievement, it's more than I have done in the last fortnight and I am happy and proud of myself. It's ok not to be ok. It's also fine to be bursting with pride for finding matching socks or putting a bra on. Conquer little things. Don't be harsh on yourself. Be kind to your body and soul. When you are aching for a long time though it is best to seek professional help. I recognised two weeks ago that I am back in my black hole and I asked for help. I went to see the mental health specialist and I have another appointment this week. If I wouldn't ask for professional help maybe I wouldn't be typing this comment now. So once again from the bottom of my heart I am asking you to pick up the phone and ask for that help. Thinking of you girl <3
 

Plymouthgirl

Inactive
Hi again @Plymouthgirl I had some bad days too recently but today I had a good day. I cooked, I watched Netflix, had a coffee with my friend, I went for a run and called my family. To some it may seem like a normal day, for me it's a great achievement, it's more than I have done in the last fortnight and I am happy and proud of myself. It's ok not to be ok. It's also fine to be bursting with pride for finding matching socks or putting a bra on. Conquer little things. Don't be harsh on yourself. Be kind to your body and soul. When you are aching for a long time though it is best to seek professional help. I recognised two weeks ago that I am back in my black hole and I asked for help. I went to see the mental health specialist and I have another appointment this week. If I wouldn't ask for professional help maybe I wouldn't be typing this comment now. So once again from the bottom of my heart I am asking you to pick up the phone and ask for that help. Thinking of you girl <3

Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............
 

Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............
From what I can gather @Plymouthgirl from your post you live in Tunisia? I was under the impression you were in England, maybe I misunderstood your post, apologies xx
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............
Did you ever reach out to @Going for the limit friend - if not then maybe you should arrange a coffee with her, she understands what you are going through and is near to you.

MH x
 

Croydon girl

Major Ratslayer
Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............
Just wondering, do you live in Tunisia?
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
Lets try to focus on your interests, what kind of things do you enjoy. Art, photography, do you belong to some religious group, perhaps volunteering at shelters, cooking, taking some workshop to keep mind busy in something that brings comfort.... just some ideas.
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
If this is the case there are a lot of expats groups she could have a look into and make new friends.
Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............
. I was under the impression that you live in the UK correct me if I am wrong. Life is expensive and if you don't feel it helps you maybe try online reading these links who was shared here? GFTL told you her friend who lives near you wants to have a coffee with you. Now I understand it is strange to meet somebody you don't know and talk about your experiences with the rat but I think she knows these things? Go on Plymouthgirl give it a try see what happens. Take that leap and go for it xxxx
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Thanks for the kind and encouraging words, Lass, but it’s not so easy here...............Mental health services are notoriously bad.............To be honest, I’ve given-up on all of that.............Had quite a bit in the past, didn’t teally get me anywhere, and some bad experiences too, even privately at £35 an hour..............No-one to have coffee with, and quite frankly, not a soul in the world to call..............I swear, I give up................They can go f..k themselves up their asses, the Rats...............My only hope is that the Embassy does something with this b*stard..............

See you don’t have to do anything with anyone. Why can’t you go have a coffee on your own ? Go to the movies, go to the park, take a book and go sit somewhere pleasant. We don’t need anyone. Love yourself !!!:love:
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
Hi again @Plymouthgirl I had some bad days too recently but today I had a good day. I cooked, I watched Netflix, had a coffee with my friend, I went for a run and called my family. To some it may seem like a normal day, for me it's a great achievement, it's more than I have done in the last fortnight and I am happy and proud of myself. It's ok not to be ok. It's also fine to be bursting with pride for finding matching socks or putting a bra on. Conquer little things. Don't be harsh on yourself. Be kind to your body and soul. When you are aching for a long time though it is best to seek professional help. I recognised two weeks ago that I am back in my black hole and I asked for help. I went to see the mental health specialist and I have another appointment this week. If I wouldn't ask for professional help maybe I wouldn't be typing this comment now. So once again from the bottom of my heart I am asking you to pick up the phone and ask for that help. Thinking of you girl <3
Well done, you should feel so proud of yourself! Do similar things tomorrow
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Hi again @Plymouthgirl I had some bad days too recently but today I had a good day. I cooked, I watched Netflix, had a coffee with my friend, I went for a run and called my family. To some it may seem like a normal day, for me it's a great achievement, it's more than I have done in the last fortnight and I am happy and proud of myself. It's ok not to be ok. It's also fine to be bursting with pride for finding matching socks or putting a bra on. Conquer little things. Don't be harsh on yourself. Be kind to your body and soul. When you are aching for a long time though it is best to seek professional help. I recognised two weeks ago that I am back in my black hole and I asked for help. I went to see the mental health specialist and I have another appointment this week. If I wouldn't ask for professional help maybe I wouldn't be typing this comment now. So once again from the bottom of my heart I am asking you to pick up the phone and ask for that help. Thinking of you girl <3
I am sorry Lass I didn't respond to your post. You are doing great now after a little wobble and that is normal after all you can't be happy every second of the day. I am very happy for you that you are taking small steps to recovery and that is fine to. Everybody has to seek on his own what works best for you. I hope you continue to feel good and start to live again in a way you used to live before the rat xxxx
 
I had a message today funny enough from my friend asking me about you Plymouth
As you havnt contacted her .
Not only would it be good for you
But her too
You could be a good help for each other
I don't need to know who you are
I have no interest in that
And my friend knows that too
But I do think it would be in your best interests to reach out to her
She's amazing
 
If you are not comfortable with Facebook
I can ask her to pass on her phone number for you to contact her that way
Either phone or what's app
She's a really good woman who also had a rat
He's here in the forum
And it was me who put him here on her behalf
She's empathic and also hilarious
She's the tonic you need
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
If you are not comfortable with Facebook
I can ask her to pass on her phone number for you to contact her that way
Either phone or what's app
She's a really good woman who also had a rat
He's here in the forum
And it was me who put him here on her behalf
She's empathic and also hilarious
She's the tonic you need
I hope she reach out to your friend as it seems @Plymouthgirl is not doing well and has no much contact to anybody close to her. She really needs to vent to somebody about her experience. To Plymouthgirl plse plse reach out to her and start healing you need it and you know that xxx
 
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Plymouthgirl

Inactive
I had a message today funny enough from my friend asking me about you Plymouth
As you havnt contacted her .
Not only would it be good for you
But her too
You could be a good help for each other
I don't need to know who you are
I have no interest in that
And my friend knows that too
But I do think it would be in your best interests to reach out to her
She's amazing

Thank you, GFTL.............
 
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