Very true. It’s the quality of what you have rather than what you do have. Think of all the people in loveless marriages, or women suspecting their husbands are having affairs... relationships can be miserable. I remember constantly second guessing everything, asking myself why he’s treating me like this.. is it because of x y z... it drives you mad and lowers your self esteem. Couldn’t imagine living together. Spending time alone allows you to define yourself, instead of relying on others to define you. I think people that constantly need to be in a relationship often have poor self image or they’re not happy with themselves.
There are other ways to connect with men if need be, like friendship and companionship. But yes marriage is a big step and there needs to be the fundamentals of trust and respect. Your vision in life should be the same or similar. Men don’t love in the same ways that we do. It should never be rushed into just to suit society. That causes so many generational problems.
Think of all the abused women and men who stayed in these marriages if the abused partner leaves its like they leave with the possibility of living their lives in danger, if they do stay its perpetual hell.
It does lower your self-esteem to be constantly ridiculed by a ungrateful cheating rat.
Its all about the rat's image never mind how they act/behave like bunch of cheaters, liars and scammers.
I would rather be alone than just to say to the world I can get someone.
I was in pertpetual hell with the rat, I had reached my limit long time ago.
The fight wasn't fair was it?
Not only did I have my sibling to look after, my mother as well and I have an autistic son to deal with
and I was trying to keep that going and doing everything else by myself.
The rat wasn't there when my life was falling apart, my son had and still has melt downs it kind of hard to
see the rat in a good light when its all on me.
Then I was taking on all the burdens, when I seen the rat for who he really was
it was like a burden fell off my shoulders.
then to fight with the exes of the rat
normally a real man would cut off all ties to the past , that there wasn't right at all.
And the way I look at it if I have to be the only one fighting than I might as well do it for my son.
Because a rat isn't worth the struggle of losing everything for nothing.
See what a dirtybag rat is all about?
They don't care what you go through, or what you invested into it, they are just needy and demanding they
will take everything even the shirt off your back!
The rat knew exactly what he was doing and what he intended to do, he just played my troubles off like it was nothing and only saw himself
in the equation.