Thanks Sabrina for comment. I'm so bored this all. I want this end.Very
Very difficult but let him do it all on his own that will show you.. But it is hard keep your distance.. you’ve been warned
What thinking about this?
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Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
I’m happy you are bored with it, that tells me you are not hurt and this is what we want no ladies getting hurt, hang in there maybe he will get bored with it soon too, one can only hope anyway
Bubbly
Major Ratslayer
Or ratsThey multiply like rabbits
Hi @Aisha1 im new here so I can’t PM do you mind private messaging me if you are comfortable with it? Thanks!
Aisha1
Major Ratslayer
Yes of course you can private message me
Hi Daydream
Welcome to the forum, did you get the help you needed - are you okay?
MH x
Yes thanks!
La vie en rose
Rat Expert
Most likely sometimes they make up imaginary family members living in countries they might want to go to but they don’t by choice. Just to look like they have other options, while in reality they don’t.
Mine had the most relatives in the world true everyone was his cousin uncle auntie
And yes he did have cousins in all countries one set off cousins 4 off them had all married older western women and were living abroad 3 had divorced one was still with his woman after 12 years shows who's true
They all come back to visit with cars and splashing the cash
Except the one married 12 years he comes with wife and kids and hires a car out
U may be lucky with your rat that he's true but that's a million to one chance
Remember 90% off western/ tunisians end in divorce
85% off Tunisian marraiages end in divorce
Do u want to waste years off marraiage and financial ruin because they will never pay towards anything although u paid thousands and thousands for visits gifts engagement marraiage visa/ sponsorship.
Just beware off these circumstances they are brought up with the rule western woman pay everything Tunisian women pay nothing
And even after marraiage and being in your country they will never pay 1 penny towards anything and never buy u nothing unless its with your money.
Sex really did you say sexAnd sex is even quicker than rabbits
MH x
I blinked my eyes waiting for heaven to come and waited and waited and waited till
He said my love get ready we are going out
What I thought we were making love
He said I came 20 minutes ago 2 times it was amazing
What the boat set sail without me and i didn't feel a thing I'm in tears haha
Tigerpants
Major Ratslayer
30 years difference in age is huge and to see how your "simple country" life may look like with him look at his mother for reference.
My guys mother looked 70-80 and was in her fifties, the house was dirty and she was a stay at home wife/ mother.The father (her husband) had 4 facebook accounts with mostly young Russian females as friends, work that out for yourself?
Are you a simple country lady also because if you end up with him it sounds like that's pretty much how life will be, wouldn't be my choice , be careful x
My rats mother wad 4 years olzer than me but she look
Rats mother was 4 years older than me,she looked like 75.Always wearing the same chlothes,dirty,his father was maybe 80 or more,i dont remember exactly.Wearing the same dirty clothes day after day,and belive me or not he did not change chothes before our wedding
They are not the cleanest I too saw family members wearing same clothes day after day I felt not good about this They had a brand new washing machine in the hote I washed by hands snd hung our to drip dry or apartment I washed with the machine there's simply no excuse to be like this perfume deodorant shower gel is cheap in Tunisia it's laziness and sometimes they wear the same clothes for bed then get up and wear them fir day wear men women and children the standards off hygiene is to be desired I swear the South Africans are poorer and more hygienic than the North Africans
I can't get my head around this
In my next town I was yanking to a homeless woman she pays 65p for baby wipes and cleans herself everyday in toilets and she stays in hostekv1 night a week where she washes her clothes for week
So come on its not on when they are so unhygienic no excuses if they are desperate which they are not use the dam sea !!!!
I remember,me too washed the chlothes by hand,they had a washmashine down in their house ,but i was not allowed to use it.Maybe it cost too much if i used it...lol
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
Now I have to say mine washed a few things of ours by hand and hung them to dry when we were staying in the apartment
Hi everything is fine. I still talk with him sometimes. I read these your comments about your men parents and home... There his home is always clean. His mother is clean woman and keep home clean. She have laundry machine and she wash always my laundry too. His father not have Facebook really and his mother is of cours wife and mother but very strong woman also. She knows her valuue and looks She is happy with her husband . Their hygienic is different as here in Europe, it's truth but still I can't think they are dirty. When they go to city or visit, they change better clothes. This your stories sounds strange for me.
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
I guess just different styles of people.. I know mine didn’t have a good shower in his grandfathers house and they would go to I guess community shower where they had hot water like once a week but now thanks to the big rat brother scamming lady out of money for business (bs) he built on to the house now the mom finally has a kitchen she is able to cook in and a bathroom they can shower in and the lady is out of thousands of dollars
Bubbly
Major Ratslayer
Yeah the washing machine is just to show off to the neighbours but they hardly see any use for it. My rat also hated washing machines.
They didn't have kitchen there? His mother have kitchen, not modern but have oven and fridge. Their bathroom is not ready and not still have shower but they make always warm water and can wash themselves. His mom asked me do I want warm water for wash myself. She is very kind for me. It's nice help her in kitchen and learn how they Cook. For me everything is little old fashion but I can survive. When I was child, my home not had shower and fine kitchen ,it's not so unusual for me.
Butterflies
Major Ratslayer
Hi @Khadija are you planning to go see him again this summer? I hope you don't send money to him because in previous posts you said his brother is getting married.
Aren't you worried about the age difference between you and him? I know it's difficult to take distance from him but my experience was it was always in the back of my mind the age gap was to big with me and my rat.
I'm still not planning nothing. He and his family wait me there ofc. I'm not send money and he didn't ask. This age between us come my mind, it's natural. In fact, it doesn’t show up anywhere. I'm very sportive and we like do things in nature and farm.
You would not be in here of I you ddn't have doubts
Act on your gut feelings
They will be so nice so lovely but some don't show true colours till they have visa and are a few years into marriage
Some straight away some years later be warned about this snd the parents can act extremely kind snd loving but I 2ait till u step a foot wrong or visa denied
Just warning u yo be careful
Don't give your financial details away or privacy they will use it against u later
B3 careful be wise
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
So he’s a country fellow keep him that way do not share any city information or definitely no money this will change anyone in a heartbeat you may have things in common now but I would be so afraid the moment you went to stay things would get so different!!
Thank you for your adwises. We are visiting so much his relatives. They are usual kind and ofc interesting me and my country. I'm never give my financial details or something private for nobody and he not asked ever nothing. He knows very well that is possible he can't have never visa to my country cos our age difference. His cousins wife is older too and they didn't accept his visa to wife's country but they are still together.
Yes he is really country follow. He don't like cities or night life. His some friends goes hotel in Hammamet and everything but he is not interesting this. Not smoke or drink so much alcohol. For this I like him. I'm not drink or smoke too. Everything will be change cos I come older and older. He can't understand it because just now im still looking so much younger but it will change and he is still young... He don't want now children but I believe his mind will change. I know couple who have big age difference and they are happy together. Happiness in this world is so rare. Sometimes I think maybe it would be better have little piece of Happiness as be all life like dead ..
Sabrina
Major Ratslayer
Well he certainly seems different.. what brought you here? Good that he does not like the fast life night life! Nothing wrong with a good ol country fellow. Hopefully he will not want children, most of them do for some odd reason! It’s hard these days to bring up a child, well anyway good luck with whatever comes about
I came here cos I read so much these love rats and I saw red flags. He looks a good guy and I see in him so much good. He is young but sometimes I think he is older as me. He is stubborn and difficult sometimes but he treat me good. I don't know really what think about this all. Most big problem between us is age.
