You are judged even after ending with rat

[Astarisborn]

I was thinking how people saw me in different eyes, as if the punishment of being with a rat having to start over and pick up the pieces of your life again
the judgement of you as a woman, all fingers pointed at you no one will ever forget your mistake with the rat.
I admit I made a mistake, but I should never have to pay for it over and over for the rest of my life after all the rat did that enough
after I left the rat bastard!
Getting told "no one will ever marry you" as if I am damaged goods because of the rat, and as far as I am concerned I
am far superior in every way, let me tell you the low life who said this and you have to shake your head and just wonder
how low people can go to break you!
These rats are conniving devils no one outside of our understanding of rats will ever know the pain
and deception they do!
Unless it happens to them it's different, but others say it will never happen to them Haha
even the best, educated, youngest and most beautiful of us can be deceived!

 

[Fleur1]

I was thinking how people saw me in different eyes, as if the punishment of being with a rat having to start over and pick up the pieces of your life again
the judgement of you as a woman, all fingers pointed at you no one will ever forget your mistake with the rat.
I admit I made a mistake, but I should never have to pay for it over and over for the rest of my life after all the rat did that enough
after I left the rat bastard!
Getting told "no one will ever marry you" as if I am damaged goods because of the rat, and as far as I am concerned I
am far superior in every way, let me tell you the low life who said this and you have to shake your head and just wonder
how low people can go to break you!
These rats are conniving devils no one outside of our understanding of rats will ever know the pain
and deception they do!
Unless it happens to them it's different, but others say it will never happen to them Haha
even the best, educated, youngest and most beautiful of us can be deceived!

People who haven’t been through it cannot begin to appreciate the scale and depth of its’ devastation on our lives; obviously some have been through worse experiences than others with the Rats, but nevertheless, anyone who has had any contact or dealings with one of them for any amount of time will probably never forget about it………….This is abuse of all types of terrible kinds on a huge scale, but sadly, as with all of the types of abuse that have gone on in the world, those who have not suffered it, cannot possibly imagine the impact of it…………..

 

[Astarisborn]

People who haven’t been through it cannot begin to appreciate the scale and depth of its’ devastation on our lives; obviously some have been through worse experiences than others with the Rats, but nevertheless, anyone who has had any contact or dealings with one of them for any amount of time will probably never forget about it………….This is abuse of all types of terrible kinds on a huge scale, but sadly, as with all of the types of abuse that have gone on in the world, those who have not suffered it, cannot possibly imagine the impact of it…………..

but the worst judgements are from your own family members who never let you live it down
sorry but I have better friends than family
I would do anything for my family and have made many sacrifices but those low blows
from them are the worst
rather live without those snakes, meanwhile the rat gets all the support and comfort from his family and friends
so, a victim loses more than just money, its everything else you lose too that goes along with it

 

[Astarisborn]

sorry for my rant felt like I was getting bombarded by both sides from the rat's side and mine
it's no wonder I never ended up in the psychiatric ward because of it meanwhile
I had to deal with my mother's and brother's death and still had to deal with the bs from the snakes
and rat at the same time
I am ok now; I want to thank the rat though for showing me his true colors before it could of
got worse, and thanks to the family that showed me their true colors, I live a much peaceful
life knowing who to stay away from!

 

[Fleur1]

but the worst judgements are from your own family members who never let you live it down
sorry but I have better friends than family
I would do anything for my family and have made many sacrifices but those low blows
from them are the worst
rather live without those snakes, meanwhile the rat gets all the support and comfort from his family and friends
so, a victim loses more than just money, its everything else you lose too that goes along with it

100%…………

 

[Fleur1]

sorry for my rant felt like I was getting bombarded by both sides from the rat's side and mine
it's no wonder I never ended up in the psychiatric ward because of it meanwhile
I had to deal with my mother's and brother's death and still had to deal with the bs from the snakes
and rat at the same time
I am ok now; I want to thank the rat though for showing me his true colors before it could of
got worse, and thanks to the family that showed me their true colors, I live a much peaceful
life knowing who to stay away from!

So sorry you went through all that………….

 

[Astarisborn]

And does anyone on here relate to my true story, I am not afraid to tell my truth
what about the brave few of you on here anything to share?

 

[Moonshine]

And does anyone on here relate to my true story, I am not afraid to tell my truth
what about the brave few of you on here anything to share?

Yes I have
To share my experience made me look foolish to some members off my family
And I agree the rats get sympathy from family friends cousins
Do u want to know why the lies they say about you to make them look the victim !
Your crazy your a liar your a bad woman
Wait a fucking minute I was the one who sent u money u fucking demanded threatened for years even though some off that time you worked
Who paid for everything me you didn't even pay for ####### coffee
Who demanded new phones clothes trainers you ratscum YOU !!!
Who was there for u 24/7 when u needed someone it was always me
Who said my money was ours but when u worked your money was yours YOU !!!
Did u buy me anything NO
did you pay for anything NO
When I needed u when I lost something precious was u there yes demanding money from my hospital bed !!!! And cheating on that day !!!!
When my aunt died outside the crematourium who was screaming at me for fucking money YOU !!!
DID you ever think when u mentally abused me how this would truly hurt me
NO YOU DIDNT!!!!!
Did u ever think one time about me yea when u wanted something !!!
Did u love bomb me put love hearts to photos tag me in things a FEW days before 1 came YES
What was your game because u played well
But in the end YOU FUCKING LOST NOT ME !!!!!!!!!!
But before that NO !!!!

 

[Butterflies]

but the worst judgements are from your own family members who never let you live it down
sorry but I have better friends than family
I would do anything for my family and have made many sacrifices but those low blows
from them are the worst
rather live without those snakes, meanwhile the rat gets all the support and comfort from his family and friends
so, a victim loses more than just money, its everything else you lose too that goes along with it

You are judged because you where so stupid to fall for a man who everybody clearly saw he was up to no good and it was obvious it was a scam and nobody else but you would fall for it. Blah blah blah, I heard it all, I hear it still now, every now and again on family gatherings I hear them whisper about me. I lost my precious granddaughter because of the rat, the foster son still denies any contact with her. But apparently it's my fault and not the scammer who blackmailed me.
But you know what @yougogirl75 hold your head up high. These people don't know what they are talking about, they didn't went through it. Most of them never heard about bezness so they need to shut up and mind their own business. Getting older means also getting wiser (I think lol ) so I have zero patience no more with people who talk behind my back or laugh with what happened, I simply choose to not be around them no more.
You deserve a new life and at some point in life you gather all your courage and remove the people from your life who don't treat you with respect.

 

[MH007]

You have come such a long way @yougogirl75

It breaks my heart when I hear about the judgements that some get from family and friends, those that have no support whatsoever away from TLR.

We didn't know better, we were not 'stupid' and it has taken a long time to understand that the ONLY person to blame is the scummy rat!

The bravery that you members show everyday is incredible - it isn't easy to share our experiences but it helps such a lot of people and will continue to help others realise that they are not alone and they are NOT stupid.

Hugs to everyone

MH x

 

[Astarisborn]

You have come such a long way @yougogirl75

It breaks my heart when I hear about the judgements that some get from family and friends, those that have no support whatsoever away from TLR.

We didn't know better, we were not 'stupid' and it has taken a long time to understand that the ONLY person to blame is the scummy rat!

The bravery that you members show everyday is incredible - it isn't easy to share our experiences but it helps such a lot of people and will continue to help others realise that they are not alone and they are NOT stupid.

Hugs to everyone

MH x

yes, I have come a long way
I have been unjustly persecuted by some in this family if you want to call them a family, being told no one will marry me except for rat like I had
for the visa, it is done on purpose to wound my self-esteem and re-victimize me like the rat did!
It is usually from crappy people who you do the best for, but they have no gratitude, they are the same with others
as well so I wasn't surprised to hear this from this weak and poor character of this person.
I have way more than this person will ever have, I am just sorry I wasted my time on these people and their
crappy opinions of me
I am used to it unfortunately, and my inner strength is strong, so nothing breaks me anymore
I have boundaries and if anyone disrespects them, I cut them off plain and simple