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Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
I’ve heard them talk about that, they hate the new way.
THere was such a panic because most Tunisian living here in the uk only had EU passports and the government gave them a date line to apply for British citenzenship , I don’t know what happened frankly I don’t care, they took advantage of the system and they thought they could stay here for as long as they wanted with EU passports only , bad judgement
LOL
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
THere was such a panic because most Tunisian living here in the uk only had EU passports and the government gave them a date line to apply for British citenzenship , I don’t know what happened frankly I don’t care, they took advantage of the system and they thought they could stay here for as long as they wanted with EU passports only , bad judgement
LOL
Hopefully they are tripping over their little ratty feet and kicked out of the UK :D
 

Starlight

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
Mine didn’t do me damages besides a few years lost and money gone! But you are right some of these rats leave scars on women that takes forever to get rid of! You see how vile and mean they can be from the little post I posted of mine ! If I had of stayed with him he might have shown his very abusive side but no thanks. Good you walked away when you did
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
I'm so sorry @Starlight you are going through rough times now, reliving all the memories and bad things you experienced with him it leaves a scar for the rest of your life. You stayed so long with him because you loved him even when he treated you bad. His demanding ways in the screenshots you shared with us here gives us an impression on how he treated you. He is vile and doesn't deserve you and yes in a way covid safed you from going to him again and again. You broke free from him now and it's an amazing moment but I understand it takes time for you to heal. We are here for you @Starlight if you need a chat my pm is open if you want that. Hugs to you xxxx
 

confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
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This is the kind of abuse I just witnessed after telling I wasn’t going to send his requested amount .. he makes up something about me and some other moron from Tunisia
See sometimes you do give them the benefit of the doubt, you think hmm maybe they’ve seen the errors of their ways this time, or turned over a new leaf... being apart for months.. years... lol NOPE it’s more of the same... well actually it’s usually worse. Because their venom and resentment grows even bigger from where you’ve left them or failed to comply. They never change, ever! What a cheeky b***ard!
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
See sometimes you do give them the benefit of the doubt, you think hmm maybe they’ve seen the errors of their ways this time, or turned over a new leaf... being apart for months.. years... lol NOPE it’s more of the same... well actually it’s usually worse. Because their venom and resentment grows even bigger from where you’ve left them or failed to comply. They never change, ever! What a cheeky b***ard!
Just the rat in them they really come at you with all this crap about changing, I really wasn’t interested so we talked I kinda played an expensive game on my part but it was worth it I gave him ONE LAST CHANCE and sure enough he blew it (thank goodness) I really feel free this time! I’m sure he can tell I was serious because the feeling just wasn’t there, the way I treated him this time.. it’s like I had rules he didn’t follow them so he OUT:) no more games no more contact! I’m sure he had his own game too I’m no fool but hopefully he will not attempt to try again!!!! It will be a waste of time or breath!
 

Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
Hey Starlight, it's a bad day and you will have them hopefully less and less often.
Stay strong - he's gone x
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
@Starlight, I’m so sorry you had a bad day yesterday. How are you today? This is so normal to be angry after all the bad treatments and betrayals. You think it’ll be forever in your head but I hope not. It’s hard to forget completely but with time, it will start to fade gradually and the anger will be less because life takes over and things of the past have less and less importance with the days passing. You’re such a beautiful soul. I say that because even though you carry so much pain in you, you keep supporting other women relentlessly. You’re a fighter and you love others and I wish so much you will find peace. This rat is a nothing, his situation seems to be worse now as it used to be. Mean to say, but serves him right. I read before this expression “evil won’t prevail” and I hope it applies to all these wrongdoers who prey on innocent people. He’s a loser digging himself deeper and deeper in misery and despair and meanwhile you’re shining always brighter. Starlight is perfect name for you. I hope you can realize how beautiful a person you are and see your strength and I hope you find solace and real comfort and keep enjoying your life as a free and savvy woman who will take no junk from no one.,I admire you because you still remained kind after all you went through. People around you are lucky to have you in their life, Starlight. I hope this makes sense. It’s not easy for me in English to express some feelings. Simply said, I just want to say that I know, I can tell you’re a wonderful person and one of a kind. Many hugs and have a good rest of the week.
 
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Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
@Starlight, I’m so sorry you had a bad day yesterday. How are you today? This is so normal to be angry after all the bad treatments and betrayals. You think it’ll be forever in your head but I hope not. It’s hard to forget completely but with time, it will start to fade gradually and the anger will be less because life takes over and things of the past have less and less importance with time. You’re such a beautiful soul. I say that because even though you carry so much pain in you, you keep supporting there’s relentlessly. You’re a fighter and you love others and I wish so much you will find peace. This rat is a nothing, his situation seems to be worse now as it used to be. Mean to say, but serves him right. I read before this expression “evil won’t prevail” and I hope it applies to all these wrongdoers who prey on innocent people., He’s a loser and Meanwhile you’re shining always brighter. Starlight is perfect name for you. I hope you can realize how beautiful a person you are and see your strength and I hope you find peace and keep enjoying your life as a free and savvy woman who will take no junk from no one.,I admire you because you still remained kind after all you went through. People around you are lucky to have you in their life, Starlight. I hope this makes sense. It’s not easy for me in English to express some feelings. Simply said, I just want to say that I know, I can tell you’re a wonderful person and one of a kind. Many hugs and have a good rest of the week.
I bloody love this times 1000 times plus :cool: @SouthernGirl you always write it so well and your help is 100% .You know that there is and it absolutely should be the whole ethos of this site.

I have met via here some of the most tortured, curious, doubting,AMAZING, funny and injured to name but a few , mostly women and all the best helpers , I'm a bit proud to be in this and helping in small ways .
I think sometimes because we are screaming at the screen Noooooooo that I for one come off as harsh , sorry x
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
I bloody love this times 1000 times plus :cool: @SouthernGirl you always write it so well and your help is 100% .You know that there is and it absolutely should be the whole ethos of this site.

I have met via here some of the most tortured, curious, doubting,AMAZING, funny and injured to name but a few , mostly women and all the best helpers , I'm a bit proud to be in this and helping in small ways .
I think sometimes because we are screaming at the screen Noooooooo that I for one come off as harsh , sorry x
Oh, thank you for these nice words, @Tigerpants. It means a lot to me.
I share your views about all these great women on here who suffered a great deal, still have scars and yet stand tall and want other women to heal and win. I learned a lot from their example and still do.
I have so much repulsion and wrath for the men who hurt them and I only wish there could be a magic button to erase all the sorrows and anger the victims endure and have to live with daily. It’s so unfair and it pisses me off.

And no, I never saw any of your posts as harsh. I like your no nonsense approach, you say things as they are, and still with compassion and understanding. That’s good and reassuring when you know someone always means what she says and you’re helping in more than small ways.

I hope you stick around. I miss some great ladies who stopped coming. I’m thinking particularly of @simple who was absolutely awesome. I don’t blame them, of course not, I just miss them and I hope they are doing great. Anyway, if any lady here is in contact with Simple, please tell her hi and send her hugs. We love her.
Thank you again for your post, Tigerpants. You’re a beautiful person and I hope you know it!
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
@Starlight, I’m so sorry you had a bad day yesterday. How are you today? This is so normal to be angry after all the bad treatments and betrayals. You think it’ll be forever in your head but I hope not. It’s hard to forget completely but with time, it will start to fade gradually and the anger will be less because life takes over and things of the past have less and less importance with the days passing. You’re such a beautiful soul. I say that because even though you carry so much pain in you, you keep supporting other women relentlessly. You’re a fighter and you love others and I wish so much you will find peace. This rat is a nothing, his situation seems to be worse now as it used to be. Mean to say, but serves him right. I read before this expression “evil won’t prevail” and I hope it applies to all these wrongdoers who prey on innocent people. He’s a loser digging himself deeper and deeper in misery and despair and meanwhile you’re shining always brighter. Starlight is perfect name for you. I hope you can realize how beautiful a person you are and see your strength and I hope you find solace and real comfort and keep enjoying your life as a free and savvy woman who will take no junk from no one.,I admire you because you still remained kind after all you went through. People around you are lucky to have you in their life, Starlight. I hope this makes sense. It’s not easy for me in English to express some feelings. Simply said, I just want to say that I know, I can tell you’re a wonderful person and one of a kind. Many hugs and have a good rest of the week.
Southern Girl you express yourself better in English than most of us English people on here!! You always hit the nail right on the head. You speak so much sense and manage to put into words what others think, but you do it so well. I always forget that you aren't a native English speaker!!
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
I bloody love this times 1000 times plus :cool: @SouthernGirl you always write it so well and your help is 100% .You know that there is and it absolutely should be the whole ethos of this site.

I have met via here some of the most tortured, curious, doubting,AMAZING, funny and injured to name but a few , mostly women and all the best helpers , I'm a bit proud to be in this and helping in small ways .
I think sometimes because we are screaming at the screen Noooooooo that I for one come off as harsh , sorry x
You don't come across as harsh. You say it as it is in an honest way. In real life I am much more blunt than I am on here. I often want to screech at people on here but manage to control myself lol
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Southern Girl you express yourself better in English than most of us English people on here!! You always hit the nail right on the head. You speak so much sense and manage to put into words what others think, but you do it so well. I always forget that you aren't a native English speaker!!
Thank you, @Peacock, and right back at you.
Thank you also for saying my posts are easily readable. It makes me feel better because truth is I often have to edit them, and sometimes several times, because I see all the grammatical mistakes I made lol. I’d like to think I express myself better in my native language but then when I go back to my country, people correct me because I use English figures of speech that make no sense in French or I use words in the incorrect order. I can’t speak or write perfectly in neither language now ;)
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
Please no one knows what each have been through how we realy feel what our rats really did to our inner self or too us as a woman
I cant stop thinking off a few particular things he did
But they get less each day
Hes really needs help off some kind before I cant write it I fuckimg cant
Hes a mad man I cant undetstand he never hit me he never raised his hands to me
But ???
I have to take a break
I really am trying to tell someone but I cant
I wish with all my hearts that theae fuckimg rats never existed i wish i could turn back the time and walked away all those years ago my heart will never let me trust another man, tne iilusion we get are off a kind loveing man that loves u but years later they turn into a diffrent person controling violent abuseive and u never know what lies beneath these exploding rats
They are like a time bomb waiting to go off when they do i hope u all are a million miles away
I wasn't there when it happened if I was maybe i would never have left tunisia
But i heard i saw it all on call and cam
It will forever be at the back off my thoughts
Just i.pray to god to thank him for tunisia being in the red
And making me come to my senses
Please walk away the rats are not worth a second off your life !!!
@Starlight, I often have thought of doing a collage and just plastering all the nasty things the rat did and said. What I show on here is just a small part of what happened! I could even write a book about it, I have healed from a really abusive relationship with my ex-rat now I am starting to open up again and give it a go with someone else who is so much better for me.
We sacrificed too much for nothing for these rats, its time to give ourselves back that love.
we can't change the past or what the rat did or said
They will never give us closure and its a torment to relive it everyday.
These rats are in another reality where only they exist, fancy having to cater to a grown man who won't do for himself.
Its a no-win situation for the victim, I have so much evidence, when the rat said he was never cheating a long time
ago I had so much to say the rat did and still continues being a cheat, liar and scammer.
The rat fought against me on everything, imagine what the rats would do if we let them just do whatever.
No, that will never happen!
The rat thinks he was quite clever pulling the wool over my eyes.
And always will do the same over and over and expect different results with other victims.
Just a lost cause these rats!
 
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Starlight

Major Ratslayer
@Starlight, I often have thought of doing a collage and just plastering all the nasty things the rat did and said. What I show on here is just a small part of what happened! I could even write a book about it, I have healed from a really abusive relationship with my ex-rat now I am starting to open up again and give it a go with someone else who is so much better for me.
We sacrificed too much for nothing for these rats, its time to give ourselves back that love.
we can't change the past or what the rat did or said
They will never give us closure and its a torment to relive it everyday.
These rats are in another reality where only they exist, fancy having to cater to a grown man who won't do for himself.
Its a no-win situation for the victim, I have so much evidence, when the rat said he was never cheating a long time
ago I had so much to say the rat did and still continues being a cheat, liar and scammer.
The rat fought against me on everything, imagine what the rats would do if we let them just do whatever.
No, that will never happen!
The rat thinks he was quite clever pulling the wool over my eyes.
And always will do the same over and over and expect different results with other victims.
Just a lost cause these rats!
He was truly vile calculating manipulater cold no feelings no heart it was like our relationship only revolved around him
He got the attention with the car i paid for he got the attention with the apartment I paid for
At coffee hid friends came to the table gave him more attention and ordered off the menu i didn't pay i was furious tjey put it on my bill
They got attention when i said la to hlis friends
They looked dosgusted at me i didn't care u order u pay !!!
He just enjoyed attention for himself!!!!
He was vile with his words to mr !!
On cam he would be scrraming at me ,his friends passed hed stop smile laught with the friend them turn back to me and continued his screaming and vile words
I ended up cutting the cam !!!
Then I got nasty voice message screaming like a idiot !!!
That was enough day after day it continued eve. When I booked the flights it con9
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
It continued till i got to tunisoa them stopped until i was due to go home it was a vicious circle !!!!!!
my experience was even when I got home I was bombarded and harassed, it takes having to separate myself
and block just to get any peace in my life
Countless messages from the rat, video messaging calls every minute until the rat gave out then I would
block and get them from another fake profile of the rats. Just the constant control from the rat
made me not want to do anything. The rat can say anything he wants on his own social media
twist the truth to make himself look better but he will never be able to bother me again
and so its so much better this way. I will never allow someone to have that much of me again.
Your ex-rat sounds violent, a lot of the rats have mental issues that are untreated.
Whatever happens to the rats is of their own doing, its no one else's problem but theirs!
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
@Starlight, I often have thought of doing a collage and just plastering all the nasty things the rat did and said. What I show on here is just a small part of what happened! I could even write a book about it, I have healed from a really abusive relationship with my ex-rat now I am starting to open up again and give it a go with someone else who is so much better for me.
We sacrificed too much for nothing for these rats, its time to give ourselves back that love.
we can't change the past or what the rat did or said
They will never give us closure and its a torment to relive it everyday.
These rats are in another reality where only they exist, fancy having to cater to a grown man who won't do for himself.
Its a no-win situation for the victim, I have so much evidence, when the rat said he was never cheating a long time
ago I had so much to say the rat did and still continues being a cheat, liar and scammer.
The rat fought against me on everything, imagine what the rats would do if we let them just do whatever.
No, that will never happen!
The rat thinks he was quite clever pulling the wool over my eyes.
And always will do the same over and over and expect different results with other victims.
Just a lost cause these rats!
It's time to let go of the past @yougogirl75. Print all the evidence foto's or other things you have and set it on fire in your garden (or a garden from a friend). Burn your past and let it fly away in the air. Write all your experiences with him on a piece of paper, the good and the bad and set fire in it. Or put it through a paper shredder. Delete it all from your computer or smartphone, tablet...... Start enjoying day to day life again. Hugs to you xxxx
 

Starlight

Major Ratslayer
my experience was even when I got home I was bombarded and harassed, it takes having to separate myself
and block just to get any peace in my life
Countless messages from the rat, video messaging calls every minute until the rat gave out then I would
block and get them from another fake profile of the rats. Just the constant control from the rat
made me not want to do anything. The rat can say anything he wants on his own social media
twist the truth to make himself look better but he will never be able to bother me again
and so its so much better this way. I will never allow someone to have that much of me again.
Your ex-rat sounds violent, a lot of the rats have mental issues that are untreated.
Whatever happens to the rats is of their own doing, its no one else's problem but theirs!
He never hit me neve didn't even raise his hands to me he accidently hit me once but never apologised said i shouldn't have got in the way wasnt even sorry but his mental auise was torture absoultly a nightmare!!!!!
 

yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
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I have been there and know how a rat can destroy a victim.
Please to the women who are thinking of meeting or are travelling to meet these rats in Tunisia, it will be the most expensive and heartbreaking lesson you will ever learn.
Sometimes they can wait years before a rat's mask will come off!
Please think twice, love should never mean you sacrifice everything for a no good rat in Tunisia.
 
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yougogirl75

Major Ratslayer
It's time to let go of the past @yougogirl75. Print all the evidence foto's or other things you have and set it on fire in your garden (or a garden from a friend). Burn your past and let it fly away in the air. Write all your experiences with him on a piece of paper, the good and the bad and set fire in it. Or put it through a paper shredder. Delete it all from your computer or smartphone, tablet...... Start enjoying day to day life again. Hugs to you xxxx
I did exactly that, I am healed and over the rat.
In my world he doesn't exist, never had any help from the rat's side anyways.
So I feel nothing, maybe you call it being numb but I call it being cleansed from the toxicity of the rat
and I think logically now.
Of course I will always love those in my family, but I am not about pleasing people
and allowing people to treat me like a doormat like the ex-rat.
The rat will forever be unnamed,no one talks about the rat or even mentions the name in my home.
So its very healing to let it all go.
I only want to help others on here, to support them and help them see the red flags when dealing with a rat.
 
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