I met a Tunisian man on Instagram 1.5 years ago. At first, he lied about being 30, but soon said he was 23 and showed off his ID card. He is 30 years younger than me. I was shocked at first about his age, but he seemed like a nice and honest peasant. We chatted online for 4 months before I went to see him. Her cousin has an older wife with a foreigner with whom I dared to go and meet a man in Tunisia. In all its brevity, I have supported him financially, but now I have stopped it. I have visited Tunisia 3 times and spent the night in his parents ’home, but of course in different rooms. She wants to marry me, but I have made it clear that she will most likely never get a visa to Europe through me. He has put a lot of pictures of us on Facebook and instagram and uses our shared pictures in all of his profile pictures. Also in Whatsap. I would think these are his real accounts because there are a lot of relatives and friends there. So I am not the object of secrecy. He even gave me IDs for these accounts, which I then deleted because I thought it was wrong. I have found other fb and ig accounts with him, but it seems that they are not being used. We’ve been arguing a lot because I don’t think he’s genuine and that’s why he blocked him. Every time he makes new accounts to get in touch with me. I don’t see any flags other than red, but I’ve made it clear I won’t give any more money and the visa won’t come, and yet he wants to continue with me. I want your opinion. On the first trip we paid half the cost and on the second trip I paid almost alone. The last time he paid for all our expenses while we were there. The family is destitute and will have to pay for their older brother’s wedding soon as well as the house they are building right now. Opinions? I can tell you more details later.
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Welcome here @Khadija
The fact you are 30 years older than him is all you need to know that he is a rat. There is no way a tunisian family would accept an older woman they want a tunisian virgin for their son. It's cultural not acceptable he would be with a woman your age. The family allowed you to stay at their home(separated rooms but still not acceptable) is another red flag. They accepted you payed. He lied to you from the start
He tries to make you feel special because he doesn't mind you aren't giving him a visa and send no more money.
Ask yourself would you be prepared to live with him there?
Do you see yourself with a young man from 23yers old, what do you have in common, what are you going to talk about?
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Yvonne xxx
Thanks for answer. I know this all cos I'm read this site so much. Actually we have so much what we can talk, because we both like countryside, animals and history. We like listening same music and
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
Hi @Khadija welcome to the forum. This online contact started with a lie and he continued to lie to you because he is a rat. He's 30 years younger than you only a tunisian rat family would accept you as his future wife because you can't give him children. It's cultural and traditional not acceptable, genuine tunisian men don't search for older women they want a virgin. All tunisians want children so the reason he wants you is money, gifts, easy sex and a visa. He pretends he still wants you it's just a trick so you believe he is genuine and he hopes you change your mind about the visa or to keep sending money. I'm sorry if this upsets you but it's just the truth there are many women like you and fell into their trap of deceit and lies.
Please don't have no contact no more with him he will suck you back in trying to convince you he is a genuine tunisian man.
Change your settings on your social media into private so he can't see anything no more. I hope you didn't send intimate foto's to him because when you did he will try to blackmail you so be careful and don't ever give in to blackmail
When he does try again to get in touch with you just block and delete the texts without reading it. It's difficult we know but zéro contact is the best way to get rid of rats.
Read around here you are not alone you will see many stories that sounds like yours
He Don't want gifts or his family. He is not interesting nice clothes or something. They are simple country people. Actually he paid my pants what i wanted last time and first time he bought me traditional dress. Only what I bring is chocolate. I am read so much stories here. I see red flags but is something what is not like here are wrote. I give him little money at October last time when I was there. He is not ask money from me.
How can a 23year old man from Tunisia likes the same music as you?
What these men do is mimic your likes and wants in life. They pretend they like the same things as you just because you think he is interesting and you both feel the same way about it
Much ladies here where older than their tunisian "friend" but they all turned out to be a rat.
I suggest you read more about traditions and culture from Tunisia because I think you still believe he could be a genuine tunisian man but he certainly is not.
Yvonne xxx
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
I'm sorry @Khadija I think you are little naïve in how these men try to convince you they are genuine. He is 30years younger than you. Why would he want an older woman when he can have a beautiful young tunisian virgin?
You said before you supported him financially but now you say just little?
It's very simple actually if a tunisian man accepts money he is a rat. No ifs and no buts. A genuine tunisian man wouldn't do it and a tunisian woman wouldn't accept it only in a marriage it's acceptable in tunisia
If you know me in reality ,you see I'm not naive. This money thing, I'm not give so much money and I saw how his brother 's girlfriend gave money to her fiance. Like I said, things are not always so black and white. I am so much older yes, but I'm looking 15 years younger. Ofc it's not mean nothing but I want say this.
I'm so sorry this my English, it's not my own language
You can be so right in this all and I need to know more experiences. I have feel that here talk only women whoes had so bad experiences of Arabic men. Is here only Aisha who have good tunisian man ?
Oh no not again theses rats lie through there backsides
Arabic music will always be in there head and I do not know any Tunisian man that likes animals or countryside oh wait they do sheep and fields
It's mainly clubs and coffees
And never ever stay in the family home even in separate bedrooms it's still harem and frowned upon
He's playing the crafty game ur offering him money he ain't asking
And he's Deffo this one after the visa
They will never accept such a big age gap as this
They are tolerating u till he getd the visa then its bye bye hello Tunisian woman
And if he's paying half or all where u think that money is coming from it amounts to thousands off Dinas the wages are only between 400/ 800 Dinas
Think logically and remember we are all here to help you but we all been there we tell u the honest truth off these rats.
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
This website is called tunisian love rats, tunisian men who scammed foreign women to marry them. its not about great experiences with tunisian men but to out them and we here as members provide advice, help or support for women who went through abuse, rape, beatings, money stolen.....
I am 64 now and I don't look my age either but thats not the point @Khadija my rat had no problem with it. He wanted to marry me to, loved me accepted money....but the big question is why? Why would a young man want me as a wife? There's only one answer to this and it's bezness. Bezness is practiced by many north African men and they target older women.
@Aisha1 is a Lebanese woman and she is happily married to a tunisian man. She is helping foreign women here to advice and help to learn how an Arab man is and how a genuine tunisian man is.
You can search for other websites where you can find information about tunisian men but here we tell the truth.
Tunisian men who search on the internet for a woman are rats. Rats are not decent men they are scammers and I hope you are carefull
Yes I really want know truth. I know what is salaries in tunisia. He live in countryside and his family have farm and he really like his work and is good with animals. He never has been in tourist work. He hate cities like me too. It's also something what make connection to us. It's so possible he is rat but nobody don't want explain why I can see so much differences too as what you are told here. If tunisian women not give money to man if they are not married, why I saw something else? Why his family and his brother's girlfriend give me gifts and always invite us for dinner? They don't must cos not relatives. Have you this same experience when you was with your rat family?
I will be very carefull and for it I am here. Thank you your warning.
He is not mimic what I like, I can see it really if it's like this. I like new style music and some Arabic music what they listening. He have his own strong opinions in many things and not really looks he mimic me
Peacock
Major Ratslayer
Hello @Khadija
I am sorry but you gave got yourself a rat. I know you are trying to find excuses for him and don't want to believe he is a rat and trying to con you. It is difficult to have to listen to people's opinions on here.
Why do you think a 23 year old boy wants to be with a woman your age? It is not right. You are too old for him. He wants your money, your home and a visa. Him and his family are using you. His future is with a young Tunisian bride who will have his children. Young men from poor countries use older women for money. Often this money is used for their wedding to a young girl from their own country.
He has let you know the family are very poor. They need money for a wedding and to build a house. He is hoping you will offer money or this. They always need money for weddings or building, or doctors, hospitals, dentist, phones. Computers etc etc.
I am pleased you have been reading on here. Hopefully you will realise you need to move on and remove him from your life. At your time of life do you really need a boy who is so immature that he blocks you? How ridiculous is that in a relationship??
Dangerous Beans
Major Ratslayer
Is there something he dislikes that you like? Or does he like anything you like and tell you what you want to hear?
How did you discover you like the same music? The devil is in the details
How did you discover you like the same music? The devil is in the details
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
Tunisian rat families will treat you like a queen, they invite you in their house, bring you gifts, hug you, say they love you but it's all FAKE. You are an investment for them.
I am not judging you in any way but do you have children? Are you divorced? Are you Muslim?
I didn't but a friend off mine was given gifts by family anf stayed at family home
He said he loved Tunisia she went to live there with him married him paid for house to be built then his requests for visa started
His family too pressurised her too to start visa
When she said no she wanted to stay in Tunisia the family outed her and she lost everything
Don't worry the rats tactics change not always the woman pay the rat will with another woman's money
Your 30 years older than him that should ring alarm bells
Age matters in a Tunisian family
He makes out u have same interests hmmmm
When in Tunisia if your a really lot older than the rat they will laugh behind your back and talk about u in coffee
Your rat is no difference to ours they always change so not to raise suspicions
Do u think the rats don't read here off course they do
You wouldn't be in tlr if u didn't have suspicions about him !!!
Think about it before u get in too deep then it will be difficult to leave please xx
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
They always like what we do and me and my Rat had a lot to talk about all day long. I went over 3 times I always paid the fact that you went over in just 4 months wow that’s early..we all here thought ours was genuine but here we all are. I guess you are around his moms age ..I feel quite foolish now with having a relationship with someone so much younger, well we live and learn but the red flags are there
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
I think so ya see we were lied to and scammed for money . What’s he doing with other accounts? They all have many maybe to talk to other older women . They will play you in so many ways , you read here why? Because of your young Tunisian boyfriend or a gut feeling he’s a scam? Or just to read our horror stories?
Warm thanks for you all <3 I believe what you told me and I must say, i had and have very big doubts about him. Now I must start to think how I finish this. I am blocked and try to end this many times, but like your rats too, he come back always and always. He have for friends couple of western women , whoes are sent messages to me how he love me, when im tried to finish this. I think they really believe his love. I'm talking with them and now them have doubts about him too. This all is so strange. I had feel that I don't know what to believe and what thinking this all. I understand now this is only lieing and cheating. I hope I will have power to finish this last time and walk away.
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
Rats destroyed so many lives from women all over the world. They are professional scammers and will do anything to get what they want. The end goal is a visa, they want to leave tunisia.
The women of his friends have doubts? A nagging feeling something is not quite right?
They can come to this forum and we will try to help them to. We all are here to save another woman from a rat. It's the reason why Tunisian Love Rats exists.
Trying to leave your rat is difficult and it will hurt because you where in love with him. Your mind knows he is a rat but you need to convince your heart to.
You can do it just get angry at him. He is lying to your face pretending he loves you. Telling you sad stories about his life so you feel sorry for him. It's fake but I'm sure it hurts you knowing he deceived you
Stay strong @Khadija you are stronger than you think.
Just don't answer when he texts you or unblock you. Block him each time and delete it. He soon will search another victim
Thank you @Butterflies. Yes it will be difficult, I know. His cousins wife not tell never that have something strange. They have been together 6 years but she live in other country and they are not meet with husband maybe 2 years cos corona. I am wondering how marriage like it can works... I know she is help her husband really so much. She don't want think nothing bad her husband and they have big age different too. So, it's not my life. I'm wondering also why my bf not get visa from relatives cos he have them in Europe and USA. Looks that he don't need woman for visa. What can be reason?
Mine was a liar a cheater greedy demanding abusive and at times violent
One minute loving next abusive then threatening
U didn't know where u was with him from minute to minute not day to day
Mockery insults but God help u if ypu dared say anything back or say anything about him
Screaming for money threatening if I didn't give immediate sending in mg /wu he screamed like a psyco no matter where u are hospital funeral work, he even told me a few off his friends wife had mg / wu on their phones and could do it immediately to their habibi wtf
I over 7 years I paid everything but when I came the gifts gor leas and less znd one time I only brought aftershave and 2 bottles off alcohol
That 2 weeks pillows between us in bed he refused to shower (said Ihe had no new clothes) he didn't change his clothes smd blamed me for him smelling as I bought him no clothes so I slept in the single bed in the room when middle off week came he did shower and tried to make love to me I refused this was because he wanted my Dinas I had left, he fisted the doors throw my stuff all over my makeup p creams were thrown too he demanded I give him money for coffee and petrol but yet I wasn't going but he said I stopped him from making my stay special wtf
I had paid for the car/ Hotel but he took me no where in the car I stayed in hotel never going out he used it for work yes he still worked he said if I had bought him new clothes to wear he wouldn't have worked
Middle off second week I booked myself out off the hotel and booked into a 5 *
He was shocked to go back to hotel after work refused the room snd told I had booked out
I sent him message saying no man treats me this way especially a Tunisian
He was so angry said I had embarrassed him by leaving him alone
I didn't care
U refuse then or don't bring them u watch there loving turn nasty and ur alone what can u do nothing but wait till tbeve gone snd book into somewhere else
Your at risk alone in Tunisia I warn u ladies !!
One minute loving next abusive then threatening
U didn't know where u was with him from minute to minute not day to day
Mockery insults but God help u if ypu dared say anything back or say anything about him
Screaming for money threatening if I didn't give immediate sending in mg /wu he screamed like a psyco no matter where u are hospital funeral work, he even told me a few off his friends wife had mg / wu on their phones and could do it immediately to their habibi wtf
I over 7 years I paid everything but when I came the gifts gor leas and less znd one time I only brought aftershave and 2 bottles off alcohol
That 2 weeks pillows between us in bed he refused to shower (said Ihe had no new clothes) he didn't change his clothes smd blamed me for him smelling as I bought him no clothes so I slept in the single bed in the room when middle off week came he did shower and tried to make love to me I refused this was because he wanted my Dinas I had left, he fisted the doors throw my stuff all over my makeup p creams were thrown too he demanded I give him money for coffee and petrol but yet I wasn't going but he said I stopped him from making my stay special wtf
I had paid for the car/ Hotel but he took me no where in the car I stayed in hotel never going out he used it for work yes he still worked he said if I had bought him new clothes to wear he wouldn't have worked
Middle off second week I booked myself out off the hotel and booked into a 5 *
He was shocked to go back to hotel after work refused the room snd told I had booked out
I sent him message saying no man treats me this way especially a Tunisian
He was so angry said I had embarrassed him by leaving him alone
I didn't care
U refuse then or don't bring them u watch there loving turn nasty and ur alone what can u do nothing but wait till tbeve gone snd book into somewhere else
Your at risk alone in Tunisia I warn u ladies !!
I beg u all don't send money don't visit them these tunisian rats are the worst in the world
Please they will take away everything u held in value in your life
Money dignity your life your heart
No matter how beautiful u are in heart in soul they will destroy it all for money and visa then when theve screwed u up they will walk away without any remorse
U are a stepping stone only to them visa status and a big healthy bank balance with your money
Then they will return to the country they told u they hated so much
Don't be so nieve like we were they are actors scammers / liars so are the family!!!!
Please they will take away everything u held in value in your life
Money dignity your life your heart
No matter how beautiful u are in heart in soul they will destroy it all for money and visa then when theve screwed u up they will walk away without any remorse
U are a stepping stone only to them visa status and a big healthy bank balance with your money
Then they will return to the country they told u they hated so much
Don't be so nieve like we were they are actors scammers / liars so are the family!!!!
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
There are marriages that work but when the age difference is big it's almost certain it's fake from his side. Some women don't have the necessary requirements for the visa. It costs much money because the wife is the sponsor if he wants to come to her country. Being in a long distance relationship or marriage is difficult. If she is happy and doesn't want to know if he is a rat there's nothing you can do to convince her untill she is ready or have doubts.
Your rat needs a sponsor to if no one from his family is prepared to help him with a visa he will not go anywhere. Sponsorship is expensive and this can have a duration of 10 years it depends in which country. The sponsor is responsible for the person who gets the visa
Why would say one sponsor someone from another country and have to support them for 10 years thats crazy
Can I ask is this in divorce or separation that the sponsor still pays the rat ???
And what if the rat gets another woman or married again will the sponsor still pay the 10 years ???
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
It's different in each county @Moonshine and it's not paying it means you are risponsible for him and I guess if you get a divorce and he married another woman it changes? Buy I am not certain in how it all works
But we all know in Tunisia the family friends cousins all know that the rat is scamming you except you !!!! that's why they fight to be with you and the rat in coffee restaurant clubs apartments and turn up unexpectedly!!!
The rat informs them then your left with bill but I refused to pay for them
They all know your the soul payer so they want a share off the scamming proceeds
That's why u leave them Dinas u have left but they still take u to atm to draw more Dinas out
Then when your home off they go buying drinks coffees barbi for all other rats !!!
Thsts why u pay extra days for car and sometimes apartments so the rats can celebrate at your Expense !
Come on ladies open up your eyes !!!!
I did and saw the reality off the Tunisian rat scum!!
The rat informs them then your left with bill but I refused to pay for them
They all know your the soul payer so they want a share off the scamming proceeds
That's why u leave them Dinas u have left but they still take u to atm to draw more Dinas out
Then when your home off they go buying drinks coffees barbi for all other rats !!!
Thsts why u pay extra days for car and sometimes apartments so the rats can celebrate at your Expense !
Come on ladies open up your eyes !!!!
I did and saw the reality off the Tunisian rat scum!!
I think this is only in USA. In Europe person not need sponsor for visa.
U can sponsor them in England and Europe but its exspensive but the rats think they are truly worth it worth it haha realy !
