Yes those stages have to be hard to go thru I was always so scared that I would wake up one day and think ok I don’t think I love you any more.. then what? It’s not like just being in a relationship where you just leave . Marriage takes two at all times working. And @Butterflies good for you! Your way out the highway!!!! I’m sure he regrets Cheating and this drove you to the rat (AWFUL).. I’m happy for you that those days are over! Now just look forward but I know marriage can be very hard. Full time job for both for it to workBeing married isn't always happy days, it's hard work to go through all the stages in life and stand by each other but as al of you maybe remember I found out my husband cheated on me, we separated and I was online involved with my rat. After this online rat encounter my husband and I got back together but now on my terms. It's my way or the highway there will be no man no more who will tell me what I can do or not. It's a fine line between us now but with respect as we know how fast it all goes down the drain if we don't put an effort into it.